How forgiving would you be with your mate for unfaithfulness?

Answer 1

Forgiveness is one thing.
Being yoked to someone you cannot trust is another thing altogether. I would say it's on a case by case basis with people weighing out all the facts and making a decision one can live with.

Answer 2

Completely, and yes I speak from experience. Edit: We're still married and now have 2 children.

I seriously think that we are way too stuck on the notion that cheating is the worst thing that can happen. I'd posit that a healthy, loving relationship could stand if not benefit from an occasional "fling".

There are many ways for a marriage to fail but most of them are more involved than just have sex with a different partner.

Answer 3

Not at all. I am a bit strict in that area. I think if I am going to have a relationship with someone and they want it to be open, they should discuss this with me up front. If someone were to cheat on me- it would cost them my respect and my trust... I wouldn't even continue a friendship with them. BUT that's how I am- my life is far too short to waste sharing with someone who doesn't want me 100% and I am definitely a selfish lover. NOT ONLY THAT- but I seek out people with the same views as me in this case so we are on the same page, and when there are problems with a relationship I DISCUSS them with the other party so we STAY on the same page.

When I date someone, my interests are on that person. I lose a lot of interest in other women, and while I will gladly admit physical attraction to anyone- I would never act on it.

I blame good parenting. My parents rock.

Answer 4

Not much. I've had a friend who cheated and admitted to his wife but then they lived together for few more years then they ended getting a divorce. Looking back I see it was the Beginning of the End when he cheated on her. There are other similar stories. They all did the same. I had girlfriend who cheated on me by making a date with some guy when we're at a party. She denied it at first but then I proved her lies. Anyway, I ws very very hurt and didn't want to lose her but then few weeks went by and I lost all respect for her. Anything she was saying to me was all garbage to my ears. So I didn't want her any longer and dumped her. So yeah you'll lose respect for that person sooner or later. It's the beginning of the END. Sorry if it's not what you wanted hear.

Answer 5

I forgave my 1st wife for unfaithfulness while we were engaged. She swore she'd never cheat again so I took her back. We married and had a little girl . When our girl turned 2 this woman cheated on me again...then tried to come back..again. I said no.

It's one thing to forgive, we are required to forgive. But we are not required to trust.

Answer 6

A good friend from college is married, her husband had an affair with a co-worker. She was ready to walk out, but they went to counseling. Things have worked out well. He seems like a new guy, and to me their relationship is much stronger. I don't know if I could have stayed, I admire her.

Answer 7

If we had both agreed to be exclusive, I would feel betrayed and it would hard if not impossible to regain my trust. But if hadn't had the monogamy talk yet I would feel a little disappointed but I would immediately have the monogamy talk to see where the relationship was going.

Answer 8

You could try to understand what was missing in your own relationship which led your mate to search for it outside of the relationship.

Answer 9

I would completely forgive, but that doesn't mean I'd stick around.

Answer 10

Not very--that would be very difficult for me to be able to forgive him.