My mother and Aunt haven't spoken since i was 11, now i'm 14. my mom now wants to get back in touch with her but i don't want them too. My cousin had a baby last year who my mother's never met. i like things how they are as i can go to see my aunt and cousins alone. it's my aun't party soon and my mom wants to come but i don't want her to. i know i sound selfish but i'm just used to things the way they are now. no nasty answers please but what should i do?
2007-09-06 04:14:40 · 6 answers · asked by summer-pink 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i like things how they are because it;s somewhere to go on my own to get away from my mum for a while
2007-09-06 04:21:44 · update #1
ok i do love my mom! its just they've not spoke for so long it would just feel wierd and not the same.
2007-09-06 04:41:19 · update #2
stop being such a ***. After all she is ur moms sister 1st and ur aunt 2nd. U know at times parents need time alone as well. Mayb ur mom just misses ur aunt and wants to get back the relation which was forgotten. Give her a chance. U can go whenever u want to go to ur aunts house if u dont want to tag along with ur mom.
Best of Luck
2007-09-06 04:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a whole lot more going on than you just liking things the way they are. Maybe your aunt and cousin are letting you do things your mom would not approve of? Maybe you're messing around with someone in secret and your mom would put an end to it? Why else would you not want your mom and her sister to put their differences aside and get back to being a family?
You should encourage your mom to go to the party with you unless you know something is going down that might hurt her (and I doubt that's it).
2007-09-06 11:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if you were separated from your sister and your daughter doesn't want you to get together with her? Sounds selfish to me. One day you will grow up and be on your own and then what will become of your mother and aunt? No sense in harboring resentment for years to come. You can be the one that brings them together and feel good about yourself for doing so.
2007-09-06 11:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't help but think that you are being a little self serving in this situation. Instead of trying to stop your Mother and her sister from letting by-gones be by-gones, you should be encouraging them getting back together. Just think of your Mother and her feelings instead of your own.
2007-09-06 11:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn to love your mother and yes, you are selfish and self-centered. Your mother needs a relationship with her sister and all of her family.
Are you afraid that your mother will do all of the talking and you won't get to talk, then ask your mother not to do this.
2007-09-06 11:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Curious to know why you want to keep the family apart. You didn't give any explanations so it's difficult to offer any advice.
2007-09-06 11:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋