i am 24 with no kids, i live alone, 2 college degrees, nice career, nice car, very good looking( thats what i hear all the time). but i am single. all my friends thats in my circle are getting married or already married with kids. I am the only one thats not married or have no kids. out of all of my friends i have the better job and make way money than them, but that doest matter. help me am i going crazy, i dont want to rush things, but i think i need to settle down. help please
2007-09-06 09:06:22 · 40 answers · asked by TE TE 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
slow down, you're only 24. Enjoy life. You've got plenty of time to find the right person.
You also should probably tone down the emphasis on your "good job" and "good salary". It might turn people off.
2007-09-06 09:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by Chris C 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh man. I am 24 too and don't have kids and I'm happy about that at this point. We are still young and settling down is not something I want to do at this age.
If you are finding that you have the education and the certain things that guys should be looking for in a woman, than maybe you should try to hang out with some people of that same education level. Now, I'm not saying that your friends are uneducated, but maybe going to a grown-up function could help you meet people that are what you are looking for. I have never tried it but speed dating sounds interesting and if I were single I would do it. You go to a cafe or place that speed dating takes place and you move around the room and sit at a table with a guy and you have about 3 minutes to get to know him. I think that is great because you can say your most strong points and then if you don't like one thing about him, you get to move on. If you do like him, then you can get his number and go from there. I hope I have helped you and not offended you, because I was not trying to offend your friends.
2007-09-06 09:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know sometimes, is not the good job, how many degrees you have, or how much money you make that will make you stand to other people's eyes as "perfect"..Personality is the key to a good relationship, maybe you lack in that, you also have to realize that because all your friends are getting married and settling down, doesn't mean you will not. Just give it a little time, and please never rush yourself into marriage, because it's not a 2 week thing but a life time, you seem like a very smart girl, just take your time, and good look in your journey!
2007-09-06 09:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by Ajlina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First it's not good to judge your life by others. It's evident you are a focused young lady as you should be at your age. Like you stated those persons do not even have themselves together, financially maybe not even emotionally, however; money does not make you happy. So the fact that you make more money is irrelevant. People should learn to love themselves before settling down, they should know the purpose and plan for their lives. Their finances should be in order, because after great sex, the bill collectors will still be calling. Find yourself, and don't envy others, when you're happy with yourself, that's when you ready to settle down, or you'll just make some poor soul miserable trying to make you happy. From the age of 28-32 is the best time to settle down, you have lived enough to learn from your own mistakes and others
2007-09-06 09:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by The Mrs. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you seeing anyone? You sound like the kind of person a lot of males would want to be with. You may need to find them. There are many good dating services out there, and you can also find good solid men at churches and temples. You talk about sex. I'm not sure what you mean. At 24 most people at least know what sex is. All the men you meet are not going to demand sex from you if you meet the right kind of guy. Have nothing to do with those who only want sex. Sex will come when a relationship reaches a certain point and you both will know when the right time comes. Sex is one of the most beautiful things in the world when it is with the right person.
2007-09-06 09:14:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st off, any time you come from need then you're coming from a position of weakness...2nd: I honestly don't know how any girl can possibly have your problem!...I know, I'm a guy going through the same sh*t as you! Don't you realize how good you got it? Not even the most fugly woman in the world faces rejection the way we men do...we have to approach you, ease your fears, wine & dine you just to find out if you'll give us the time of day-which is usually about where you girls like to drop the hammer on our hopes-lol! Just look at all the cr*p we guys go through-& fugly women have it even better than us...so just imagine how much better it really is for a cute chick like you!?! Honestly, I think your only problem is the company you keep, the men you choose & your inability to get out of your own head! Just relax, it could be worse...instead of being a cute 24 girl you could be a rough & rugged 27 year old man! Then you'd really have something to cry about!!!...LYAO-lol!
2007-09-06 09:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, a lot of men I have found would be intimidated by the fact that are so accomplished. You sound like you would be a great catch but maybe you just need to not look so hard, sometimes the best things are the things right in front of you but you are too busy looking for something else to notice.
I actually found my husband on Yahoo personals and know others who have done the same- maybe you should try that. Hope this helps!
2007-09-06 09:16:09 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah bear 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound very accomplished. Much like my bestfriend and soon me after I graduate in a few months. Try to humble yourself a little more around men. Show that you are down to earth. You may already be but men are easily intimidated by successful women that know they don't "need" a man in their life and are not afraid to show or say it. By showing you can be as cool as a cumcuber and less proud as a peecock you may start to have better luck. (No offense) You can also try dating older men in their 30s. You don't need to settle down now. That's just the quarter life crisis talk. You have your whole life ahead of you. Look at Tyra Banks; no kids, not married, and very successful and beautiful. Also, Selma Hyack; just married and pregnant recently. Continue your journey with out feeling rushed. You have plenty of time. Always remember, your age will catch up with your education but your accomplishments is what keeps you one step ahead.
2007-09-06 09:30:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why????? First you need to enjoy life and everything your income has to offer before you settle down and have kids. Yes from experience kids will take up all of your time and money. Get out there and live someone will come along when you least expect it and whamo your in love and married then you need to enjoy each other as married people for several years before you have kids and there isn't quite as much time for each other.
2007-09-06 09:12:37 · answer #9 · answered by zerlina208 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself out there. Go to speed dating, become flirtatious and assuming you have a degree of attractiveness, capitalize on it (maybe with a fashion consultant) and meet people/men. Then the hard part begins, because relationships become complex and take a great deal of work by both parties to survive the long haul. Remember the divorce rate is over 50% and the percentage is higher for married men who cheat.
2007-09-06 09:11:38 · answer #10 · answered by RM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have not attracted the right man for you yet,... It could be that you are closed off to men and you need to make sure you are letting the men you meet know that you are available emotionally and ready to move into a relationship with the right man.
And do look for the right man for you, dont just settle for anyone. you regret it later in life when they leave and you are stuck with the 2 kids and have to work 3 jobs to feed them
Good luck , your man is out there.
2007-09-06 09:12:48 · answer #11 · answered by xxgq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋