2007-09-06 04:11:30 · 9 answers · asked by jackstar 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adoption
Each states laws vary regarding how old you need to be to obtain info and what info they will give. here is a link that explains each individual states laws.
http://local.reunion.adoption.com/
Your first step is to ask you parents who/where you adoption was handled. Through an agency or private, agencies hold adoptions records as well as the state.
next register with www.isrr.net this is the most recognized reunion registry. Also register with the state and as many online private registries that you can find. Be sure to put an OK to contact in your adoption records in case someone requests info about you. This will expedite the reunion process.
5 states current have open records, which means the adoptee can receive their original birth certificate. AK, OR, AL, NH, KS. ME will be open in Jan 2009. Several other states have their birth indexes available to view to the general public or through search angel databases. TX, OH, CA, KY
Talk with your parents as they will be able to give you at least general information and be your support because some searches can take a very long time while others are solved very quickly.
Do not pay anyone who is not affiliated with either the agency or the state to do a search for you. No one other than these people can open your records if you are in a closed records state. Once the information is available to you there are many many free searchers who can locate for free.
Good luck
2007-09-06 05:33:15 · answer #1 · answered by Devin's mom 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I was adopted at 6 months of age, I never knew growing up! My father passed away when I was 6 and my mother on my 21st Birthday! Imagine my surprise when cleaning out the house finding a birth certificate with a strange name on it born on the same day as me, only to then discover adoption papers and name change papers, they even went as far as to change the hospital that I was born in on the birth certificate. At the age of 31 my birth family located me living in Oklahoma and they were in Illinois. We were reunited after 31 years and me never knowing them, I had 3 sisters, a mother and a family I never knew existed.
I moved to Illinois in 1992 and have been around my family since then, I see my birth mother maybe 2 - 3 times a year, and my sisters who live close, about as often. I do not spend holidays with them, or time, we are so different - I grew up in a middle class family and my biological family has basically a month to month existance.
I do not think there will ever be anything more than a friendship between my own birth family and me, I honestly wish that I had never found out and that they never found me. There is now a feeling from my mother that she owes me something for what happened 47 years ago. Its not worth the pain ! So think very hard before you seek .... because I feel that to seek is to destroy your identity!
2007-09-08 00:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Google for and register with every adoption reunion website you can find. You never know where you'll find your birth parents online.
You can also contact the agency that was used to see what records they can release.
You can contact the Vital Statistics office of the state where you were born to see what information they can find.
You can contact private investigators. Call around to find one you're comfortable with and can work with your budget. Give the information you have & see what they can find for you.
2007-09-07 14:02:54 · answer #3 · answered by StacieG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all states offer the ability to do this: Texas does. The states that do offer it require you to be 18. If you know where you were adopted from you would contact that specific agency. If you only know from where you were adopted in a general sense (i.e. Dallas) you'd contact the county clerk for birth records. If you don't know anything at all but your adoptive parents' name you'd contact the Dept. of Human Welfare for your state.
2007-09-06 11:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
On you adoptive paperwork should be the names of the parents (I was cleaning out my mothers closet and found my paperwork found out who my birth father realy was)Then I would do a white page look up, hire a p.i., just ask your parents.
1st of all be prepared for them Not to want to see you. It sadley happens.
2nd make sure your adoptive parents are okay with this.
3rd be ready yourself to meet them.
2007-09-06 13:21:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
would just like to say, you dont need to know if your adoptive parents are okay with you looking. If you need to look, look. It isnt up to anyone else.
2007-09-06 20:22:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
here is one way cousinconnect.com you can also check ancestry.com leave messages at these places. you know where you were born? if you do there is place just write the health department and leave note there that you want to see them do you know their names? sometimes that is great and if you do and know their birthdays its easy to see if they are dead or alive.
2007-09-09 23:02:37 · answer #7 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your adoptive parents, when they adopted you they probally got some papers saying what happened or who your birth parents are.
How old are you? Because you wouldn't want to here something really sad or bad that may hurt you.
If you feel as if you really want to know ask them, and remember if they something about your parents you don't like, your the one that wanted to know.
2007-09-06 11:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
There are some ideas for how to do this on the following website:
http://www.the-seeker.com
2007-09-06 11:19:47 · answer #9 · answered by Brigid O' Somebody 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋