My uncle's new bride is making us all pay for our own meals, and complaining because we won't help pay for any of the wedding.
2007-09-06 06:41:02 · 37 answers · asked by FavoredbyU 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I feel bad for your Uncle! Imagine what the rest of his life will be like!
It is tacky, if they can't afford to pay for their guests meals, then they should plan a smaller wedding, or a cheaper reception. If they want to get married, they should be able to pay for it. It is not your responsibility!
2007-09-06 06:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly C 3 · 10⤊ 1⤋
That is tacky and not wedding etiquette. You are the guests of the bride and groom and guests don't pay for their own food. Your uncle's new bride to be is really out of wack and she has some nerve. If I were you, I would not go to the wedding. Another thing you could do is refuse to eat at the wedding. Tell his fiance that you are eating before the wedding and it won't be necessary for you and your family to eat at the reception and that will give her a message that certainly will get through if she has half a brain.
All in all...this woman is so obnoxious that your uncle will be very unhappy I am sure when the wedding is over.
2007-09-06 11:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That takes rude to new heights.
Yes, to answer your question, it IS poor form. The HEIGHT of poor form. After all, you're guests at the wedding. Why would you pay for your own meal. And since when were guests responsible for paying for the party they're attending??
On a side note, I'm curious as to how many of the above answerers believe in the "you should give enough money as a wedding gift to 'cover the cost of your plate' philospohy." I'm sure not all of them do, but I be some of them do. I wonder if they realize that your uncle's new bride had the chutzpah to flat out ask for what they're expecting?
2007-09-06 07:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by sylvia 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was hopping that this was a joke. I seriously cannot believe that someone would tell their guests that they had to pay for their meals at a wedding. Good Grief! Do you have to pay for your meal at the rehearsal dinner too? Are you gonna have to pay for your seat at the ceremony/your parking spot/piece of cake? (just kidding of course)
If there was a problem with the budget then changes should have been made accordingly, but the guests should not be "punished" for that. Where all of the guests told about this up front????
*Tell your uncle I'm sorry! ;)
2007-09-06 07:36:41 · answer #4 · answered by betney109 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me but your uncles bride better take a back step and realize that people won't be coming . I sure as hell wouldn't be going if I had to pay for my food for her wedding . Secondly I wouldn't pay for any of the wedding either can't afford your own wedding don't have one and get married by Justice of the peace for $50-$100. Good luck with this decision.
2007-09-06 06:59:22 · answer #5 · answered by PJH 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
That is SO GHETTO! Wow. No way, if you are a guest at the wedding part of that includes the meal. Sometimes you have a no-host bar where people have to buy their own alcohol, but paying for your food? NO NO NO. Who is this woman? Is she insane? If you are forced to pay then I would attend the ceremony but not the reception. Or, if you really feel like you should pay then NO GIFT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-06 07:14:51 · answer #6 · answered by my_son_wants_to_know 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my.....where has SHE BEEN all her life! I have NEVER heard of this! And then to want you to help pay for the wedding too?
Tell her that YOU ARE paying for some of the wedding by having to go "dutch" to the reception. How rude! She needs a basic course on wedding etiquette.
2007-09-06 07:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like my aunt! She did the exact same thing when she married my uncle. Thankfully I wasn't around then but I never would have paid for my own meal. I'd think twice about even going. There is something wrong with that chick. That is completely tacky and just plain rude.
2007-09-06 07:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by Mekana 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I cant believe there making you pay for your own meals...I have never heard of such a thing. Maybe you should talk to your uncle about the hole thing and let him know she is being a spoiled brat about things, whining about how your not helping ( which your are if your paying for your meal), etc... You are a guest that has been invited out to share there special day, so be as polite as can be when talking to your uncle. Best wishes to you.
2007-09-06 06:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by typicalcagirl 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would write her a note saying due to the financial difficulty of paying for an expensive wedding meal that you are just not able to attend. I wouldn't send a gift either, or maybe I would donate something to a charity in their honor. She would totally hate that. What a tacky way to start your life as a couple.
2007-09-06 06:56:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is bad protocol. If your uncle and future aunt can't or won't pay for their wedding, they should either tone down the wedding, or elope.
Weddings aren't supposed to be fundraisers.
2007-09-06 06:56:33 · answer #11 · answered by bethanne 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋