I am 17 years old and im dating this guy who is 24 almost 25..and the age thing works for us.. my mo s ok with it before anyone says anthing. Anyways, we have decided to wait to have sex until I'm 18 to prove my mom that we can wait that long and plus to make sure im ready... the thing is.. How will i know when im ready... I by the way we've been datin for almost a year now( Sept. 16th = 1year!)
2007-09-06 05:33:52 · 28 answers · asked by angela w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, it's not about age. I know I wasn't emotionally ready for sex when I was 18 years old, regardless of whether I was a legal adult in the eyes of the law. Then again, though, I didn't have a steady boyfriend at age 18 either. If you're in love, it's different. You'll know you're ready when the day comes that the idea of sex gets you excited without getting you scared, panicky, or nervous. I am guessing you guys do "other" stuff in the meantime, and it will probably just progress in intensity until you just go for the full monty. I will say this, though- don't just go ahead and do it on your 18th birthday because you're 18. If you still don't feel ready by then, wait a little longer. If he really loes you, he'll wait too. However, don't wait too long either, because to be frank, the first time is nothing to write home about, and you might as well just get it over with when you feel comfortable enough, so you two can go on to have a healthy, fulfilling life together. And get on birth control before you do anything!!! Please!
2007-09-06 05:43:40 · answer #1 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll know when ur ready. Everything will just fall into place and feel right. U've already got a good guy if he was willing to wait two years for sex with u. A lot of guys would just date and adult for the sex. But he seems like he likes u and is willing to wait. Right now, ur waiting becaUse u haVe to. But next year, u'll start to wonder if u should wait because u want to. When U want to have sex, u'll know. That's when u need to figure out y? Hormones, or just because u love him or whatever. Then u need to see if u can handle the consequences of sex. Preganancy, diseas, emotions. Really think about these things. Then if u know u can handle it, and still want to do it. Go for it.
2007-09-06 05:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you've been able to wait for so long, I used to say I was gonna wait until marriage but I met this guy I thought I loved last summer, and ended up losing my virginity to him, when I was almost 20. I felt like I was ready but unfortunately that relationship didnt work out, and sometimes I regret ever doing it. So make sure you think about things like that before, also think about pregnancy and STDs, sometimes being a virgin is a lot better. Just make sure you're a 100 percent ready, and you really love this guy. Good Luck!!!!
2007-09-06 07:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a lot to think about, but not anytime soon. It is not illegal for you to have concentual sex at this age, yet it may be damaging. Not you or anyone else can tell you how long this relationship will last or how you feel. By now you should know the ramifications of having sex...ie. pregnancy and STD's even life threatning diseases. Knowing this is very important to your decision. I suggest having him tested if he has had prior partners for decision purposes.
You will never know when you are ready until you are in that moment. You may not even know until he has penetrated you. If after thinking things over and turning 18 you are in that moment and things like "this does not feel good" or "do I really love him" "does he love me" "will he love me after this" "is this right" go through your head then chances are you are not ready. Immediately stop him and talk about the questions you were asking yourself. When you are comfortable with his answers and relaxed then try again.
Don't forget your mom probably has had the same experience or thoughts. You would be surprised how open parents are to your thoughts and questions. Do not think she will judge you or yell at you. She will actually be happy that you came to her. Approach her with this line..."Mom I know we don't talk about sex much, but I want to make sure I'm doing the right thing. Please be as honest as possible with me. I'm not claiming to be grown, but I am getting older and I have these feeling of.........(whatever your feelings are)"
ps!
Asking this question does not mean you are not ready. It means you would like to know about other's experiences and how they knew they were ready. Do not be ashamed or feel immature. Most women at some age feel this way.
Keep asking and thinking, and BE SAFE please!
2007-09-06 05:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are acting responsible.As far as the age difference,its not too much of a spread.As far as how you will know when your ready? You will just know, don't do it for your mother.If you are together when you are 18, why not get married first? Yes, a bit old fashion, but the right thing to do.Then you will know for sure this man really loves you...and is not just waiting until you are 18 to get some action!!
2007-09-06 05:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by debi jean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I want to point out the irony that you put you personal question on Yahoo Answers. There is no age you will reach that will magically make your special parts ready for sex. When you are ready (whether its tomorrow or when you're 98) you'll know. But I've always felt like this, could you tell your parents? My parents know when I lost my virginity because I told them, the fact that I could do that let me know that I was ready to make such an adult step
2007-09-06 05:43:08 · answer #6 · answered by reedy112 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will know when you are ready - if you have to question it, you are not ready. Great idea on waiting until you are 18 though! You should also see a ob/gyn before starting to be sexually active. You should go on birth control too.
I don't like the fact you feel like you have to prove to your mom you can wait to have sex. You should be waiting because it is the right thing to do.
2007-09-06 05:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you know that it is illegal for him to have sex with you before you're 18? Even if you and your mom say its "ok." I guarantee you that he knows. Every guy does!
Nothing is less sexy than someone saying, "ok, lets have sex now." Lame. The moment should just be there. You can't tell me that you've never thought about this guy and wanted to jump his bones. If you haven't, then you have no business having sex with him. Don't have sex with him just because you're 18...thats called pitty sex. "Well, I guess its time...here you go." Make him earn it! You're a woman, it will come naturally to you.
2007-09-06 05:41:46 · answer #8 · answered by nemorino147 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will know! This may sound a little silly but, something in side you tells you it's right.. I was 16 my first time and I remember it was a passionate moment but I knew I was ready. Your mind will also tell you and make you feel guilty.
2007-09-06 05:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by Denise T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one cannot tell when you will be ready but you will know when you get that special feeling . its good that you guy are really bonding before that grand ocassion it shows he is really into not just for sex but for everything else so good luck in you ongoing relationship and hope he is the one the one to make all your dreams come true
2007-09-06 05:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by sexygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋