So he left me (ony married 8wks) because I wouldn't have an abortion and has only seen our son like 6 times in 17 months. He does pay child support but moved 5.5 hours away shortly after the baby was born. I am remarried and we are going to adopt my son and he knows this. He calls me alot but it's never about the baby and he only comes to see him once every 4 - 6 months and usually only see's him for a few hours and then it's off with his friends or whatever else he wants to do. He actually has custody of three of his kids by wife #2 and another one who is older he abandoned from birth. I didnt know about the other one until after I had our son. Anyway I looked at his myspace page (being nosy I know) and he has a picture of my baby with his daughter posted with a caption that says "Daddy's little Boy". Should I confront him or just let it go...what right does he have anyway? He chose abortion I chose life....why should he benefit from my choice only when it's convenient?
2007-09-06 09:27:38 · 8 answers · asked by LilSunbeam 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Definitely let it go. He's paying child support at least. A lot of people think abortion is an okay solution, not realizing it's really just another word for murder. Even the supreme court has problems with it. So try to cut him some slack. Children always wonder what's wrong with them if a parent deserts them for any reason. Of course the problem is with the parent, but they can't realize that till later sometimes, if ever.
The best thing for your child is to keep as good a relationship with the father as is possible. That means not yelling at him in front of the child, or talking bad about him when the child can hear, unless it becomes absolutely necessary for the childs protection.
It is frustrating when a father or mother is so irresponsible, but be glad that you know better, and hang in there. Be glad that he cares for the child in any way he is able to. It will mean a lot to your boy as he grows, and becomes a man. Because of you and your husband he will learn better ways than that, and appreciate your understanding in ways you may never fully know, but will see in his eyes, and in his hugs.
2007-09-06 10:20:54 · answer #1 · answered by Jann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him leave the picture up. I don't know if he's married now, but If he's on wife number two, plus has had another woman in his life, he's probably looking for someone new now. Face it, a man with two young children isn't all that appealing to most single women. They'll assume he's looking for someone to help take care of the kids OR that he's paying child support for two kids and is probably too broke to wine and dine them. Besides, any time he's late on child support, you can post a comment from your SON'S Myspace account saying "Hi Daddy, I'm awfully hungry."
2007-09-06 10:46:49 · answer #2 · answered by wise old woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say I blame you...I have dealt with this EXACT same sitch. It is very annoying, and I don't blame you for feeling like you do.
You generally have two choices here...call him out or ignore. Of course he is probably trying to look like a caring, good father(eye roll), but what are you going to do? It won't change it, he's just trying to look good to others. If it makes you feel better, go ahead and rip him a new one, but technically it won't do anything but release some steam, or even make you more angry because he will probably have some ridiculous justification for all this that only makes sense to him. Just keep in mind that if you go off on him, it won't change the situation here. Don't let him get to you no matter what, and you will be okay. Keep your cool, even though it's hard.
2007-09-06 09:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, stalker!!! nicely, if that is bothering you this a lot, you likely shouldn't publish it as your important %.... yet, human beings communicate so he will locate out quickly adequate in any case.. one among his myspace acquaintances that are additionally acquaintances with you is gonna initiate some drama with the full, "Ohh, blah blah blah has a image of her and her boyfriend on her internet site!!!" Sooo, it does not particularly count quantity. he's going to be sure no be counted what, so use despite image you opt for on your internet site!!! Why ought to he care a lot which you have a sparkling boyfriend??? If issues persist, tell him to "**** off" and which you in no way opt to chat to him lower back!!!!
2016-10-04 02:43:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this question should have never been put up...you already know the answer...you cant make him take the pic down so just let it go..why were u bein nosy on his myspace page anyway? thats what happens when you "search" for pain
2007-09-06 11:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by made it to the top 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do to make him pull the picture... And he is the childs biological father... So, I would say just forget about it and let it go! No reason for you to waste your time worrying about and/or stressing over it...
2007-09-06 09:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, he didnt realize it was worng since the caption was "daddys little boy" so he loves his son and he just wants to show off, aperantly he didnt know there was no harm, if he put his daughter in it to. so just polietly ask him to take it off, or get over it myspace isnt as dangerouse as pple think,,, its only dangerouse wen u add pple u dont know give them ur adress and meet them someware
2007-09-06 09:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant make him pull the picture so why bother. Lots of deadbeats like to cal lthemselves daddy.
2007-09-06 09:37:38 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋