I do not want a actual wedding. Just him and I exchanging vows. Is this wrong as in my family and his would not be included. His family is over here on the east coast with us and my family is on the west. they have not met him. But I am wanting to get married and then have a reception or a gathering after I finish basic and then A.I.T. Is this an acceptable thing if this is what he and I want?
2007-09-06 07:41:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Why would it be wrong?
Its common nowadays.
Go for it!
2007-09-06 07:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a military brat and now a military wife. I've heard a lot of those kind of stories about hurrying up to get married before someone leaves for basic.... statistically its a really bad idea. A lot of people choose to get married just because they are joining the military. If you really want to get married, make sure that the main reason ISNT because you are going to basic. But other than that, I guess do what you want. My husband and I got married at a court house first before having a large ceremony and reception, but we made sure our parents were there... its important for parents to see their kids get married
2007-09-06 15:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it!
If you are worth having, you're worth waiting for.
When my military child called from the West Coast the day before she decided to marry, I was very upset. I knew it was the wrong thing to do, but she was 3000 miles away and not willing to listen to reason. "Marry in haste, repent at leisure" is a good axiom to remember.
Basic is very difficult. Don't encumber yourself. You will grow and mature more in basic than you have in the last few years.
Later, when things have settled down, if you both feel like you want to be married...do it WITH the family.
2007-09-06 15:12:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should wait. I was in the military and trust me there was a lot of females and males married in Basic but when they got out they divorced so fast because of things that happened in Basic. Trust me wait until you finish. And if you are going to get shipped to Iraq don't rush and get married because of that either just give it time. There is no rush because you love each other right? Don't rush sweetie give it time. Make sure it is something you both won't to do. Cause he could be marrying you because you are going to basic and know that you will be getting paid really go. Just wait it out.
2007-09-06 14:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by letitia.calloway 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Do it after. There is no need to rush things and after basic with a career on sight and having to relocate far away and/or being deployed is a harsh choice for a newlywed and he might not be up to it.
Wait until after AIT. You will be away from your bf for at least 2 months. let's see what happens in those two months and if you guys as a couple can cope with separation. If you can;t . then that answers yoru question and you will be saving yoruself a lot of trouble. If you can and become closer and stronger, then you both are ready for marriage.
Good luck
2007-09-06 14:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't get married until you are done with BT and AIT. Remember you will be gone a long time. 8 months is not easy to do when you have a spouse to think about. Also, give your families time to meet and bond. There's nothing worse than the 2 families not getting to meet beforehand.
Take your time...your rushing.
2007-09-06 14:52:36 · answer #6 · answered by mrsdeli 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You do it how YOU want it. I would just go to the Justice of the Peace, take a witness and be done with it. It is simple and easy.
You can decide on what you want later when you get done with everything. Not everyone needs a lavish wedding.
2007-09-06 14:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by heathermichelle9 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it should be acceptable, if you guy love each other and doing it for a great purpose then i dont see whats wrong with it. my husband and i just got married last month and he's in airforce and is currently in texas while i'm here in florida, i havent seen him in 5 months so i know what its like to feel lonely because we got married after he got out of BT. i'm going to be moving to cali with him in feb so i know i have something to look out for.... so do what your heart feels and make things right for the both of you. because only u knows whats best....
2007-09-06 19:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by lilruby052001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess. If you love one another then why not wait until after basic training. Get engaged now and have family help you plan it. You deserve a special day.
2007-09-06 14:45:45 · answer #9 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2007-09-07 09:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋