I met a really nice guy, but to make the long story short. he later told me he was 20 years old. I'm 31, but I have a problem with attracting young men. I look very young for my age, I have to say I do encourage it cause of my dress but I look young I get carded somtimes. anyway. I do lead a very adult life. I have been dating a while and I havent really clicked with anybody but this guy. he has a good job, lives alone and is sweet and attentive. when he told me his age I refused to talk to him, br\ecause I told him he should be going to clubs and dating tons of women and that I'm older and am looking for a husband at some point. but he said he is not interested in the club thing, he begged me to give him a chance and I have. I like him but i feel guilty. should I date him?
2007-09-06 09:33:01 · 19 answers · asked by cinnamon43212002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just like to thank everyone with their answers. they were all good ones you guys are great! what I will do Is take it slow and see where it goes, why not right?
2007-09-06 09:42:53 · update #1
If you're both looking for the same thing at this point in your lives... it could be a good thing - but you're right - he is VERY young & probably hasn't fully achieved his life's goals in his career, education, etc. (The pursuit / achievement of which could alter who his is in the long run).
2007-09-06 09:39:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both like each other and click then don't throw away what could be a very nice relationship just because of your age. After 20, IMO, it doesn't matter. If he is the kind of guy you need in your life then go for it. If he's mature enough for you then what's the problem. You never know unless you try. Don't feel guilty. There's nothing wrong with you having a relationship with a younger guy. I personally know a 45 year old that is married to a 23 year old and they've been happily married for five years now.
Go for it. And be happy.
2007-09-06 09:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by jose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm 28 and I usually attract 20-21 year olds and it doesn't work. When I was 20 it was all about going out and partying. If your looking for a husband...this is not the guy. It might be ok for the first 2 yrs, but he is going to realize what he has missed out on...His youth. At my age now I am finally ready to get serious...I know everyone is different, but realize most people are the same in this way. Just might not be the best idea for yourself to find out when your 35 you have to start looking for a husband again.
2007-09-06 09:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by surfmerrick24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to just have some fun for a while, sure...date him and let things go where they go. If you are seriously marriage minded at this point in your life, then I'd suggest you pass him by and focus on someone more mature and ready to settle down. This fella would likey get a case of the "what did I miss out on"s if he got married any time soon...he hasn't been an adult long enough.
2007-09-06 09:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should date him. If he is a sweet man and attentive Then I say thats definantally husband material. But the real question is do you love him? If you dont lay him off real easy and be close friends but just not that close. Age is just na number. Now if he was a minor then yea break it off but he's leagal age and the way you say it you really like him so give it a chance.
Hope everything works out for you.
2007-09-06 09:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just date him for a while and see how things are and where they'll go from there. Won't do you harm to try it out. Don't take him seriously either because he might be too young to commit. Some guys also mature later in life..not at 20.
2007-09-06 09:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age isnt always the number one factor in a serious relationship...I mean, look at Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore, who'da thought? It took her a lot of guts, Im sure, to go out with him, much less marry him. She has been the butt of jokes, but she's sticking it out...and it is worth it for her. He's great with her kids, and he really cares about her....
I say that you should see where this relationship takes you...And take his immaturity (Im sure there is some) with a grain of salt...considering he's only 20.
2007-09-06 09:40:09 · answer #7 · answered by Marie Catherine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not feel guitly! Age is just a number! Hasn't anyone ever told you that? I've seen happily married couples with larger age differences than that. And some of us do mature at a more rapid rate than others, causing us to date people closer to our maturity level. So, I wouldn't worry about it. Give him a chance, and give yourself a chance to be happy!
2007-09-06 09:39:50 · answer #8 · answered by Jaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is it so easy to date an older man?
its all the same thing really.
if he really cares and loves you, the age won't mean a thing.
give him a chance, try not to see the difference or use it as a humorous joke from time to time. use it to ease any tension etc. if you still feel you cannot continue, then let him know the truth. this way you have at least loved and lost.
2007-09-06 09:37:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about the age thing. I don't think age matters. If you like him and he treats you great, then I think you should go for it. Don't feel guilty! Have a wonderful time and If he doesn't like the bar scene, that says something about him right there. Good luck!
2007-09-06 09:43:23 · answer #10 · answered by smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋