There's this guy that i met last yr in college & we started talking & hanging out. He moved back to Jersey for school & i'm still in Pa...we still have been keeping in contact. But, sometimes he doesn't call for like 3 months & then all of a sudden call out of the blue.
In July he actually called & started calling every other day for a whole month. Then in August he called still but less frequently. When he does call sometimes he says he'll call back the next day & doesn't until like 3 days later. It pisses me off & i've already mentioned it to him.
Recently he did the same thing again "I'll call u when I get home" And didn't call back until a few days afterwards, what is Up with guys....
Why say you'll call back if you don't plan on it?????
2007-09-06 09:02:19 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I forgot to mention that he has told me that he wants to talk to me still....& how he has trust issues when it comes to women because of a previous relationship......
and when he meets a girl that like him as well, he gets cautious
2007-09-06 09:23:53 · update #1
I forgot to mention that he has told me that he wants to talk to me still....& how he has trust issues when it comes to women because of a previous relationship......
and when he meets a girl that like him as well, he gets cautious
2007-09-06 09:23:54 · update #2
Yes, my point exactly! Some people just do not take their promises seriously. If you are not gonna call, don't say you will. I am with you sis!
2007-09-06 09:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I have had many of those. Guys are just guys. I've had sitautiosn where I had crushes on guys and they say they call me back the next day, but then no call from then until maybe the next week or so. My boyfriend does that sometimes too, where he said he will call me back in an hour and then it ends up to be like 8 hours or so. So maybe guys just don't want to seem too desperate. They do have an ego and a reputation to remain *rolls eyes* but don't worry about it, that's just how most guys are!
2007-09-06 09:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by Jordin K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't that in to you. I doubt his life is that hectic that he can completely forget about you for days on end and not keep to his arrangement with you. If you don't even cross his mind for days I would say either hey i like hearing from him when I do... but he isn't a good bet and he pry doesn't like me that much so I'll take this at face value OR if that is too painful and you know you will always hold out hope for more Move along!
Who's to say this guy might be a good bet in a few years when he gets less selfish and rude... but now he's a jerk and isn't that in to you. If he was he would call he would remember to call and he would be consistent. None of those things he is.
Sounds like you are flavor of the month off and on. Who really wants to be that? I know this sounds harsh and no one wants to believe this... but look at what you typed! This guy is treating you like you are completely forgettable and hurting your feelings and confusing you! He isn't really worth your time!
So take this at face value... which is pretty much a friendship when it is convenient to him... Or move along... I would go with that later.
2007-09-06 09:12:36 · answer #3 · answered by MelancHolly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, some guys do this on purpose to keep the girl wondering. They think if they call when they say they're going to call, the girl will think she has them "whipped," or that the guy is weak or desperate. Two more possibilities are that the guy is forgetful or he probably just got busy. If he doesn't explain about one or both of the last two reasons, or something understandable, he doesn't really care.
2007-09-06 09:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all perception. He said he'd call back. He did. The fact that it wasn't his #1 priority says that he's not as into you as you are into him. He's not trying to piss you off, yet in his mind he kept his word. He just got busy, slipped his mind whatever. That happens to guys IF you're not the #1 thing on his mind.
By the way, don't have sex with this guy. You might think, maybe I'd be more important to him then. But he's not worth it
2007-09-06 09:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ask myself that question all the time...why does my boyfriend say he'll call me back in 5 mins than decides to make it a day. I think you should move one because us girls needs a guy to call them when they say they will instead of playing games. I think he just calls you when he's bored or something because when he's busy and has stuff to do he decides not to call. Let him know what you feeling once more and if he can't understand where your coming from, move on!
2007-09-06 09:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say what is going thru his head. Maybe he does forget. But you mentioned it to him and he still does it. That says that he does not take your concerns seriously. Whether you have sex with him or not, I would not think he is anything more than a chance to blow off some steam. If you are a virgin please don't sleep with him. It won't mean anything to him. The first time is a gift to someone not to toss away. He may be a nice guy to hang out with, even to make out with. Not to date or have as anything more than an FB. Sorry, Hon.
2007-09-06 09:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by AmethystKittie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just have fun and live life. If this guy works out he does. But, dont close your options off for other guys. It sounds like he has an interest in you but, I think he has interest in other people 2. It sucks because us women take things so seriously even just a phone call. We feel connected easily. I dont think men have that same sense.
2007-09-06 09:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by HottShorty78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are jerks, it's what they do. Don't count on a guy because they'll always let you down. Find someone else, there's bound to be someone out there a little better who follows through with what they say. No one needs a man like that in their life. So, forget him!
2007-09-06 09:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by Jaz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't consider you important enough to call. He just shrugs it off as being unimportant. The next time he calls you should tell him that if he doesn't believe that your an important part of his life then he shouldn't bother calling you at all. I couldn't imagine not calling my girlfriend at least once a day.
2007-09-06 09:11:20 · answer #10 · answered by cireengineering 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not high on his priority list. Chances are that you are not getting phone calls for weeks at a time because he is chasing another skirt. When they lose interest in him, he returns to you because you keep taking his calls.
Keep talking to him but realize that you're probably not his first choice.
2007-09-07 17:14:50 · answer #11 · answered by reitz37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋