Have any of you been with a man that you knew you were going to marry. And you would be married (except the whole large amount of money at once for a wedding and rings). And the two of you wanted a child but didnt want to wait for the wedding? If so how did that work out? Also I am 21 and he is 29 any stories on have a child at either of those ages, struggles that might be due to age? I just want to be prepared. By the way we have a house, both have new cars, and good jobs. So we are able to provide for a child.
2007-09-06 08:41:22 · 10 answers · asked by DP 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Go for it. If you feel strongly about getting married, go to Vegas. My husband and I did not have nor want to spend stupid amounts of money to get married. We had lived together and the we found out we were pregnant, we bought tickets and boom! Done deal, I think the whole thing cost us $1000. Yes my mother was pissed, but she also wasn't going to help with 'her' dream wedding either. My husband is 8 years older than me, and it works out JUST FINE!
As long as you know that baby comes first, you'll be fine. Good luck to you, and if you both work at it, you will succeed.
2007-09-06 09:36:41 · answer #1 · answered by frameliner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait and get married first. If you think you can't afford a wedding now, having a child will not help matters any. Consider having a small family wedding, having the reception as a giant backyard BBQ party, it really doesn't matter the "trappings" as long as the people you love are there. Having a baby when you are married is hard, and I do realize that you can be just as committed and not be married, but that extra security is needed. And think of this. If you aren't married, and something happens during delivery, many states and hospitals do not allow non-blood relatives to make decisions.
2007-09-06 15:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I met in college and were together for two years before we decided to get married and start a family. We didn't have a huge budget to throw at a wedding, but it was important to us that we bring our child into a stable, established family. So we just planned our wedding on a budget :) We had a fantastic church wedding with an on-site reception, my parents and aunts graciously cooked ALL the food for the reception (and we invited 200 people!!) and a friend of the family made our beautiful cake for an incredible price! The biggest expenses were the DJ and the photographer :) The grand total for all wedding/reception expenses?? $5,500. Still quite a bit, BUT it was inexpensive enough that we still had a good sized savings account ready and waiting when our first baby was born :)
2007-09-06 16:06:41 · answer #3 · answered by western b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would wait. But just get married. When me and my hubbie decided that we wanted to get married we just went and did it. We spent $200.00 to rent a hall, my family made the food, my grandma made the cake, and my friends did the decorating. If you love him and you want to start that next chapter of your life than do it. Then have a baby. The picture (that my friend took) turned out wonderful and 4 and a half years and 2 children later I am so glad we didn't wait or waist the money. Besides you can spend it on a crib or something.
2007-09-06 15:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by Pdoodles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i married the man i was destined to marry. you dont need a big expensive wedding, if you want to get married get married. i am 29 he is 24 we were 24 and 19 when we married i was 25 when we had our son. life wasnt easy but it wasnt hard either
2007-09-06 15:52:25 · answer #5 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 21 and he's 20 been together since we were 12.. And we have 3 daughters all under 3 yrs old and we are just fine. We been together 8 yrs and aint married and don't plan to.. Money aint a reason its just marriage aint for me... I like my own last name and the way I am and marriage aint going to make any difference..
2007-09-06 15:48:36 · answer #6 · answered by Jesmo 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My husband is 37 and I am 30, we had children together before we got married and it has not negatively effected our ability to care for our children though it did piss off his parents.
2007-09-06 15:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by random_synchronicity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you cant afford to get married, what makes you htink you can afford a baby????
2007-09-06 15:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
very bad idea....
2007-09-06 16:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duh of course you can
2007-09-06 15:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by Adriel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋