ok so my baby shower is this sunday...yes i helped plan it...ne way...i always assume that if u dont specifically write on an invitation someones name then that means only the person whos name IS on the invitation should be coming...now my fiancee has 3 sisters all have kids aged 4 n under...the 1 sister did the right thing and ask if her kids could come n i said were not having any kids just adults so after that i figured we should call the other ones just in case...well the 1 of the FLIPS out n says shes not coming n making a big deal...now im pretty sure i shouldnt feel bad bc its just common knowledge that u dont bring children to a baby shower UNLESS ur told u can...i just wanna see if im wrong in ne way????
2007-09-06 06:08:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It's your party. You can have whoever you want to have. I wouldn't want to come to a baby shower that had a bunch of kids running around. In my opinion, you're not in the wrong. Your future sister-in-law is.
2007-09-06 06:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not wrong! Unless you specifically state "& family", etc. she should not have presumed that she could bring the whole tribe. There's no reason why little ones have to be at a shower. Couldn't the planner have someone available to sit with the rugrats elsewhere so that the parent(s) and guests can enjoy themselves without the disruptions the little ones are bound to create? They want to be the center of attention, and at that event, it's the mom-to-be that's the star. It's not like it's a birthday party, where there's usually fun for all. A shower of any type is an ADULT gathering, unless specified beforehand. People shouldn't presume that their kids are welcome wherever they go, particularly at an event such as this. When my kids were little, I ALWAYS made sure that it was ok to bring them to certain places. If it wasn't, I made other arrangements for them, with no big deal on my part. After all, parents need breaks too!
2007-09-06 06:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by N L 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can do whatever you want-it's your party.
However, I have to say that "no kids" at a celebration FOR an impending kid is ridiculous. No kids implies an adult only affair, a celebration that is swanky enough to eliminate running, playing, loud kids.
Whatever happened to "the more the merrier" and the fact that if you don't invite children or allow them to come, many of the women won't be able to attend your celebration? I think you are wrong in this instance. Kids would just play away from you all anyway-what's the harm? It's not like you are having a black tie baby shower! I truly believe that children enhance a celebration and won't in any way take away from your glory on your shower day.
I think that not wanting kids at a party to celebrate your child is selfish-I suppose it is nice to get all the attention, but think about it in different terms. You are celebrating a birth of a child-eliminating children altogether and then bitching about it and making a deal of having them there doesn't seem reasonable given the type of celebration you are having.
2007-09-06 07:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by missy s 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Your stressed and on bed rest and not feeling well, but you are having a party of over 50 people? Half those people wont show up if you tell them to not bring their kids along.. I know I wouldn't. Have a small gathering of 20 women then, and as someone else said... leave the huge party for after when the baby has arrived. You are having a child in a few weeks, yet you are telling people to not bring their kids over to celebrate your child. I just don't get it. Listen to the 3 posters above me... couldn't have said it better myself.
2016-05-22 20:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would they bring a bunch of kids under 3? That's just rude, in my opinion. When I had my shower, for my second son, my other son was there and my friends asked if their kids could come. Of course, I said yes and I'm glad they had the good manners to ask. Your sister in law sound like a drama queen. Just call her and explain yourself. Tell her it;s nothing against her kids (even if it is) but you just want a day for you and your girlfriends. If she can't understand and respect that, then maybe it's a good thing that she doesn't come.
2007-09-06 07:46:44 · answer #5 · answered by Shelley L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, kids can be a distraction at an adults only shower. But, I think it should have been on the invite, never assume. Being that its this Sunday, thats pretty short notice.
2007-09-06 06:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by lillilou 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you!!!!
I did bring mine one time but she was a brand new born and my husband was working and I would not leave my baby at that time. It was a friend and ex co worker and I asked her first our babies were born within a few weeks of each other and she was fine with it. She slept the whole time and I put her where I could see her, and did not make her the center of attention.
2007-09-06 06:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Coffee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree and disagree,
no the invited guests shouldnt bring their kids unless you have someone watching kids like a friends teenage daughter.
your older children should be included and given a gift. also so they dont feel like they are being replaced
2007-09-06 06:23:43 · answer #8 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you would not want everyone there to share in your joy! I think the kids should get to come also and if they get out of line the person throwing the shower should ask them to go into the other room for awhile! We had men, women and kids at mine!
2007-09-06 07:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't always assume, it should of been on the invite. Oh coarse she's going to be upset this is going to be he niece or nephew and maybe your child's cousins wanted to to be there to share your special day with you. Maybe she'll remember this is you ever need a babysitter.
2007-09-06 06:30:23 · answer #10 · answered by Leigh Lee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋