Question about invitations...?

Question

My bf and I were talking about what our invitations would say if we were to get married....his parents are divorced and remarried, mine are still married if both his and my parents contributed equally what would the invitations say? my bfs dad(bob) was remarried to (kim) and his mom (kelly) was remarried to (george). kelly and george are more like his parents then his dad ever was so would it say something like bob and kelly would request the honor of your presence....or george and kelly? he doesnt want to leave his dad out of the wedding because its his only son but his stepdad is a huge part of his life? we arent getting married for a while so we have time to figure it all out I was just wondering what it would look like. Sorry it must be really confusing!

Answer 1

Mr. and Mrs. your parents names
along with
Mr. and Mrs. George last name,
and Mr. and Mrs. Bob last name

request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their children

your name

to

his name

son of
Mrs. Kelly last name and Mr. Bob last name

(that way they know who the mother and father of your fiance are)

I think it's great that you want to include everyone, leaving anyone out would just cause hard feelings, and it's not worth it in the long run!

Good luck, and congrats on your upcoming nuptials.

Answer 2

An invitation to a formal social event (no matter how informal the dress, a wedding is a formal social event) isn't like a theater program where large donors get more space than small donors, so who is paying for what is irrelevant. You could follow the old tradition and issue invitations from the bride's parents. Or you could go with the more recent tradition and include the names of both sets of parents, as in
Mr & Mrs David Herside
request etc, etc their daughter
Miss Scrumptious Herside to
Mr Handsome Hisside, son of
Kelly Fitzgeorge and Bob Hisside etc etc.

If you re determined to fit in the fit in the names of bride, groom, and the six other closely involved people, I think you might need a billboard instead of an invitation. Perhaps it would be better to omit names except for the bride and groom and recognize all these important people with toasts and speeches.

Answer 3

Who is paying for the wedding doesn't dictate what the invitation says. It's just respectful to honour the parents by putting both sets of names on, and shows the relationship.
So, it's not hard at all to figure out your case -
Jane Linda,
daughter of Fred and Susan Smith,
and
Joseph William,
son of Bob (Kim) Jones and Kelly (George) New-last-name
request the honour of your presence....

Answer 4

Typical wording would read:

Mr. and Mrs. Smith
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Jane Anne
to
Jon Michael Doe
son of Kelly and George Jones
and Bob and Kim Doe

If everyone is contributing equally:

Together with their parents,
Jane Anne Smith
and
Jon Michael Doe
request the honour of your presence....

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Answer 5

Personally either put everyone on or else just list the names of the biological parents only. If you put everyone on, list the bride's mother and then father, then the groom's mother and then father. Or you could just say, the families of the bride and groom would like to request the honor of your presence....

BTW...save money on invitations....go buy the American Greeting Card software, get very nice heavy card stock for the outside and the lighter weight or sheer card stock for the inside and a laser printer...make your own. It saves big $$$. You can use hole punches and thread ribbon through them.

Just a suggestion.

Answer 6

Wow. That is quite the sticky situation. You could ask them how they would like to be presented on the invitations.

If that is too uncomfortable, I think you have several other options. You could write:

"(you and your boyfriend), along with their parents (or families), cordially invite you ..." or "The parents of (you and your boyfriend)"

or you could list each set of parents individually:
"your parents, along with Bob and Kim smith and Kelly and George Jones cordially invite you to..."

I'm sure there are plenty of combinations beyond these.

Congratulations and Good luck!

Answer 7

It really depends on how your bf feels. My cousin got married her parents are remarried. but the mom's new husband was more of a dad then the other one. So she only included the mom and the new husband. Said he has a more of a right to walk her down the aisle then the real dad.

Answer 8

Truthfully, the new "step-parents" don't need to be listed. How my friend did it was

Mr. and Mrs. Charles C. Miller & (dad and new spouse)
Ms. Rachel M. Wood (mom wasn't remarried)
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
Karen Percy Miller
to Michael Francis Jacobson son of
Mr. and Mrs. Francis Jacobson on
Saturday, the seventeenth of May
two thousand and eight
at half past four in the afternoon

Note:

A good rule of thumb is to list whomever is paying for the majority of the wedding, first. (her parents paid for all of it)


"request the honor of your presence" is traditionally only used if the ceremony is taking place in a house of worship.

Answer 9

Mr. and Mrs. John Jones (your parents)
Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Smith (His father & new wife)
Mr. and Mrs. Steven Simpson (his mother & her new husband)

(give the parents equal standing on the invitation)
This is not the time for resentments, hurts and fueds to enter a happy event like a marriage.

cordially invite you to the marriage of their their daughter and son or you could say their children

Stephanie
to
Joseph Jr.

on Saturday the 9th of October 2007
at 4:30 in the afternoon

at Christ's Church
123 Hampton Avenue
New Bedford, Massachusetts

Answer 10

Hi. With so many blended families now this is a good question!

Personally, I think with so many parents, it's best to do an invitation such as this:

Together with our parents
Susan Jo Johnson
and
Thomas David Smith
request the honor of your presence
as we are united in marriage on
[date]
[place] etc.

There are many places on the net that have tons of invitation wording examples with all the different scenarios.....parents divorced, step-family parents, parents are deceased, etc. Google in "wedding invitation wording ideas" and you will see lots!