I'm in highschool, and me and this guy can't get over eachother.
He is Jahova's Witness, and I'm not sure what to get him. Any help???
2007-09-06 08:18:43 · 35 answers · asked by Jane 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I want to add i am not a Jehovah's witness but am considering it.
2007-09-06 08:33:42 · update #1
The questioner seems to indicate that she is romantically involved with a Jehovah's Witness, and implies that she is not a Witness.
The best thing to give this young Witness is respect for his chastity and religious convictions. Devout Jehovah's Witnesses do not marry or date non-Witnesses. The Scriptures clearly instruct a true worshipper to marry only another true worshipper.
(Exodus 23:32) You are not to conclude a [marriage or other] covenant with them or their gods.
(Deuteronomy 7:3) And you must form no marriage alliance with [unbelievers]. Your daughter you must not give to his son, and his daughter you must not take for your son.
(1 Corinthians 7:39) She is free to be married to whom she wants, only in the Lord.
(Nehemiah 13:25) You should not give your daughters to [the unbeliever's] sons, and you should not accept any of their daughters for your sons or yourselves.
(2 Corinthians 6:14) Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers.
The Scriptures also warn against elevating human desires above godly teachings.
(2 Thessalonians 2:1-3) We request of you not to be quickly shaken from your reason... Let no one seduce you in any manner
(Romans 16:17-18) Keep your eye on those who cause ... stumbling contrary to the teaching that you have learned, and avoid them. ...by smooth talk and complimentary speech they seduce the hearts of guileless ones.
(2 Timothy 4:3-5) For there will be a period of time when they will not put up with the healthful teaching, but, in accord with their own desires, they will accumulate teachers for themselves to have their ears tickled... You, though, keep your senses in all things, suffer evil, do the work of an evangelizer, fully accomplish your ministry.
Learn more:
http://watchtower.org/e/19990215/article_01.htm
2007-09-06 08:23:17 · answer #1 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 12⤊ 7⤋
It's awesome that you two like each other and that you want to give him a gift! But just to give you a heads up; the comments that explain how Jehovah's Witnesses are very careful about who they get involved with is important to remember.
Dating is a very serious thing as it marks the point to where two people are striving to get married someday. If you feel that he is just a crush or a fling, then it would be best to not pursue the relationship any further.
On another note, JW's are counseled not to date anyone who is not of their faith and there are beneficial reasons to listen to that counsel.
The two faiths would intertwine and become chaotic and the couple would have arguements, disagreements, etc which would bring their marriage down and keep them apart emotionally. This has been the case with many Witnessess that have chosen that path and it is sad to see them half-empty.
2007-09-06 08:35:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. If you give him something and he takes it, you might suffer the embarrassment of him giving it back to you because he realizes he should not have encouraged this relationship in the first place.
Here is another situation:
He may be serious about every other facet of his faith, but if he is going against his religion in this regard, he might start going against more things.(1 Thessalonians 5:21,22) If part of the reason you like him is because of his religious beliefs, I'm sure it would hurt you if he rejected those things and started acting in ways or believing in things you would consider inappropriate. By giving him a gift, he might feel that you would welcome joining him in these bad things.
2007-09-06 12:43:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Acutally ..guy..made a very good suggestion..a Bible..They have their own Bible that is a lot different than everyone elses Bible..but since he is young, he probably doesn't realize this..A new Bible would be great..
I remember my now husband bought me a Bible..and in Psalms he had highlighted some beautiful scriptures for me. It was the nicest gift I ever recieved.
You could also, get him a nice braclet or something like that..just make sure it does not have a religious symbol on it..He will not wear it then...and it would hurt your feelings, although he wouldn't mean to ..It just they can't.
2007-09-06 08:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by angel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
JW's can give and receive gifts. Not for Bdays or xmas. Anniversaries are ok and just because is too.
I had a restauranr and baked a birthday cake for a girl, she brought it home and I made it nice cause she was cute as a button. I got a call from her mom saying I corrupted her. JW's take that stuff seriously. Later they came over and had a pizza and said the cake was great, but mama stayed home.
Go with caution
2007-09-06 08:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by frank 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am not a Jehovahs Witness and I know nothing about the faith, but I was curious about your question and I looked it up....
http://www.watchtower.org/e/rq/index.htm?article=article_11.htm
It is appropriate to "give gifts at other times of the year" (not Christmas, Easter or Birthdays) So I would assume it would be appropriate to recieve gifts as well.
Get him something tasteful- a tshirt or a gift certificate to a movie or something.
You are in high school- so you aren't going to marry him. Just because you learn about someone else's opinions, faith or beliefs doesnt mean you are going to change yours.
2007-09-06 08:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by niffer 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, if it's for a holiday such as a birthday or such, if he were a true Jehovahs Witness then he won't take it. He must not be too much into the religion or he would not like you, only because they don't stray from their religion. I know, I was one for alot of years.
2007-09-06 08:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by s c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jane ,you didn't say you were going to marry him at least not yet,and you didn't mention marrage so give what you wish. As Jws. all give gifts to each other ,you know him best and his likes and dislikes ,do he collect things like hats etc,there ya go.Now if you want to give me something while you're in the mood I need a new Snowmobile,lol.----Edit,,,Seriously in hindsight which is always easier the next answer -Tirshatra2001 is hitting on all points correctly in that well rounded out answer.
2007-09-06 14:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by hunter 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Jane. you have a variety of types of answers. the best thing i can tell you is if you are really considering becoming a witness do it for yourself. write the organization for a bible study, they will send a mature lady to study with you. go to your own bible and read 1 john 4:1 go by what the bible says not others.
give him a present as a friend, have you met his parents?
2007-09-07 02:15:42 · answer #9 · answered by rayhab 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Editted answer.
I stand corrected.
You need to be cautious,
u are getting into something you know nothing about.
1 of the sisters (tirshatha2001) spoke @ length concerning these issues.
Take her answer to heart.
The best gift u could give him; yourself, Really.
would be for u, urself to have a Bible study.
Then, u'd be beginning to know more about him.
Witnesses date, only to find out about compatibility for marriage.
2007-09-06 12:58:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Yes, leave him alone would be the best thing you could do for him. If you want to be a witness then great. But it is very difficult for someone who is a Witnesses to marry someone who isn't. They both have a miserable life.
2007-09-06 08:22:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 3⤋