I just started college last saturday and met a very nice girl, we hit it off and hung out sunday, monday, tuesday, and last night, I asked her out. She said although she liked me, and this was very hard for her, she felt that since she just started college, she needed time to get her life in order before she could experience a relationship, "saying she could not give me all the attention that I need." We are still friendly and hung out today, but how do I go about as to be able to make her my girlfriend somewhere down the road? How do i make her regret that decision and want to come back to me?
2007-09-06 10:27:52 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well She likes you but she's still looking for something better. As many guys do the same thing. But guys aren't nice enough to say no lets wait, they'll go out with the girl and keep looking for the better one. Then they'll try to juggle the two or three at the same time. Just enjoy the friendship and pay attention to your studies, we don't need any more doctors that worried about getting a date instead listening and reading...
2007-09-07 15:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by James Q 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we should all stand up and applaud this girl!!!! Bravo to her & you should take a lesson from her because she has mastered the art of not leading someone on & coming directly out with what she was feeling - Stay only friends with her - She let you know exactly what her non-expectations were from the word GO. Bravo to her.... You can't make someone regret not being with you.... Trust me this is the real world, this is a person that is good to have as a friend - If only everyone could be like her!!!
2007-09-06 10:34:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lords of Stockton 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hey! Alright, I understand where the girl is coming from; it's hard to have a relationship and balance a huge workload! I think you should act normal for now, be flirty, but friendly. Maybe a month down the road you could hint at going out, and don't forget to add on the charm and sexiness! Hope this helps!
2007-09-06 10:33:14 · answer #3 · answered by Lulubelle 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do exactly as she's pretty much asking you to do.... give her time!!! Always stay her friend and be there for her. If it's meant to be, then it will happen. But if you rush her or pressure her, then you definitely won't get anywhere with her.
And by all means, do NOT let this stop you from dating others or becoming interested in someone else! You're young; have fun!! :)
Concentrating on school is NOT a bad idea!
Good luck! ;)
2007-09-06 10:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the people who said move on with your life, go see other people, and don't spend that much time with her.
This does three things: (1) if you are not all that "available", and she rarely sees you, it makes you seem more valuable in her eyes (diamonds are rare so we appreciate them; rocks are common, so we do not); (2) seeing other girls might make her jealous, as she might see that she has something to lose; and,(3) seeing other people and keeping busy doing other things will help you get over her -- in case she doesn't come around.
If you chase her, and try to spend too much time with her, then you increase the chance that she will continue to see you as "just a friend" because you are no longer a "challenge" to her, and you are no longer a mystery (she knows exactly what you feel, so there is no mysterious quality about you any more).
2007-09-06 10:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It has only been 5 days!! You sound like you are picking out wedding china. If you just started college, there are zillion other girls out there too. Just because the first one is not into you, just move on. Ask some other girl you like to go out. You have 4 years of college ahead of you, you don't need to rush into anything in 5 days.
2007-09-06 10:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by Don Drapers woman 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have absolutely no control over another person. Just be there for her as a friend and when she is ready will will come to you. Something tells me though, that she really isn't interested in you that way, and the excuse that she gave you was a bit of an easy let down.
2007-09-06 10:34:03 · answer #7 · answered by RoseWhite 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you can don't have her feel like she regret what she has said .
because if so, then she won't feel right about having a relationship with you down the road.
the things you can do to make sure you stay in good turns with her . and be more open to her decision to do so for her self. that is a woman thing to do for her self to ( improve) and not to get worse.
that right there is a good woman and just be there when time come around where both of you can spend time together i tell you these things because that is what happening when i went to school with my man.
he had to deal with my schedule to be with me and he did and because of it we have been together for 15 years now.
we have been together since we were 11 years old and middle school.
and yes you will have your times where you might what to do somethings you might don't want to do to her because of school. but if you stick it out with her then she will know who really loves her more.
some one that will stick there and be there for her and the time of need and in time of not needed. Is good if she like to go places to eat or go see a movie or eat in and look at tv or take her out and havee fun with her everytime you are with her.
make her feel need and love and taken care of no matter what career she go in. just be there and be a really man about it. you know type of man that care for her.
and to make it know to her that you are that man for her and can stop looking if she was to ever start looking for a man.
because she have you and her life to enjoy !
it will be times you might not won't to be there, for those times go think of something or write a letter or go to a store and look around.
but make sure that you are feeling good at the time you return to her o.k.
make her feel like she can handle a relationship with you and school. and things such work out very good for you and her.
but make sure she feels loved and care about and that she is the only woman you want.
( and for her not been able to give you attentiopn you need then , do some things that you can not do around her like:
go pay your bills off or go get some clothing for your self or
look at tv, foot ball, base ball,and etc.)
may all your wishes come true to you and her dreams
best wishes
good luck
2007-09-06 11:06:44 · answer #8 · answered by map 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to just be friends, she letting you down easy. I've always said that guys and girls can't be friends. Someone always has feelings while the other may not. It's lopsided.
All you can so at this point is be a friend and don't take her seriously. Maybe she'll come around, but I wouldn't hold my breath.
2007-09-06 10:32:56 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if she is hanging out with you that obviously means she likes you. the only thing is she wants to concentrate on her studies. i think you should be just her friend for sometime. she sounds like a responsible person, so be supportive of any choices she makes regarding her life, studies or career. then when you feel she is happy with how things are working out in her life, you tell her you like her and you want her to be your girlfriend
2007-09-06 10:47:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋