idk me and my girlfriend have tried to have sex...im 17...theres nothing wrong with my penis size...i play football and i can walk into a shower room without being embarrassed...but when sex comes around im really hard in the beginning and soon as we get to taking clothes off...goes down...im not nervous/anxious....no ive known her forever and ive slept with my clothes off around her...but we do try tatics that d get me hard for a little bit but i havent tried putting it in....also i get soft when putting on a condom....any help or information ?
2007-09-06 12:30:43 · 19 answers · asked by awesome 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
at 17 your labido should be going about a mile a minute. You shouldn't be worried but you might consider that your problem might be physical or pshychological. You mention you play a lot of football so fatigue might be an issue. what gets an erection is an increase in blood flow to that area. maintaining an erection means maintianing blood flow and heart rate. i hate to make it sound like a work out but it kind of works, keep your focus. mentally you might be psyching yourself out. the same way some guys have to thing about baseball to keep from cuming too fast some guys need to concentrate to keep themselves in the mood. I guess it comes down to discapline. if your girl friend is up to it dedicate some time to this and if I can sound like a broken record for a second remember to use protection!! some guys think using a condom effects thier performance but if you use the right kind of condom it won't be an issue. not using one isn't worth the risk.
2007-09-06 12:47:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that when you get to that point, you realize that it's a lot more responsibility than you thought it would be regardless of how horny you are. This is normal, and I think you should listen to what your subconscious is telling you through this. Having sex isn't proof of anything, let alone that you're a man. If she DEMANDS that you perform in order to prove your feelings for her, ummmm, that might be why you can't. I've noticed that in myself, that when I have serious doubts about what I'm getting into my body says no. I really don't see anything wrong with that. It's nice to have that kind of failsafe watching over you from within you.
Back off, don't treat sex as a mission, admit to her that you're a bit shy about this (that is the case), and take things a bit slower. Sex is how adults play, not an athletic performance. You need to enjoy it 100%+ or it isn't worth it. It takes time to get to that point. There's a reason that married couples report having better sex than singles. Don't fight it. You don't have to do all of this at once. Take it eeeeeeasy. Pet her and love her. Remember that there are a lot of people out there that have no one to do even that to.
2007-09-06 13:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you don't look at her as an easy lay, but feel a large amount of respect for her.
You may also realize that if you get her pregnant, she might have one miserable time dealing with it.
Don't be ashamed. be proud. Being a real man involves a lot more than just being able to get a hardon.
2007-09-06 12:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by TedEx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is anxiety. Just lay together for a while without any intentions of having intercourse, just petting and foreplay. Once you really stop thinking about it, that's when it will happen. Once that happens you'll be at it like a couple of rabbits.
2007-09-06 12:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by grouch2111 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably never got it in anywhere El's and your having difficulty's experiencing sex as a good normal behavior,your mind might not be ready yet.
2007-09-06 12:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by Sorry deleted 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first, practice kegels to get more control of your penis. also, lots of men find the clumsiness of putting on a condom ruin their erection. i assume you have been masturbating successfully on your own for some time now. next time you give yourself a little luvin', try stopping briefly (about the time it takes to put on a condom) and see if you can maintain your erection. perhaps just the pressure of performing on command is too much. also, practice putting on a condom properly and quickly. this will eliminate any awkward fumbling around. the other thing to try is keeping the sexual contact going while you put on the condom to keep you arouse. even better, show your girl how to properly put it on, and have her do it. the idea of her hands on your junk will be exciting enough.
2007-09-06 12:38:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-14 19:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its probably the last thing you want to hear, but going to the doctor wouldn't be a bad idea. They'll be able to tell you if its psychical or psychological. And they're used to it, they see things like that all the time, I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-09-06 12:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by AliJDB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy some Horny Goat Weed from GNC.
If your penis doesn't stay hard for at least 2 hours, you need to see a doctor.
2007-09-06 12:43:13 · answer #9 · answered by TXboy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Regardless of what you say, it sounds like anxiety to me! Nothing makes it go away like anxiety.
You may be happy with your size but since you have never had sex with her, you may still be nervous about pleasing her.
2007-09-06 12:38:29 · answer #10 · answered by Matt 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋