can a child of the age 13 be hit by there parent?????????

Question

i have a friend and she is 13
she was out 2nite in her village and was with this lad who i do not like at all. he is 19 and has been in prison and in court many times.
when her mother found out who she was with her mother went crazy. we searched for her for like an hour and eventually we found her with him. the 19 yr old was drunk and attacked my friends mum
my friends mum has a boyfriend/partner and when my friend wudnt get into the car with them because she was so afraid they were gonna kill her. her mums partner caught my friend by the back of her neck and dragged her into the car and when he had her in the car he hit her a massive slap.
i was at the other side of the road and i even heard the slap as plain as day!!!!!
and i was wonderin is it wrong to do wat her mum and her mum's partner did to my friend????????????????????

the mum's partner actually slapped her
and its not the first time
the daughter has bruises on her body from her mum hittin her and her mum's partner hittin her

Answer 1

As long as they didn't actually injure her, it's perfectly legal. If she has injuries, then they are in trouble.

Answer 2

Probably wasn't the most appropriate action. The mom should have done the disciplining unless the partner has been a father figure for a long time and genuinly loves this girl enough to discipline her like a parent. At age 13 and her pulling such a stunt, she needed a good spanking and several privilages taken away. She probably has no idea what kind of danger she could be in with someone so much older than her. It would be different if they were both 5 or 10 years older with that age difference between them. So, to answer your question, spanking was appropriate. Hitting across the face or other areas are not right. If it is done with the purpose of disciplining out of love and concern for the person's well being, it's ok.

Answer 3

If she has bruises then it is definitely child abuse.

But, I mean...she was hanging out with a drunk convicted felon..how do you think they were supposed to respond? Embrace her lovingly and not be angry that she would be so stupid?

I can say that it was handled wrongly at the hands of the parents. [The step parents should never do the punishing] The mom should have sat her daughter down and talked with her..and then punished her...it's not illegal to hit, just to leave marks on the body. [unless the hitting is excessive]

If you truly think your friend is being abused talk to your mom about it. She can probably best help you in this situation.

Answer 4

I think the law would make an exception. She was hanging out with a convicted felon! The guy hit your friends mom!
Also, I doubt that your friend actually thought that her parents were going to kill her, I mean, why would they even think about that? I think the guy did the right thing. He should slap her. She was being stupid and hanging out with a person who has been to prison and court several times.
I can't believe you're focusing on you friends mom's boyfriend hitting you friend and not on the fact that your friend was hanging around with a CONVICTED FELON WHO WAS DRUNK.
You need to get smarter friends than that or teach your friend that she was being stupid because what your friend did was damn right outrageous.

Answer 5

No child should be hit period. Not to justify anything but first of all she was out with a 19 year that was drunk and attacked the mom. The boyfriend/partner may have reacted that way out of fear, anger.... I would suggest that she talk to someone if this has happened more than that one time.

Answer 6

there is definitely a difference between parenting and violence...parenting involves communication between child and parents..there are 2 sides to hear...it would be more appropriate for your friend to have been grounded with some chores/responsibilities given to her so she knows the difference of why her mum was freaking out as all parents would of a 19 year old drunk and all...the whole thing is sad...I hope your friend is okay...unfortunately being 13 you can't really know the consequences until you get older and wiser...youth is a learning process...ask yourself what you would do to your 13 year old daughter??????

Answer 7

she's lucky they DIDN't kill her. If she is doing all that, then yeah she can still be hit. Whether or not it's legal is another story. Your friend needs her parents involvement if at 13 she sneaking off with a drunken 19 year old. She's lucky she didn't get raped. But when you are 13 and having a good time you don't think like that. When you are a mom with kids...you do!

Answer 8

wow, that's terrible.
first of all the 19 yr old guy is a mess for going to prison, so I guess the mom just reacted in a way that any mother would react (she wanted to protect her daughter) but the problem is she doesn't know how to discipline her daughter - without using any physical punishment like hitting.

but that's just wrong.

Answer 9

You should never strike a child and she shouldn't have been out on the street at 13 with a 19 year old boy either. Her parents can press charges against him. They probably don't want her to end up pregnant or dead.

Answer 10

it was a poor way to handle it,it might have been 1 of many or first time, that is why your friend is rebelling that way.i think you should be there for your and and find out which it is.sometimes as parent the wrong chooses are made for the right reasons.your friend should not be out with this older misguided person regardless,he can mean her no good,if the chooses he make for himself are getting him put in jail,she will end up in trouble.it might of been out of fear that he did what he did to her

Answer 11

i dont think hitting is the answer to anything only when there little spanking on there bottems out of love to teach them is okay,when there older you have to try other things like taking something they like,like games movies,etc. and they need to earn it back.children will grow up in pain if they dont feel loved and they will act out in violance and turn to drugs etc. it takes a parent who knows god to know what there life and children need for there future,lifes hard for a reasion i found out the hard way,rather people like it or not god is the truth and he has all the answers for us.her parents should realize mabey there not giving her any love and shes looking for it some where else,and hitting her will only cause more pain for her and she will want to get away from them,there not using clear heads in this and they need to think before they act out of anger.