I was going to registe at stores but I kinda think in a year from now the things I want will change. The only store I was interested in registering at was Target and my mom says thats too cheap of a store to register at. I would prefer people just give cash if they want to, whats a good way of asking people to do that instead of gifts with out being tacky or coming off greedy?
2007-09-06 08:41:43 · 25 answers · asked by spadezgurl22 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
my sister did that.. originally she registered at the flight center and everyone was going to put money towards their plane tickets to and from their honeymoon destination . but they never went on their honeymoon, and everyone just gave her cash instead of the flight center place, she ended up with about 9,000
not one person who attended my sister's wedding thought it was rude or greedy ,because she didn't set a price minimum , so most people gave her either $100 , or $50 or even $20 depending on what they could afford , even $10 would have been accepted , but no-one was cheap enough to do that lol , it was so much easier than finding a gift .
you could just say in your own words , that you want money so it can go towards your honeymoon, and there is no set limit on how much they can give you , so even $20 would be ok...
2007-09-06 09:54:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is no way to tell your guests what to give you as a gift while being tactful. Gifts should not be mentioned on the invitations whatsoever, and the only time you should tell people your preference is when you are asked. Also, doing anything at a wedding that suggests the guests spend even more money on the couple than what they already have is also very tacky and rude. This includes money trees, dollar dances, auctions/raffles, and what ever else some tacky person comes up with. The reason these are against etiquette is because your guests should not feel obligated to spend more money on you after they've already given a gift, drove to the wedding with the outrageous cost of gas, and possibly even spent money on an outfit for the wedding. Bottom line, you may let your guests know by word-of-mouth your gift preference (again, let the guests ask you), but let that be the end of it.
2016-04-03 07:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isnt any way to do this without coming off tacky or rude or greedy. Its just not polite to do this.
Target is a great place to register at, the gifts are for you and your husband, not for your mother, so I wouldnt even consider her opinion on what store you register at.
The only way to go about getting cash gifts is to not register at all and let people go on their own. Most will ask if you are registered, but when they see that you are not most will decide to gift money to you rather than shop for you. But you will get gifts, some people dont like to give money so be prepared for some wacky stuff, thats really why you register, so that you will get things that are your taste and style.
2007-09-06 08:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
No matter how you slice it...asking for cash is tacky! Target is a great place to register but they are horrible at taking things back. Now, this may sound bad but there is a way around this. If you don't register anywhere, people will just buy gifts and you could end up with a ton of duplicates and having to run to a bunch of places returning things. Register at Bed Bath and Beyond. They are FABULOUS when it comes to returns. Your registry acts as your receipt and you can return items from your registry for cash. If someone buys something from there that wasn't actually on your registry, you can return it for store credit. Good luck!
2007-09-06 09:13:25 · answer #4 · answered by geistswoman 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
While you assume people will give you a gift, asking for one is saying you EXPECT one. That's tacky. A gift is a gift.
That's why you never put your registry information on the invite, and you never ask for cash.
By the way, Target has just about anything you could want, except really expensive linens and china and stuff. I'm sure you could find lots of things there that you would use if someone bought them for you. I am registered there...
Since you are afraid of your tastes changing, pick neutral colors. Get a solid comforter, or even a duvet cover instead, which would make it easy for you to change your bedding on a whim. Make a list of must-haves for your house or apartment (everyone is going to need a microwaves, basic dishes, towels, a vaccuum, etc.)
2007-09-06 09:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can't - it's tacky. Check out the Wedding Channel article below.
There is no such thing as a store that is "too cheap" to register at. Even if there were, Target wouldn't be one of them. I don't know about your mom, but I don't have a couple hundred bucks to throw around on a vacuum cleaner, patio furniture, or Calphalon cookware -- all of which are carried at Target. I'd say register there because you shop there. If you get things you ultimately decide you don't need, you can return them for a store credit.
I know others will disagree with me, but if I give a wedding gift to a couple just starting out on their own, I'd be MUCH happier knowing that they returned my wedding gift and bought things they actually needed (groceries, diapers, laundry soap, toilet paper, etc) -- rather than put my gift (a vase, candlesticks, a gravy boat, some other knick knack) in the back of a cupboard, never to see the light of day, or only brought out for dinner parties that never happen.
Congrats on your wedding, and good luck with the planning!
2007-09-06 08:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Asking for money always looks tacky and greedy. If you wanted to register at Target, do so!!! Goodness Target is too cheap? Well go for more expensive stuff on there. If you dont register people will probably go to Target and get you stuff anyways, stuff you may not want.
Other than that, dont register and inform your mother that when people call to find out where you are registered, she can tell them to give money or gift cards.
2007-09-06 09:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, I think Target is a great place to register! I registered there for my wedding... they have a lot of great things... they offer a lot on the website that you dont see in the stores. But if you would really rather have cash, then dont register anywhere and just pass it along through word of mouth that you prefer cash. Its innappropriate to actually put it in writing somewhere. And if you dont register at a store, people will probably get the hint.
2007-09-06 08:47:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
You can't and you don't. Registering is accepted these days. You can register at more than one place. Target is not too cheap. Try your local favorite department store for registering for china, if you want to. Try bed bath and beyond or linens n things. Just register for things that you need and will use. You don't have to register anywhere if you don't want to. It's likely that you'll get a fair amount of cash, anyway.
2007-09-06 08:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to ask for gifts (monetary or otherwise) without being tacky. If people ask you what you would like as a gift, you may tell them you prefer cash, but obviously you would not include any of that information on the invitation. Word of mouth would be the way to go.
As to where to register - Target is a perfectly acceptable place; you might also want to consider Amazon.com.
2007-09-06 08:48:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋