Almost everybody in my family turned their back on my mother because of her ways. (lies, double crossing, gossip, just crazy) I am getting married soon and our guest list is near 200 with only family and our (bride and groom's) friends. She knows that nobody in the family will talk to her. She wants to invite the people from her church to come to the wedding. They are her only freinds because they haven't known her long enough. We have seen them before but do not hardly know them. I don't know what to do. I want everybody to be happy, but it is her fault nobody in the family talks to her.
2007-09-06 04:26:52 · 8 answers · asked by secretcuriosity04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Almost everybody in my family turned their back on my mother because of her ways. (lies, double crossing, gossip, just crazy) I am getting married soon and our guest list is near 200 with only family and our (bride and groom's) friends. She knows that nobody in the family will talk to her. She wants to invite the people from her church to come to the wedding. They are her only freinds because they haven't known her long enough. We have seen them before but do not hardly know them. I don't know what to do. I want everybody to be happy, but it is her fault nobody in the family talks to her.
**UPDATE**
Sorry... I should have specified that I am the groom. Also my mother is married to my step father and will be attending with him and my two sisters.
2007-09-06 05:42:00 · update #1
Oops. I thought it was going to erase the original details.
2007-09-06 05:42:45 · update #2
I agree with Jeanette, let her invite a guest. It will keep her happy, and the guest list low. If she isn't happy with that, sorry, but that is all the room your budget and the space will allow. It's up to her if she still wants to come or not.
From your post, it doesn't sound like she would be missed.
2007-09-06 04:51:31 · answer #1 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have yet to see a complete family that would not at least be cordial to someone at their own daughters wedding. They may not like her but they will 'speak' to her.
If she is unattached, I like Jeanette's idea of letting her bring a guest, as you probably would allow any single adult. Do not let her talk you in to bringing anyone but her one guest - she has to decide who it will be. This will give her someone to talk to but not allow her to ignore the rest of the guests the way it sounds like she would like to.
This could also be used as an occasion by her to try to mend some hurt feelings. If she has 'church friends', I imagine that she's either trying to turn a new leaf (or trying to hoodwink another group of people) and if so, you can play in to that by telling her to take this opportunity to be nice to the people she's wronged in the past. That it's the Christian thing to do.
Good Luck!
2007-09-06 11:46:30 · answer #2 · answered by Cory C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just invite her and a guest. Your guest list is already too long. Who is paying for this anyways? Not her I will guess.
She is the one who burnt her bridges. You are doing enough for her just having her there, at least letting her invite one guest, she will have at least one person to talk to....probably 2 because I am sure you will talk to her.
Good luck
2007-09-07 05:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well she is your mother. Maybe your mother plus one guest like in any couple invite would be a good idea. that way she will be busy entertaining and not getting up to mischief but i would let her go inviting a number of people as it is your day. im allowing people i dont know in mine because its expected. the things we do...
2007-09-06 11:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could invite her and a guest... if she wants to show-off to her church friends ( which sounds that way to me ) then she can put together a photo album and show it off to them that way.... this is your wedding and you get to make the guest list.
2007-09-06 11:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by Jeanette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't you allow her a few friends? If she really is mentally ill, it isn't her fault. Can you just imagine how sad it is her whole family turned their backs on her, and she has to sit there by herself at her daughter's wedding. Even if she brought that on herself, what a sad thing.
2007-09-06 11:50:53 · answer #6 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ONLY invite who YOU want to invite.
If you do not know these people you do not have to invite them.
You can let your mom know she can bring along ONE guest.
2007-09-06 13:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do. Weddings need to include friends of parents, as well.
2007-09-07 07:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋