what you are trying to say"...Later on...this same person said " well, so and so understands and agrees"...NOW WAIT A MINUTE...i did NOT say i agree....should i just go up to her and say...NICELY..."i did not agree, i just was understanding you?"...what to do???
2007-09-06 08:59:15 · 11 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
lol i had a big argument with a friend about this exact matter...we just dropped it in the end...he said if u understand then u should also agree...and i said i understand but do not agree...it was a long argument that got nowhere...
just tell them that u said u understood but did not agree..
2007-09-06 09:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by win c 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"I understand" is one of those generic comments people make when they are listening to people. If it is causing problems, you could say, "I see" or something like that. It seems like someone is trying to make it out where you are on their side. Just tell the person you were just being polite by listening but that didn't mean you necessarily agreed.
2007-09-06 16:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone else should not be speaking for you!
You should approach the situation and say, "I understand your point of view - but do not necessarily agree with you."
You don't want someone speaking for you - that can cause problems!
2007-09-06 16:04:03 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle Zalbo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say "Although I understand what you are saying, I'm not necessarily AGREEING with you. UNDERSTAND??"
And you might want to re-think using "I understand" with these people Either that, or use the phrase above.
2007-09-06 16:04:51 · answer #4 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather than say "I understand," say either "I understand and agree with you," or "I disagree with you, but I understand your point."
Clarify this for the person on past issues if necessary. One should only paraphrase correctly, as this person is not doing - they should not say you agree if you have not explicitly said so.
2007-09-06 16:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just go up to her and nicely tell her you never agreed with her nor did you disagreed, you were just stating that you understood what she was trying to say. Then state whether you agree or disagree. I take it you disagreed?
2007-09-06 16:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Phrases like, "I understand," "I see your point," even "isn't that something," are often confused with acquiescence, so you probably should add "I understand what you're saying, but don't necessarily agree with you," in order to avoid confusion. What you're describing happens to everybody.
2007-09-06 16:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by Stephen L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say "Sorry I don't quite understand, can you explain it a little better" Then add your own point of few so that he/she sees that you are trying to understand, even if you don't. Or you can just nod and smile, then walk away.
2007-09-06 16:06:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should let her know politely that what you meant was that you understood her point/argument.. but that it did not necessarily meant that you agreed, and then you should go on stating what you actually thought about the point/argument she brought up.
2007-09-06 16:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by Patty melt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i think your right, just nicely go up to the person and say "when you said "insert thing here" i said i understood, but i never agreed." and than just forget about it. its probaley something not worth losing sleep over.
2007-09-06 16:03:20 · answer #10 · answered by knicker_please 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋