what do you consider a spoiled toddler?

Question

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Answer 1

1 Any toddler who has everything and plays with none of it is spoiled.

2 Any toddler who doesn't try and talk but points, pouts, cries and gets it.

3 Any toddler who climbs all over the booth at a restaurant or runs around and then is given ice cream to stop them from screaming.

4 Any toddler who gets the toy(s) from the store juat becasue they started to cry and mommy is afraid someone would look at her over it

5 Any toddler who does the exact opposite of what there parents tell them too all the time

6 Any toddler who when not hungry, hurt or tired uses tantrums to control parents/siblings or care givers.



I have a toddler - i know what tough love is...

If she sees a toy she wants and we don't want to get it or can't afford to at that time we explain that too her - and walk away, if she cries she gets my husbands cell phone, if that doesn't distract her - we leave! We can always shop at another time

My daughter has never been allowed out of the high chair or booster seat at a restaurant - she doesn't fuss, cry, run around or carry on at restaurants - we have a no playing rule while we are eating - and we talk to her (don't ignore her) at dinner - if she did act up I would take her outside to our car till she calmed down and then maybe take her back in if food hadn't been served yet - if food had been served my husband would get doggy bags - pay the check and we would leave

At home my daughter has thrown tantrums before - she gets a little lead way here - I try and talk to her and calm her down first, then distract her, then if she refuses to calm down - she gets put in her room to throw her fit, after she calms down I go talk to her and explain the why of whatever set her off, get her into a new activity and of course comfort and reassure her.

My daughter appears to have too many toys according to my mother in law, but we rotate her toys every 2-4 weeks or so - when she is sleeping I put away some toys and bring out other toys - its like christmas for her every couple of weeks - she forgets she has certain toys and it constantly renews her interest in what she is playing with. (works with children up to about age 8 or so)


Lastly - I think "spoiled" is a condiontiong from the way parents react to there children rather than a phase - if you don't let them get away with things from the get go, they never push the limits over and over and over

Consitency is key - never give in - teach them a tantrum gets them nothing and pretty soon they will stop trying to use it to get what they want.


Sorry I know this is long, but its one topic I really feel needs to be brought to parents attention.

Answer 2

one that gets away with everything...when the parents don't show the child right from wrong. One that gets everything they want when they go to the store. One that "runs" the house because mommy and daddy don't want to say no. One that had not been raised to respect others. (This last one isn't necessarily a spoiled thing but it is annoying)

Answer 3

i in my opinion do not think of there is taken under consideration one of these element. A spoiled infant, on the different hand, is yet another tale. yet once you're speaking approximately infants, i don't think of you may harm a infant.

Answer 4

My daughter, every time she doesn't get what she wants she has a tantrum and throws her head beck and falls out on the floor, and kicks thing, I just ignore it though, one time she had a tantrum and was sitting on my lap at the pc and she swong her head back and fell on one of them long extention cords that you can plug like 5 or 6 things into, and she hit the corner of it and I had to rush her to the Hosp. because her head felt like it dented, but she was o.k. they just said she was bruised and it will be fine, now everytime she has a tantrum I put her on the floor and lay her down gentley and lett her fall out as much as she wants

Answer 5

Good question! Especially when you are the in the midst of the 2-3 yr. crazies...LOL!!!

I see the fit-throwing, back-talking toddler, as a midget menace...and in them I see a frustrated parent who just isn't sure of what to do...and don't most of us find ourselves feeling that way sometime in our parental experience???

Answer 6

A child that runs up and down restaurants, shops, and other public places and throws fits when things don't go his way. Oh, don't forget the crying and screaming.

Answer 7

A child that demands things to be his or her way. A child that refuses to go by the rules because they think they are an exception to the rule.

Answer 8

One that when well rested and possessed of good communication skills still throws tantrums and doesnt obey its parents.

Answer 9

my son... lol really though he is so spoiled, its terrible.. basically he snaps and gets what he wants, not as much with my husband and i as we make him say please, and tell us what he wants instead of just aaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh and pointing, but my parents live less than a mile away and he spends a lot of time there, needless to say hes got them wrapped completely around his finger!

Answer 10

my son.....no kidding....I know its bad but he is all I have....