my ex wanted to ask me smthn yesterday and he asked bout wat i thought bout the concept of friends with benefits .... and i said i thought it was cool. he was pretty shocked by my answer. then he said he wanted to tell me smthn...hes still sexually attracted to me . hes rlly confusing me and this is 4 days after the break up ....is he thinking of doing this with me?
2007-09-06 06:44:48 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't do it. One of you or both of you will end up getting hurt.
Save yourself the headache & heartache and just stay away.
2007-09-06 06:47:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he wants to have sex with you without the commitment. Don't be confused, since you told him you thought that was OK, that is all he wants. Now, how are you going to feel when he ignores you because he is with someone else? Think about how you are going to feel when he doesn't want to talk to you in front of the girl he really wants a true relationship with. Even though you think it is OK, you are giving him permission to do that with this arrangement. It doesn't feel good if you start caring for him again, take it from someone who knows, you'll feel some sadness every time. It's not a good scenerio, and someone usually gets hurt. And besides, if you want to date someone else, how will they feel about you sleeping with your "friend". Show yourself some self-respect. Even in your question it doesn't seem to think that you just want to sleep around. And with this arrangement, he doesn't want you back in an exclusive relationship. Don't be fooled.
2007-09-06 07:03:56 · answer #2 · answered by bpsgirl123 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a compliment...four days after breaking up with you he wants to have sex with you without the love stuff.
Hope you are sufficiently honored to tell him to stuff it.
Friends with benefits is a male way of saying lets play so I don't have to look for a girl I might have to spend money on or pay attention to.
If hes thinking of making you his f*ck partner, I hope you have the good sense to say no.
2007-09-06 06:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants sex from you and that is all. If you are cool with it, then it's fine, do it. But then, if you see him out with somebody on a date, you can't get jealous because you are his friend and that is it. Of course, he's sexually attracted to you and he said that because he needs some from you since he's used to you already. If you want a commitment, then this is not your guy. He's thinking of using you when you will allow yourself to be used by him.If this is what you want, great, if not, stay away from him.
2007-09-06 07:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by starchild4485 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is thinking of making you his booty call and that's it. It's like a boss wanting an ex employee to continue to work "as a favor" and not expect anything in return. It's pointless and will end up in heartache, do not allow yourself to be used by this guy. If he wanted you he would have you, and the right way.
2007-09-06 06:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by Survivor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the best way to still have sex with you without having to answer to you at all because you arent his girlfriend. And the whole point guys do this is to confuse you and when you try for somthing more like a relationship they make you feel like an idiot. Dont let him do that to you especially if he was the one hwo broke it off. He will just feel even more like he can drop you and pick you up whenever he wants.
2007-09-06 06:51:04 · answer #6 · answered by Vicky Lovers 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, you're not good enough for him as a girlfriend but you're good enough as a piece of a**. Makes no sense. Have a little dignity and self-respect. Don't go leaping into this loser's bed just for sex. It's not worth it and will only lead to confusion on your part. You deserve better than that.
2007-09-06 06:49:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're cool with the idea of having him around for sex ONLY with no emotional attachment - and you can handle it. Why not go for it? If you're attracted to him and can handle the fact that it is nothing other than just sex - it's a great arrangement.
But - if you think you'll get attached it's better for both of you to not even go there!
2007-09-06 06:50:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
4 Days.....tell him to take a hike. Give yourself some time and space to adjust and move on. Later, if you like the concept and can be friends with benefits and nothing more, more power to you.
2007-09-06 06:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by twanieskies 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all i dint think he ever wanted to break up it was more of a break perhaps or maybe he just wanted to see someone else on the side but still do things with u if he never wanted to break up with you in the first place though look for some clues on that like is he still say in he loves you and calling you alot if so then he isn't over you at all
2007-09-06 06:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋