What do you think of my coach?

Question

I am in 8th grade, and I have physical education for this semester. Unfortunately, my coach is a male coach. Not to be sexist or anything, though. Well, my coach acts strangely around me. He gets one inch away from my face just to talk to me. The strange thing, though, happened today. My class was playing kickball, and the coach said anyone who didn't want to play, could sit on the bleachers. I wanted to play, but, I had forgotten the rules of the game, so, I decided to sit and watch how the other kids played. When I sat down, the coach came and sat right by me. He began talking to me, and told me to smile more. That when I don't smile, he goes home and cries. I know it sounds like a joke, but I think that sometimes a joke cant go a bit farther than needed. After that, he told me to go onto the field to play, and he tapped my knee. I had my gym shorts on, so he touched my bare skin. I just got up and walked away, and thought about it. What do you think? No rude answers, please. ^-^

Oh, and sorry about where I put the question. I had no idea where to put it, so I decided that my coach doesn't have proper etiquette... Lol!

lol, Jack.

I did tell my parents. They act as if they don't care. But, I do feel uncomfortable about this.

Yes, I'm a girl...

Answer 1

My question for you is - Does he act this way with other students also. I've known teachers over the years who are sarcastic and make some comments that can be taken as inappropriate, (such as your smile one) but that was just their personality. If he acts only this way with his female students than it probably should be brought up with your guidance counselor and/or administration.
Another question is how close are you to this teacher? If you have begun to spend more time with him and talk with him - this may be his way of opening up more, OR it could be the beginning of him taking advantage of you.
You did a good thing by walking away. It showed him that you didn't like the way he was acting. Just take note of all interactions with this man and if things continue or get worse, make sure you tell someone about it.
But as someone else had said, don't let this stop you from learning in class, if it is then it definitely has become a problem.

Answer 2

Lil Lady there are a couple things wrong there...One the school should not had made a male a female pe teach.. Especially girls your age...PE teachers are not only suppose to teach the importance of physical activity, but other things young ladies and men should know. At your age there should had been a female teacher. For him to single you out and only you seems suspicious, but not to the point of concern yet. I do think he's trying a little to hard to make his presence known. Touching you on your bare leg, might had been an accident, you did say you had shorts on. I think he avoided touching you anywhere because you were a female. You know what I mean, it he would smacked your bottom it would been a big deal or if he had touch your back...You see what I mean.
If you are truly uncomfortable around this guy, Tell your councilor. He/She could place you another class, or keep an eye on this guy...I assume the school did a background on this fella. You have rights to feel uncomfortable, but make sure first your feeling warranted. This fella maybe a good guy coach, but maybe not......

Answer 3

Coach might just be trying to be nice to you or he may be checking out how far he can go. Don't assume he's being "bad" right off - it's possible he's seen something athletic in you and wants to see where that might lead.

Pay attention to how he interacts with you though. Usually, when you feel uncomfortable in a situation, there's a reason for that. Pay attention to your feelings and if it keeps feeling "weird" then tell the folks again.

Remember though - coach is a coach, male or female. Your early comment indicates that you expect a female coach, don't miss out on the skills of a good coach because of gender. Many fine coaches are women - many are men.

Answer 4

Realistically, the only thing that I can see with the problem is that you didn't tell him that you don't know the rules and the fact that it can be hard for a coach to see what's going on. Don't worry touching ur skin but just be careful for later on. Just tell him next time about the rules and what not concerns. And if there's still some uncomfortable stuff he does to u its time to report.

At first i thought u were a boy but then i assumed that u were a girl.
Just update ur question and plz tell us.
And have fun...

Answer 5

He sounds a bit strange, but perhaps you are being a little over-sensitive? Don't worry about this incident too much, but if he continues to act strangely, maybe you should talk to one of the female phys. ed. teachers, and let her know you are feeling a little uncomfortable? Some of the other faculty members may be able to speak to him - He may not even realise he is making you uncomfortable.

Alternatively, he may just be winding you up with the going home crying thing.....

Answer 6

I am sure your Coach thinks your cute when you smile but you did the right thing by walking away, but then a lot of Caches tap there players back or leg, its only to build up there confidence.... If you feel he is giving you more attention than the others then i am sure you should tell your parents...

Answer 7

umm.. just be careful....i wouldnt worry too much about it as of right now...nothing he has done has been in the wrong...if you feel he is a bit strange just stay aways from him...however, if he continues to get more aggressive or does anything to you physically that you are not comfortable with tell him and make sure to tell an authority...parent..teacher....principal..you get the point

Answer 8

Tell your 'coach' your uncomfortable with what he is doing and that he should stop. If he doesn't then you can go to your school office and talk to the proper authorities at your school.

Answer 9

if you are legitimately concerned that your coach is making advances, you have every right to walk into your counselors and / or principal's office and let them know.

Chances are (because men are pigs - I used to be one before I got married), if he is hitting on you, he is hitting on others and may have gone further.

P.S. - If you are exaggerating these events, please do not go and "tell" on your coach, the guy probably has a wife and kids and false allegations can ruin his life.

P.P.S. - but if he really is a pig, I would say hit him head on with harassment.

Answer 10

I understand where you are coming from, I would feel uncomfortable too, if I were you.
Next time he tells a joke like that, ignore it.
Nest time he gets so close to your face, move back a some.
Next time he touches you, simply say "I don't feel comfortable and I don't like it when you touch me. Please stop"