I'm 42 and my girlfriend is 28. I have an extremely strong sex drive. She would be fine with once a week, but I want more at least three times a week. She has a history of sexual abuse in her past, so I giver her space. She sinces it's a problem. I am not going to cheat on her she means the world to me. I am not into masturbation...
2007-09-06 02:38:23 · 17 answers · asked by rtp0105 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Bummer. Couples who are not sexually compatable have a difficult time making their relationship work. You are kind to give her space on this issue, but I would strongly urge her to get counseling for her past history of being abused. That may help -- certainly won't hurt.
2007-09-06 02:43:41 · answer #1 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's not into sex that much and your not into masturbation for whatever reasons you may have. The world revolves around compromise! Considering the fact that she has issues due to sexual abuse in her past, that is the point where you should concentrate your efforts to help her overcome her anxiety about sex. Sexual abuse is a hard thing to overcome. She may definitely need professional assistance.
2007-09-06 02:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by SexRexRx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only thing you can do is talk to her about it! Maybe your lacking in some certain areas! She might like it if you would be a little more passionate, or if you was more of a freak! It could be anything! You need to keep up on the communication and what she sexually, mentally, and physically wants from you personal, and from your sex life! The key is communication!
2007-09-06 02:44:18 · answer #3 · answered by B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough one, it is obvious she associates sex with bad things and so does not enjoy it. If you discuss with her to maybe seek sexual therapy it could help alot. She has alot of negativity towards sex and at the moment is probably just forcing herself to do it for you. If you love her you need to totally understand this and stop being so selfish about it. Sexual abuse is awful and leaves long term damage. Support her and ask her to get help, not because you want more sex, but because you dont want her to keep all these negative feelings towards it. Good luck to you both.
2007-09-06 02:45:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow u probably can't wait do u.First technique want to sex show her ur condom she know what u mean. Second technique show some sex joke and move she will get horny.
Thirdly buy some sex video and accidently give ur girlfriend found it(& say want to watch together). Fourth bath together HEHEHE. The least is depend on u.
2007-09-06 02:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The danger is that, in the future, you may come to resent her lack of desire/need. And since you are not into cheating (good) nor masturbation (your choice), relief will be hard to come by.
If you can overcome this and really love her, go for it.
2007-09-06 02:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just answered your question. if you aren't going to cheat, or whack off, your pretty much going to have to deal with the situation. Unless you can convince her to give nobbers or slowly work her sex drive into a higher gear. the abuse she suffered needs to be worked out in her head. therapy? does she enjoy it (orgasm?) maybe your not good at it. Sucks to be you. either work it out with her or cheat like a dog.
2007-09-06 02:45:39 · answer #7 · answered by ron197192064 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to her you can not accomplish anything in a relation ship with out that. Try doign things that will make her just as sexually active as you are.. there are a lot of options.. most girls are into the being romanced into it..
2007-09-06 02:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to put her in the mood more often...be more romantic : ) Make sure you give it to her the way she wants it. Make it all about what she wants. She might be a little shy about approching you for sex.
2007-09-06 02:43:22 · answer #9 · answered by JB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you put a question mark at the end of a sentence doesn't make it a question.
2007-09-06 02:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋