I have a lot of family out of state that im not inviting to our wedding, but I would like to send them an announcement after were married. Any examples of what to say????
2007-09-06 03:24:10 · 13 answers · asked by Apryl H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
How about:
"We are getting married but don't really like you, so you are not invited. Please send a gift anyways!"
The truth shall set you free!!!
2007-09-06 03:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
What? You don't send an announcement to people you've chosen NOT to invite!!!! How RUDE!!! You might as well send a piece of paper that says "we had a great big party and YOU weren't invited!!!"
Look, even if you KNOW the out-of-state relatives won't be coming, you should sent them an invitation. It will make them feel good AND you'll probably get a gift from them. :) There were plenty of people in my life who I KNEW for a fact that they weren't coming to the wedding (like people I worked with who threw me a party) but I still invited them because I wanted them to know they were important enough to get an invitation!
2007-09-06 11:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the official ettiquette on this, but here's my 2 cents: If you send someone an announcement, you're sending the message that they're important enough to tell, but not important enough to invite to the wedding. (And it's not a case of you eloping or going to a justice of the peace and inviting no one or only immediate family.) I suggest that if they are important enough to send an annoucement to, that you invite them to the wedding. That's what we're doing.
Also, our wedding is on the east coast, but there's a cluster of friends and family in the SF Bay area. So we're having a second small "reception" there where we're inviting everyone out to a restaurant. You might consider something like that if out of town guests are clustered in the same area.
2007-09-06 11:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If these people were not important enough to you to invite to your wedding, why do you care, unless you want to prime the pump for more gifts/cash?
Just let them find out about it through the grapevine. If anyone sent an announcement like this to me, I would throw it in the trash as fast as I could.
If they aren't close enough to be invited they have their own lives and don't care that much about your wedding. It is the most important event you will ever have in your life, but no one else cares that much.
2007-09-06 10:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Here's a wonderful article from theknot.com that adresses this very issue.
http://www.theknot.com/ch_article.html?Object=AI980914213420
By the way, I had the same situation when I got married. I wasn't going to bother inviting distant relatives/friends to the wedding (and spend the $$ on the postage, response card, etc.) when I knew darned good and well they wouldn't come. My mom wanted to send announcements to these people. We did it pretty much like the article says to: it was worded like the wedding invite, except instead of saying "request the honor of your presense" it said "announce the marriage of their daughter."
And sending announcements isn't trolling for gifts, either, it's actually a very polite thing to do.
2007-09-06 10:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't you think that a wedding announcement just looks like a request for a gift? We are offended when we receive one.
2007-09-06 11:12:32 · answer #6 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They will hear about it by word of mouth. The only thing that sending an announcement does is inform them that they weren't invited and look likes you want a gift anyway.
2007-09-06 10:45:48 · answer #7 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
do a wedding announcement in the newspaper with your wedding photo.... cheap!! and if there are out of town people.... then send them a card the next holiday with a picture of you and your new husband... saying ... happily married now for____ number of days, weeks, months ( whichever applys )
2007-09-06 11:19:20 · answer #8 · answered by Jeanette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could send them copies of the wedding announcement from the newspaper.
2007-09-06 10:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda Y 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i recommend to make your own. A black and white picture of the new bride and groom on their wedding day (because everybody is going to want to see the happy couple on their wedding day), and then just a nice little message:
Mr. and Mrs. So-and-so were united in marriage on September 6, 2007 at Location, state. Please keep them in your thoughts and prayers as they begin this new journey as husband and wife.
and then along with that, you can drop a change of address card into the envelope, too, just in case anyone would want to send you a card, or something.
anyway, hope that helps!
congratulations!
2007-09-06 10:39:55 · answer #10 · answered by wifey2david 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
My cousin printed out pictures of her big day and sent an announcement card with their names (bride/groom), the date and a little "We are married" post.
It was really cute.
2007-09-06 10:32:04 · answer #11 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋