I'm getting married next year and I have never had a great relationship with my dad - not bad either. He was just never there for me, never came to my sporting events, school events (only high school graduation). My mom pretty much raised me and I have asked her to walk me down the aisle as he will have the father daughter dance. As you can see i'm the furthest thing from "daddy's girl", and have NO idea what song to pick...
2007-09-06 12:18:05 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Okay...my mom and divorced when i was 2 1/2 years old...my mom worked full time to make ends meet while carting 3 kids around to sports practices and games. My dad paid child support, however my mom had to go to court to get the money. I see my dad maybe 2 times a year and it's only cause we are at family functions. He is not paying for any of the wedding nor has he made an attempt to be interested in it. I choose to have the father/daughter dance because I don't want to regret not doing it. I have always been open to a relationship with my father, yet everytime he has let me down when it comes to spending time with him - he chooses NOT to spend time with me. So i would appreciate everyone who is telling me to grow up and act like an adult to not assume they know the entire situation!
2007-09-07 05:42:07 · update #1
I have the exact same issue....I ask a few people that know the situation what their opinions were and they suggested songs that weren't about dads and daughters at all....the best suggestion I have heard was "Isn't She Lovely". Just find a song you are comfortable dancing with him to....Best of luck!!
2007-09-06 14:13:14 · answer #1 · answered by xsarahelizabethx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your dilemma, you obviously want to have the father/daughter dance, but don't want a sentimental or mushy song.
I think it's nice that you want to have this special dance with your father, it may bring you a bit closer and it will be a nice memory.
Some suggestions:
What A Wonderful World - Louis Armstrong
Just The Way You Are - Billy Joel
Isn't She Lovely - Stevie Wonder
My Girl - The Temptations
You Are So Beautiful - Joe Cocker
You could also go with something classic:
Moon River - Andy Williams
The Way You Look Tonight - Frank Sinatra
Tennesse Waltz - Patti Paige
Someone to Watch Over Me - Ella Fitzgerald
Or you could even choose an instrumental. I'm sure you will find the perfect thing. Good luck!
PS
Speaking from experience, you can't assume that you know what the situation is or who is at fault, and that wasn't the question anyway.
it didn't sound to me that you were asking for opinions on your relationship with your father, but you were just asking for some song suggestions. It seems that people are jumping to conclusions. People should stick to the question and not read into things that aren't any of their business.
2007-09-06 12:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on the wedding!
A couple of things, is your dad paying for the wedding? Because you might have to if that is the case. Also, was he not a good because he was working to support the family or was he just a dead beat dad? If he is a dead beat dad, than I would not do the dance at all.
Just think if the drama of not dancing with him is worth it. Then if you decide to dance with him pick a SHORT and PEPPIER song. Not the traditional sad songs. For example:
How sweet it is to be loved by you by James Taylor
I got the world on a string-Frank Sinatra
Young at Heart by Frank Sinatra
You make me so young by Frank Sinatra
Frank Sinatra is nice short songs. Back in his time, songs were not 4 minutes long.
I am going through something somewhat similar to you. My father, was never there for me. I had cancer as a kid and he never visited me. He also called me 'fat' all the time. One summer, I was home from college (I was like 21 at the time) and I came home late from my boyfriend's house (who is now my fiance) and he called me a slut and a whore the ever since. He is now trying to make up for it all by paying for the wedding and other stuff as well. So now, for the wedding, I do not know what to do. I'm thinking of eloping.
2007-09-06 15:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by diva_m3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely support you choice.I am from the same dad situation and am walking myself down the aisle. I am not having any specific dances except for bride and groom. But I expect we will dance for a few songs, just when the time is right not to a planned song. Maybe don't plan a particular song, just ask him to dance when something nice comes on. Sorry I couldn;t help more and good luck!!
2007-09-06 17:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by BTB2211 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's a question: do you really want to do the father/daughter dance at all?
I'm not being snarky or trying to be mean. It's just that it sounds as though it might be uncomfortable for you, and it's not something that's either legally or spiritually required, so you're free to nix it if you prefer. After all, he's there but you feel so disconnected from him that you've asked your mother to escort you to the altar.
Have you asked him how he feels about it? Is this something that means a lot to him? If it does, then I'd recommend doing it, of course. If he doesn't, I'd probably skip it.
If you do decide to go ahead with it, I'd suggest finding a fairly short number. It sounds as though you two don't have much of a relationship and that gets very uncomfortable for people to watch after a while.
One thing you might consider is having the groom's mother/son dance at the same time and allowing them to choose the tune.
Whatever you decide, I'm sorry your relationship with your father is this way. I hope one day you and he find a better way to be together.
Best of luck to you. I wish you and your intended every happiness.
2007-09-06 12:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Miley and Glinda need to chill! A good father would make an attempt to be more active in his child's life even if he was busy working!!! And, your the child! It's not your job to chase your father down in order for him to be more active in your life. He's the parent! This is what parents do!
I feel the same way about my father, and have no idea what song we will dance to. However, I did see someone else post "In My Life" by the Beatles. From what I can remember of the song, I think it will work.
2007-09-06 12:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Landslide --Fleetwood Mac version
What a Wonderful World-Louis Armstrong
In My Life-the Beattles
Do the dance though--you'll be glad sometime in the future that you did--it's 3 1/2 minutes of your life and you'll have the memory forever.
2007-09-06 16:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by jlcon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Landslide by Fleetwood Mac or Dixie Chicks
2007-09-06 12:29:40 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.Harbi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do the father daughter dance at all. If you want your father to be involved in some way, why don't you have him be an usher at the church or have him do a reading or something like that. Just have the bride and groom's dance then have everyone else jump in. That way you're not being fake.
2007-09-06 12:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by Sondra 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-04 02:59:28 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋