This girl I have been talking to called me up and invited me to this party. We've known each other for about 6 months now. We have tried to make plans to hang out in the past, but they have fallen through. We have only really hung out at the same place two or three times before, but usually she is working; however we still talk once and a while, and we message each other on the internet a lot. She asked me to go to this thing, but the day of, I kind of flaked out on her. It was off and on for a while, than it just didn't happen. I have sent her a message via myspace, but she has not responded. I can see that she has not read the message. I am getting kind of anxious, and feel like I acted pretty sketchy last weekend. Is this a major offense? Did I do something unforgivable. She has done similar things to me, but usually she writes me back. This is really depressing me, and I feel very anxious! Please help!
2007-09-06 08:52:31 · 12 answers · asked by 15fsg546rge1rrheljh45hjr90459ty3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personally, if I had been blown off I would have thought that the guy just wasn't interested so I wouldn't even bother with him if I did hear from him again.
2007-09-06 09:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I would be pissed, but I sure wouldn't give you the time of day any longer. All these messages and conversations and you haven't asked her out ? I wouldn't answer your messages either. I am sure she feels you have given her mixed signals all this time. She probably gave up and I don't blame her. WHy did you flake out on her? Seems if you really liked her you wouldn't have done that to her. NOW you are getting depressed and anxious? Hmmmm, could it be because you can't have her now?
2007-09-06 16:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by Paula D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, it just sounds like it isn't a happening thing. It may not be the right time; you both may not be in the same place mentally or emotionally..., I'd give her some time and if you think there is something really there then you need to tell her. It is a risk and you may be rejected but then at least you'll know where you stand.
2007-09-06 15:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So why did you flake out? You now have to prove to her that you are interested and that you aren't going to keep flaking out on her, give her some breathing room, because if you keep hounding her,she will never take you seriously, because she'll have no respect for you. Give it some time, and if she doesn't come around than take it as a life lesson that the next time a chance comes along you won't flake out again!!
2007-09-06 15:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by Bad_Kity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on her so it's hard to say how she feels. I feel like you should have called her and told her that you were not going to be able to make it. However, she should have done this in the past as well. Have you tried calling her since then? If not, you should have and see if she will return the call. See if you can talk to her on the IM.I guess depending on her and your reason for not going will determine if she will forgive you, so w/o me knowing what that is, I can't say that you should not be forgiven.
2007-09-06 16:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by starchild4485 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when guys do that kind of stuff to me I feel like they dont actually care about me they are just blowing me off. I mean eventually she WILL forgive you.... it was just a party. But I can see where she is coming from. Just work harder to see her more. Girls dont like the play hard to get game and even if that wasnt your intention that may be what she thinks. So just be super nice to herand eventually she will forgive you.
2007-09-06 15:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by Lemonade 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call her, leave a message and ask her to dinner and set a date for this dinner. If you like her, don't flake out ever again.
2007-09-06 16:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like a case of it's okay for her to brush you off but not the other way around. And if she is mad about it, let her get over it. don't pester her, don't send any more messages, she'll get back to you.
2007-09-06 15:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by melindiva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's just feeling like it isn't meant to be. I'd wait til she reads it before freaking out though.
2007-09-06 15:58:18 · answer #9 · answered by girlnextdoor409 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes a loser. to not understand that she has done the same thing. maybe shell come around. if not, u gotta go with the flow like u know u want to
2007-09-06 15:58:13 · answer #10 · answered by mysterious 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋