My best friend and her boyfriend who's also a very good friend of mine just broke up. I was ofcourse planning to invite them both. Now that they broke up and she no longer wants to be his friend or know him at all should I not invite him for her sake? But he's a good friend of mine who was there for me before and I wanted him to be in my wedding.. my fiance doesnt like him that much either so I'm just really confused!! what do I do?
2007-09-06 06:22:32 · 37 answers · asked by I Am Jack's Wasted Life 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Invite who you want. It's your wedding, and their breakup is not your problem.
If they can't be adults and treat each other nice while they're at your wedding, maybe they shouldn't be your friends.
2007-09-06 06:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by Frinn 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That has nothing to do with your wedding! Surely that is not what your wedding is based on right? I'm sure you have a million other things to worry about than there drama. I know they are your friends and they will be OK without you for a short time. Regardless of there problems they should still be able to attend a ceremony and be civil. For gods sake divorced people still show up at the same places at times. They need to be adults! If not you need new friends! Concentrate on your plans this is your time don't let menial stuff ruin it!
2007-09-06 06:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Options:
-Invite them both. I imagine that one will not show up. Let the burden be on them.
-You can invite them initially with the proviso that they behave. You never know they may behave.
-Tell them they are invited, but if they are not comfortable that they don't have to go.
-Or invite one only to the wedding ceremony (you can draw for it) and they can both go to the reception but don't sit them near eachother. They should be able to move around one another in a room full of people.
-Tell them this is not about them. Explain that you can't choose between them, and they have to be willing to be mature. It's your wedding day and it's wrong for it to become about them.
-Maybe they will have suggestions as well. Talk to them more honestly and directly.
Hope this helps a little. ;)
2007-09-06 06:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your wedding and your friends are going to have to understand. If you want both friends there, that is your perogative! You didn't say if your best friend was going to be in your wedding or not, but I assume she is. If you still want her ex to be in your wedding, just pair them separately. They should be adult enough to be in the same room together for your sake. If they are not, let them be the ones to decide which one will not attend.
Does your fiance really really not like him, or just moderately? Will he be comfortable with him being in the wedding? If not, that could solve your dilemma too. It is your fiance's day as well, and he needs to be comfortable with his attendants.
I hope all goes well for you. Don't let this ruin your day. My philosophy about weddings is this: if you are going to laugh about something later, might as well laugh about it now!
Have a great day!
2007-09-06 06:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by Kathie Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to all 3 of them alone and let them know how you feel about this situation. Tell them you are friends with this person they have been there for you before and if there is anyways for just that one day... you special day... that they can get along with each other. I had about the samething happen to me except the other person wasn't in the wedding and just stopped in to tell me they were happy for me and they left without causing a scene. All you really can do is talk to them all.
2007-09-06 06:29:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say invite them both, but give both of them the heads up the each other is coming or you can just invite him to the reception, and not the wedding. I would not want any negative energy at my wedding. Good luck!
2007-09-06 06:28:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Invite them both, then leave it up to them to see if they feel comfortable coming. That way you can at least say you did the right thing and don't have to feel bad about it when you see either of them later on. Don't expect him to show, and be forgiving if he doesn't - he is probably still having issues with the break-up and may not be ready for the social scene. Do whats right so you can sleep at night.
2007-09-06 06:28:41 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetness 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well he is your friend and you say hes been there for you before. Your fiance doesnt like him and now your bestfriend hates him too but ultimately its your day and whatever y ou want to do. Im sure your best friend will get over it. Try to find her a date so she doesnt pay too much mind to him and also talk to this guy and see if ehs bringing an date. Remember the bride always gets what she wants!
2007-09-06 06:28:25 · answer #8 · answered by Vicky Lovers 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
One NEVER has enough good friends. I'd invite them both and let them deal with the presence of the other. You might want to let them know what you are doing.
2007-09-06 06:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite them both. They're adults, they need to deal with it. Seat them at different tables WAY across the room from each other. Who knows, they may get back together before the wedding...
2007-09-06 06:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by justme 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Them breaking up jas nothing to do with you and your wedding. Invite them both but I would say they need to put their differences aside for day. If they both care about you they will do that.
2007-09-06 06:33:14 · answer #11 · answered by Denise T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋