my one year old son hits me?

Question

my son who is one jits me and throughs fits when i am home allone with him but when his dad is home he is the perfect little angel. how do i get him to stop hitting me

Answer 1

When he tries to hit you, gently take his hand and say "NO! Do not hit, please". Then, take his hand and kiss his palm, and put his hand down by his side. I've learned that if you continue doing something long enough, it becomes a habit, even with a little one. Children learn by example. All little ones will try to hit, bite, throw things, say nasty words they've heard, and throw tantrums. Some are worse than others, depending on how the parent handles them. When my kids threw tantrums, I walked out of the room, allowing them to kick, scream and pound on the floor. If they started trying to break stuff, I'd remove them to their own room, and close their door, allowing them to break their own stuff. If they've broken their own things, I'd show them that it now is garbage, and throw it away, no matter how much of a tantrum they throw. Let them know that their actions have consequences. That's what they'll have to learn before you turn them loose in the real world. You can't be his friend...now or never. You are his Mom. When he's reached 18, you then become hsi advisor, no longer in control of his life. So, teach him all he'll need to know now, because your time with him will be shorter than you can ever know. My two are in their mid 20's now, and all I can do is advise them, based on my own experiences. You have the control now. Take it and turn your little one into a responsible, polite adult. Too many parents now days are trying too hard to be their kids' friends instead of the parent that they should be. Your kid will hate you, at some point in his life, no matter how much you spoil him and give in to him. Make the rest of us glad you took the time to set him straight, 'cause it's us that he'll be dealing with when he cuts loose of your apron strings. And no, you don't need to hit him. Have you ever watched any of the Supernanny shows, or Nanny 911? Every parent needs to see how these nannys turn the most nasty of kids into kids that are cooperative and most pleasant. They work on the parents, as well as the kids, because the parents have taught their kids to act that way. My best advice to any parent who's having a hard time with their kids is to listen to what they're saying. Spend time with them, even if you don't have much time. You are raising the next generation. It's a huge responsibility you are undertaking. I'm glad you're seeking help for your situation. Many parents would just plug along, allowing their kid to do whatever they wanted to do. That rarely gets better. If you can, watch some of those Nanny programs. It really helps. <*)))><

Answer 2

Cruelty to animals is usually not a good sign in a child. Contact his Pediatrician and let him know in full detail what he does. And a better spanking could help. Let him feel it like what he is doing to them, if not try time out setting him in the corner, facing the corner. Be consistent. That is not good when kids are mistreating animals. Google this and see what it says. The dog will eventually bite him. He could wind up terribly hurt. If you are staying with your son and he doesn't have to much time on his hands wandering around the house then he won't have time to be around the animals much. Keep your son with you as much as possible. Make sure you are not arguing with a spouse or ex spouse around your son and that if he has been through such, then take him to see a psychologist or his Pedi. That is usually where this stems from. He has some type of anger issue.

Answer 3

Your son has obviously learned that he has control over you when your husband is not around. He is only one now, but if you let his behavior continue, it will only get worse and not only will you have to deal with it at home but in public as well.

You have to show him that you have the upper hand and you will not tolerate it. If he acts up when your husband is not around, I say a small spank on the butt, followed by a time out should do the trick. Be sure to be very consistent. I believe that consistency is the key when dealing with small children. Do not give in, to quiet him down. Of course award him by letting him play with his toys and a small treat when he behaves good on his own. I hope this helped!

Answer 4

I know I am going to sound like everyone else and you will probably roll your eyes... but Time out! I have 2 boys that will physically lash out when ticked off with me. My youngest is 3. He will kick stuff, throw toys, and try to dig up my arms(behaviors that he learned from his big brother). Put him in a corner facing out and tell him STERNLY NO! You DO NOT hit!. Make him stay there for one minute( 1 minute for each year of life). He thinks he is the boss. You have to show him he is NOT. Dont have Dad disapline because that is making conflict between him and dad for a problem that is YOURS. Good Luck

Answer 5

Spanking is not about hurting, and it should not be, it is about humiliation. Humiliation is good for the soul. It lets you know that you should be ashamed (not just sorry) for what you have done.

Beating is different than disciplining.

Spanking worked for 100s of years, but now it is all of the sudden "wrong", and the kids are running (and ruining) the schools, the families, they're cutting themselves, starving themselves, taking drugs at younger ages, having sex at younger ages. I realize that there are many factors that influence this, but the #1 reason is limp wristed parenting.

Get tough. You are his boss, and what you say goes! He will love you even more for it.

Answer 6

That's when you gotta put your foot down.. and say NO. It's not nice, and Mommy ain't gonna put up with it. It doesn't matter if he cries. Show him whos boss.. If not later on you'll end up paying for raising such a spoiled kid. He will have no respect for you, and think he can have his way everytime. Mommy doesn't do nothing about it anyways lol

Answer 7

WOW that is a tough sitiuation. It is because his dad gives the discipline correct? You are going to have to be the mom and enforce what you tell him and never give. He sees that he can get away with things with you and not dad. I say this because I see the same situation with my niece's son. Your situation may be different and it is hard to know with out seeing but from what you said it seems like this is what is going on. Be strong momma! Good luck!

Answer 8

I'm willing to bet he's good for your husband because your husband doesn't let him get away with that. Next time he hits you, grab his hand and tell him "NO!" Let him no he has done something that you are displeased with. If he does it again, smack him on the hand.

Answer 9

oh my goodness,same here,,my son is perfect for daddy but when we are together he is hitting me tacking me,,,I was told by a thearpist that why a boy is more aggressive with mommy is due to that,, daddy plays more wrestlingly,,,,,like football tackles,,,and pillow fights,,u no boy things,,,


I dont play like that,,i play like a mommy,,,,ie :paddy cake and singing and my son gets bored and wants to tackle,,,
good luck,,,boys are still great!!!

Answer 10

How did he learn that??? Is hubby hitting you? If your family situation is not an abusive one and this is just somehting he started, you need to put him in time outs and when he is finished with his time out you need to talk to him about why he got the time out. your hubby will need to back you up too. there is a reason why your son is the perfectangel when dad is around an a little sh**** when he is not