When they asked you *Will I ever see mommy or daddy again? according what you truly believe???
2007-09-06 11:10:00 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The guilt card doesn't work on me - I don't lie to people, but I'm not obnoxious to grief-stricken children, either.
What would you say if they asked "Will mommy see Allah in heaven?" Seriously.
2007-09-06 11:14:08 · answer #1 · answered by Dalarus 7 · 7⤊ 2⤋
I would tell them the truth... that death is a natural part of life. Everyone dies, and all we can do is try and be the best people we can while we are alive, because that shows how much we loved the people who gave us life. This is why it is so very important to treasure each and every moment, and to make the most of your life, because that is exactly why mommy and daddy made you, so they could leave a part of themselves here after they were gone, and some of what they believed and lived for will live on in you. This is what (mommy or daddy) would want you to do, even though they are gone now.
2007-09-06 11:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one an atheist child is unlikely to be raised with beliefs of "heaven" and afterlife, so asking about seeing someone again would probably be an unlikely question.
If they did... for a child, I think an I don't know would be sufficient when explained that some people believe so, some people don't. The parent can state that they don't believe in a "heaven," however IMO a child needs to be free to form their own view.
2007-09-06 11:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No of course not. What point would there be in that? False comfort is still false.
My children know very well that I think death is the end. That would hold just as true if my husband were to die.
Why not teach them instead to cherish the time they have with family and friends, to never take for granted any moment spent together, and to hold close the memories of those who have died? That is far better than lying to them.
2007-09-06 11:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have my irrational beliefs too. My wife and I are signed with a Cryonics organization in the hope that technology will eventually be able to restore functionality of our body. It is not something we both think is a definite, but a chance nonetheless. I will tell my child that we hope that the organization can maintain in operation for long enough that technology might at one time assist us.
Yeah, crazy but I am not very fond of the concept of dying.
2007-09-06 11:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell them I didn't know. But if they close their eyes and imagine their mommy talking to them or singing to them she will always be there with them.
The great thing about kids is that long before they develop the intellect to understand some complex things they have the imagination to understand a lot more.
2007-09-06 11:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are amazingly resilient and adaptable. Lying to them is what creates difficulties for them, consistency is far more important than a false comfort.
There are practical ways of helping children cope with grief. Making a memory book can be a good one.
2007-09-06 11:17:57 · answer #7 · answered by The angels have the phone box. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on the child.
if the child is not mine i would not push my beliefs on them in the first place.
unlike some people....
however if it was mine i would simply tell them im not sure, but we have memories of those we love and have lost and all we can do in the meantime is hold on to those memories. and mommy wouldnt want to see them sad like this and that they gotta be strong. =]
(however the truth of the matter is, its hard to say exactly what id say and how id act if the situation presented itself.)
2007-09-06 11:14:20 · answer #8 · answered by Chippy v1.0.0.3b 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would I lie to a child?
No, they will never see their parent again and I think giving them false hope is fairly abusive. I would much rather teach them the realities of life and death.
2007-09-06 11:17:02 · answer #9 · answered by t_rex_is_mad 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I might. Until they're able to understand otherwise. Just like I tell them SANTA leaves the presents. The toothfairy gives you money, and god will protect Mommy after she dies.
Allthough, religions are actually taken seriously by adults (and my children could be led to believe so)...So I'd really have to think about it.
2007-09-06 11:23:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course not! That's just silly.
They will get to hear lots of ideas about this stuff through out their lives, much of it from their relatives. I would hope that I had worked to help my child know the difference between real and make-believe from the moment they can begin carrying on a conversation.
I would, however, attend to their emotional needs. Death of a loved one hurts, and denial is one of the phases of normal grief. They get to deal with the reality of it with my support, and hopefully the support of their family and friends.
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2007-09-06 11:15:43 · answer #11 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋