Not for someone else but i'm tired of her lies and evey time we talk on the phone i can't do it,i don't want to hurt her but i'v gotta do this,any suggestions.
2007-09-06 07:51:02 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry.. it will hurt her no matter how you do it.
Just tell her face to face that you don't want to go out anymore.
Tell her why. but when you do.. own your reasons... "I feel...." "I don't want..." "I...." don't use "YOU don't do this.." or "YOU lie..." instead.... use...
"I need someone I can trust and I don't feel I can trust you"
"When you do this.. I feel.. and I don't want to feel like that anymore"
good luck.
do it in person.
2007-09-06 07:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know everyone says the same thing - be honest. And as good a thing as honesty is - it's not always the best policy. A lot of people are better off never knowing and will move on quicker and with less pain. I say just tell her that she is a wonderful person, but you just don't think this is what you are looking for. If she gets sad, or tries to convince you otherwise, just make sure to specify the whole "it's not you it's me thing" - It might not be true, but in the end, what's a little white lie? If you've been dating her for a while I'm sure you at least care for the girl, so just give her the chance to move on easily. Also, try to avoid contact afterwards as much as possible - Remember, out of sight - out of mind...
2007-09-06 08:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by questionmarkgrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't do it on the phone, and don't take these people seriously when they say sleep with her one last time. That's just sick on your part. Just tell her and be honest you just can't handle the lies anymore. This will help her be a better friend/girlfriend to others. She needs to know that lying will get her no where. Be truthful but nice about it. It's nice to hear that you don't want to hurt her feelings. I guess one thing to do is tell her your just not ready for a serious girlfriend right now if you don't want to say the truth. Good luck to you. Breaking up with someone is hard.
2007-09-06 08:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by Becca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to talk to you about our relationship. Sense we've been together we've had good and bad times, and the bad times are starting to out weigh the good.
We've changed over time and now have different views on things and I know that we would both have a better life if we weren't together as a couple.
We've tried every thing to make this work but it just isn't. I want to thank you for all the good times we've had together and I wish you nothing more than a perfect life.
Its disappointing to me not to have been the one, I so wanted to be, but our personalities just wont let that happen. Ill always love you as a friend.
I'm Sorry if this hurts you but its been hurting me for awhile now , wondering how to ever let such a good person go with out hurt you.
In time I hope that we can be friends. This relationship may not have been perfect but I'm glad it happened.
.Thank you
2007-09-06 08:17:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, say this isn't what you what you want a relationship. say you have tried but you aren't happy and would like to split ways. Everyone has the right to choose. If she cares about you it's going to hurt her no matter what you say. Have some consideration by not beating around the bush and making her feel like there still might be a chance...tell her the truth so she can begin to get over it. Best of Luck! :)
2007-09-06 07:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by laura_lovely_sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to leave her and that's where your heart is at then just tell her that our relationship is not working out for the best its just getting worst and I don't want to hurt you but my heart cant take being lied to anymore and I must end this now before its to late. The best way to do this is face to face over dinner just the two of you with no one else around that way she wont have to feel embarrassed.
2007-09-06 08:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by Ms B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's lying to you regularly then I don't think you should even feel bad about hurting her. You must have a very kind heart.
Just be honest. I'm sorry but this isn't working out and I don't want to see you anymore.
If she asks why. Just say, you know what? It's just over and why doesn't really matter.
I kind of hope she nags you until you loose your temper and tell her it's because she's a lying B****, she sounds like she deserves it but if not then you're off the hook.
good luck.
2007-09-06 07:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by Nic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with not doing it over the phone. do it in persona nd just tell her the truth. She might hate you for the first hour, but eventually she'll get over it. we dont' want to be with somebody who doesn't want to be with us. If she gotta tell lies and stuff, she giving us a bad name. Could you give more details like what she is lying about?
2007-09-06 08:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, tell her face to face you chicken sh*t. Be honest and tell her you can't deal with the lies. This way she can't say she has no idea why you broke up. And don't say let's be friends...that's leading her on that she can call you, stop by, stalk you. Make it clean...give her back anything that you think is wrong for you to keep.
C'mon....put on your big girl panties and just do it.
2007-09-06 07:59:05 · answer #9 · answered by mrsdeli 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to hurt her,thats definitive,on one way or another,but it would be nice if you dont brake up by message,go out with her and tell her everything, you cant write everything in a message,because there are always some things that you dont make clear after brake up.just tell her that it had to finish one day,and that day came.....nothing what is pretty lasts forever......i have experience... :)
2007-09-06 08:32:35 · answer #10 · answered by gabi_biker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all u have to talk to her in person...and if she lies to u it means that she doesn't really appreciate u...i don't think it's worth to keep on dating her...just tell her why u wanna break up with her...be honest...it may hurt her but in this kind of situations it's ok, for ur own good, to be a little bit selfish...good luck!!!
2007-09-06 07:58:08 · answer #11 · answered by belibebe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋