im seventeen and this is so incredibly annoying. i just started dating someone, but even just guys that are friends arent allowed. all of my friends can have people of the opposite sex in their rooms. i just think its so dumb because..and ive told them..that we will just go to someone elses house..and i ask them wouldnt they rather have us here in OUR house so they at least know what were doing/ not drinking/ getting in trouble? i really dont get it and its embarrasing. even with just the door open would be ok. they are treating me like a baby and im going to college next year. do they think ill never have guys over there? i really dont understand them. i told them they are going to miss out on meeting my friends and whenever i do have boys over i have to make up dumb excuses s to why we have to stay downstairs PLEASEEEE give me some advice as to some things i could say that would help me change this rule! thank you!!!!!
2007-09-06 09:39:44 · 35 answers · asked by pennylane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask if you can keep the door open. That way they can make sure nothing happens.
2007-09-06 09:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty it sounds like they are set in their ways at this point. They think they are protecting you by having that rule but I understand what you are saying. I would try having something like a video system like ps2 w/ddr or something or whatever just something that is in your room and the only way to play is to go in there. Maybe invite your mom to come in the room and watch you guys play for a little while to show her you aren't up to anything bad. If that doesn't work and the other stuff you mentioned didn't work then I would say deal with it for this 1 more year and you'll be done. Go to someone elses house, sit outside, the basement, or the garage. I know it's not as cool as your room but at least you'll get some privacy. Maybe get a couple of chairs or something for one of those areas and get a radio and tv or something for there too. Make yourself a new room. lol Sorry but like I said just 1 more year to go.
2007-09-06 09:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by Laura M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. We lived in a single wide trailer so space was tight and you couldn't hide much in my bedroom with the door open (but the still wouldn't let us in there). We ended up having to spend a lot of time outside on the porch, even when it was REALLY cold to get any privacy. But, that's the way things go when you're underage and living in someone elses house. I moved out a week after graduating high school.
2007-09-06 09:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by Button 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say. I always encourage my oldest daughter to have her friends here (boy and girl). Like you said, then I atleast know what is up. It won't change so I'd think instead of being embarressed, just tell your boyfriend it's a "respect" thing"Soon you will be 18 and in College and wil be able to do as you please but keep in mind it is an issue of respect that your Parents don't want Boys in your room, not that I would do it but you can't trample on another Parents wishes. You sound like a nice Girl. It's a shame.
2007-09-06 09:48:41 · answer #4 · answered by swiss girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom and dad were the same way, and I hated it!! Now that I am a parent, both my kids know that the door HAS to stay open, and I am allowed to walk in whenever I want...They don't like that, but that's the rules...
I would talk to your parents again, and let them know that while you understand where they are coming from, you want to be able to hang out in your own room every now and then..tell them they are welcome to come in whenever they want...agree to not have anyone in the bedroom when they are gone, but when they are there, they can come and go in your room as they please....
2007-09-06 09:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to just tell your friends and your guy that you aren't allowed to have guys in your bedroom, it is simple as that. I know it is embarrassing a little but your friends and guy aren't going to disown you just because your parents are strict. Just remember that any parent that does that obviously did bad things in their days :) Respect their wishes and think one more year until you can have all the guys you want in your room, if this bothers you go to your mans house or a friends.
2007-09-06 09:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by heathermichelle9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was never allowed to have boys in my room either , door open or not. Now that I am an adult I totally understand where my parents were coming from. It is all about respect, both for yourself and your parents..someday you will get it and it will make sense to you too.
2007-09-06 09:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by dlgrl=me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get yourself so worked up...believe me, i argued w/my parents on the same situation, i didnt understand why either, but in the future...you'll have kids of your own & understand why your parents did it...then it'll be more clearer for ya
besides, it's their house that you're living in, so you have to go by their rules...they're just looking out for you be/c they love you...the reason your other friends can have the opposite sex in their room is be/c their parents must not care about what could happen in their own house.
just wait until you go to college & you're on your own, then you can do whatever you want.
2007-09-06 10:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by **annie anytime** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you need to make up excuses on why they have to stay downstairs. why not tell them the truth..
One thing I think you should is start telling the truth, If your parents hear you telling a lie to your friends, they would think if you lie to your friends you will lie to them also. by not telling the truth to your friends you are telling your parents you have no respect for there rules.
The best way to be treated like a adult is to act like one!
2007-09-06 09:52:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your parents' house. Respect their rules while you live there. You'll be eighteen soon enough. And like you said, you'll be at college, where this will no longer be an issue. We all had to face these types of issues growing up as teenagers living with our parents. Just grit your teeth and deal with it.
2007-09-06 09:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by Billy Bob Barker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's their house,..not yours..
And that's always been a rule, no boys in the bedroom..
Ask your parents if there is someplace else in the house where you can entertain your friends...
I never wanted anyone in my room, that was my space....
2007-09-06 09:46:34 · answer #11 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋