we seem to be in love with each other. we both play an online game and met through that. we started saying "i love you" after a month or so. we talk everyday, we webcam and we seem to be very compatible.
he is single, he was seeing a girl this summer but that girl dumped him cause he told her about "us." the girl didn't want to wait around for him to chose which girl he liked better.
anyway, i'm 24 and he is 28. i am suppose to fly out tomorrow for six days. he still lives w/ his mother and i've spoken to his mother.
also, i don't think he'll go back to that other girl after he meets me eventhough that other girl was his first.
2007-09-06 05:08:50 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are just asking now?
Nope.. not unless your ticket allows you to fly back the next day!
soo.. a 28 year old guy that lives with his mother and plays games online?
toooo many red-flags for me!
If HE wants to meet you.. fine.. but i wouldn't lift a finger to go to him.
2007-09-06 05:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by .... 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-01 09:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by Letha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On line is a risky way to meet someone with whom you are considering a serious relationship. This doesn't mean it can't work, but you are taking a bigger chance.
This 28 year old, who still lives with his mother, spends a great deal of time on line playing a game. Ask yourself if this is the kind of person you want to commit to. And remember, it is easy to create a false impression over the internet. For example, you say you have spoken to his mother, but in reality you have no idea who that person was. Maybe it was his mother, maybe it wasn't.
If the expense of the trip is not a big deal to you and you can afford to "waste" the time and energy, should it turn out to be that, then it's really a roll of the dice that you have to make.
One other thing though, make sure someone you know and trust knows exactly where you are going and where they supposedly live. Make sure someone has this person's e-mail address so that they can be traced if necessary by law enforcement. Arrange to call this person every other day with the understanding that if you don't call, something is wrong.
2007-09-06 05:30:43 · answer #3 · answered by nevit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seariously, are you that naieve. No isult intended, but come on. Red Flag #1, he lives with his mother, #2 he is having you come to him and his environment
#3 x girl wasn't an x when you started talking, #4 "i love you afet a month. You don't even know eachother to say that, thats CREEPY, #5 played online games at 28 yrs, old. Who hase time for that at 28, he should be working and being active. all you know of him is what he says online or the phone, which could be anything he wants to make up or say. He could be a pervert, married, etc... have you even went and payed 20.00 at the police station to get a background check on him, or are you relying on his so called mother which could have been anyone. Who paid for the ticket? He could be expecting a lot more from you than you think. How do you know he doesn't have std, or is a sexual preditor. This is all naieve, and the kind of thing that makes headlines. Don't go
2007-09-06 05:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally I think it's a bad idea but it sounds like you really do want to go and you two have an actual relationship. Be safe about it, stay at a hotel, rent your own car, tell several people where you are going and all the hotel info and even contact information about him. If you have any good quality pictures print them off and put them someplace in case something does happen. I know you won't want to but honestly it's safer to assume he's a psycho of some sort and be proven wrong or to think your meeting a great 28-year-old and be proven wrong. stay safe, have fun make sure people know where you are and you have the cash and means to get away on the off chance that anything goes wrong.
2007-09-06 05:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by Manny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not impossible for relationships formed over the internet to work by any means. Sounds like he's a pretty honest and fair enough guy.
You may want to consider how the long-distance will work though.
Normally before you move in with someone, you've known and dated them for a couple of years before hand. You won't be able to have this type of interaction over the computer and only seeing him for one weekend every other month or so will force you into a situation where you could commit yourself without knowing him properly.
Just be careful.
2007-09-06 05:14:08 · answer #6 · answered by Adam L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're willing to fly that far & spend that kind of $ to meet up with someone you've never actually seen in person?! Do not, I repeat, DO NOT get your hopes up. It could turn out to be a total waste of time and what if he ditches ya and never shows up? had a sort of similar experience--except I had actually met the guy before we started corresponding. Then, when he finally happened to be in town for family stuff...he never even tried to contact me to get together. I got majorly peeved and now we're not talking.
2007-09-06 06:14:47 · answer #7 · answered by TeddyJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be super careful with who you meet online. I dont know that I would be comfortable knowing I won by default. Long distance relationships are hard to say the least. When you throw everything else on top of its a mess waiting to happen. Be careful and take it slow. Just enjoy your time together online until your sure. If you were sure you wouldnt be questioning yourself.
2007-09-06 05:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't...how do you know he's really who he says he is? For all you know, he could really be a 50-year-old Internet predator. Just the fact that he still lives with Mom is a major red flag, don't you think? If you really want to see if he is who he says he is, I suggest flying out, but NOT staying with him- get a hotel room out there, and just meet him somewhere neutral, like a restaurant or mall. That way if he appears to be a creepster, you can bolt safely.
2007-09-06 05:16:04 · answer #9 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seems like you already have your mind set up on doing it, so I'll just wish you the best of luck and hope that you have an awesome trip and return home safely. Be careful, be very careful.
2007-09-06 05:15:05 · answer #10 · answered by bobbyjay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋