hateful when talking to you whether they are just talking about whatever it may be or answering you. If so, how do you deal with this situation? Does it improve the longer you are together, and do you just ignore it IF it's not really bad? I really need some advice on this one.Thanks.
2007-09-06 06:46:37 · 9 answers · asked by starchild4485 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when this comes up sooner or later its going to bust. yes it is sounding really bad. you need to get moving on and find someone else you dont' want ot live your life witht hat forever and there are millions out there waiting for someone nice and respectable.
2007-09-12 17:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Starchild, you are in an abusive relationship, although it sounds like it is only verbal at this time. You don't need or want that kind of relationship. You don't mention your age, but anyone can be involved in an abusive relationship at any time in life. I speak from experience - married a man who gave off warning signals which I chose to ignore. Went from bad to worse. He had rented an apt in Mexico when he retired from being involved in different capacities in a school system his entire adult life. (I was in my early 50s.) I got bruised, had a knot on the back of my head the size of an orange when he decided to throw me down backward on a brick patio, lost a handful of hair to him and was called every name in the book. All because I stayed with him when I knew I should hit the road. But in Mexico, I was virtually and literally a prisoner. Locked in apt. when he left to eat, locked our bedroom door which I was afraid to break into and he always took the phone with him. I had no money, spoke very little Spanish and felt there was nothing I could do. I resent people who ask why a person in my situation doesn't leave...no money, no phone, no friends, language barrier, etc. I couldn't even contact my daughter when we did come back to the states. He was a trip...and I am still wishing I would have paid more attention to his actions and his words. Get out! Go to a crisis center, ask for shelter; go home to your parents and GET COUNSELING to get that self-esteem back up where it belongs! I certainly wish you the best and I sincerely mean it!
2007-09-14 06:09:37 · answer #2 · answered by nean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a bad day once in awhile. I usually look at my fiance and say excuse me, are you given me attitude? in a playful way and he usually laughs and we brush it off. But I was married to a verbally abusive man and he was always nasty to me. It started out just a little here and there than got worse. Needless to say, I divorced him. Just remember we are all human and when we are grumpy or having a bad day it is easy to take it out on the person that we are closes too. Let him know that you are there for him and he can talk to you when he is having a hard time but it hurts you when he speaks rudely to you and you don't treat him that way so you would like the same respect. Good luck.
2007-09-06 07:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by misbotta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad sign, stay clear of the donkey that honks! Well its in the Quran chapter 31 no one likes the sound especially The Lord he hates the sound from humans the most!
2007-09-13 17:53:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're asking this question we can sense this is bothering you.
No, do not ignore this. It sounds like someone has an anger problem and needs to heal his own pain.
You can't do it for him, you never will be able to heal his anger, he has to do it for himself.
I say, talk to him. If he denies it then you have a problem. If he can acknowledge his anger problem, then there may be hope only if he is willing to work on it.
2007-09-14 06:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by All That Glitters isn't Gold 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if its like this at the beginning it well grow worse as your need for respect & consideration gets more thirsty for it & your patience is slowly being chiped away....or it could mean your extra sensitive & take e/thing to personal when it just might mean hes comfortable but whichever the two it is you have to decide what is really good from the bad....cause you were never intended to be a door mat...
2007-09-14 03:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my x used to say nasty and hurtful things, especially if angry, which is why he is now my x.....
let him know how this makes u feel, if he doesn;t change then make a decision
2007-09-14 01:50:29 · answer #7 · answered by babybear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them how you feel.. if they are your friend they will try to not offend you..
2007-09-06 06:58:11 · answer #8 · answered by awjandbjj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them how you feel
2007-09-14 06:34:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋