There is a guy that I have been talking to for a few weeks now. He says he really like me. He calls me all the time and is really attentive. Whilst I am enjoying the attention, I dont want him to get comfortable too quickly and to start thinking that he has me?
Any ideas on how to keep him working hard to get my affections and time etc I dont want to just give in to him I want to see if he reallys is serious.
I dont want to play games but what should I do?
Any ideas???
2007-09-06 03:03:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you don't want to play games, but want to keep him "working" -- that's a fine line.
Dating should be about getting to know eachother and enjoying eachothers' company.
As far as him getting too comfortable and thinking he "has" you -- that you should be able to control. Just be honest with him, let him know that you're not looking to jump into anything too quickly.
Also, don't get physical right away (stick to casual kissing for awhile), don't see him every day, and don't let him spend the night.
Be straight up, tho -- don't mess with him.
Good luck!
2007-09-06 03:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by mistaken4sane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok Sarah, let him do the pursuing. I am 39 and have learned the hard way that if you pursue him, he'll lose interest. I never have to call my current boyfriend. He calls me every day multiple times. This is the first time in my life that I let him come to me and it worked. I'm attractive and people tell me that I look 29 or 30, but cute or not, they still like to feel like they are in control. Let him have control. But in reality, you are really the one with the control because you can decide if you want to be with him or not. Good luck!
2007-09-06 10:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep talking to him and being friendly etc but keep meeting your normal friends, living your life as you always have been, then even if you get together you have a balance. If you are not always on the end of the phone waiting for him he will respect you. Have some self control and dont throw yourself into it hard, then you'll be ok! Its not playing games to keep your own life and interests as well as a relationship.
2007-09-06 10:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by Wonderwoman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"He calls you" ?? In this day and age actually calling you for a chat is a good sign - beyond just lazy texting!!
Next time he rings, say "Hi, I am just on my way out of the door, but I'll be back in about an hour. Give me a call later and tell me what fancy restaurant you are taking me out to tomorrow night, Bye!!" Then hang up and go down the shop and treat yourself to a nice bottle of wine and some strawberries.
You've made it obvious you want him, obvious he has to work for it, and added some control to your side as well!
When he rings you up, put your feet up, enjoy your wine and strawberries and have some fun letting him chat you up, agree to wherever he's taking you, make a joke out of wanting £500 champagne and tell him with a smile that he's not coming home to stay the night - but maybe someother time, see how it goes.
Good luck - he sounds good, unlike most of the losers on here!!
2007-09-06 10:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by Paul M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's simple, figure out in your head whether you truly want to see this person or not. If not, let him know. If so, then stop screwing around and tell him. God. Most men are direct and to the point. If you lay it down straight, it will save time for both of you. You say you don't want to play games and yet that's exactly what you are asking advise to do. Think about it.
2007-09-06 10:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by Steve F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like u mad 4 tis fella well take it cool n easy not 2 easy though der always some other 1 out der waitin grab him.
least he ringin next time he does ask him he got any plans sound intrested in him but never dive in on 1st date n wen u do date stick 2 kiss on cheek n shut ur door start as umean go on.....
2007-09-06 10:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by sparks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I may, by trying to keep him on the hook, you ARE playing games, trying to see how serious he is.
You also run the risk that he fells you are too flighty and gives up
2007-09-06 10:10:22 · answer #7 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you have gone far enough baby ,, hell start to loose interst if he is getting no where,, be careful when you judge the amount of time you are keeping him hanging on
2007-09-06 10:20:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummm...
take your time texting him back...
say that your busy.... if he asks you out... but always give a time after that...
hmmm... yeah... we girls know so well how this works that i dont really need to tell you about it...
good luck....
2007-09-06 10:13:38 · answer #9 · answered by vitania 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl, go easy
2007-09-06 10:06:58 · answer #10 · answered by Atieno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋