My boyfriend created this monster that i am today..lol..he spoiled me soooooo much in the beginning(i.e.running errands,doing things around the house etc) .and now he's slowly starting to ease away from the things he had no problem doing in the beginning..Is it fair??am i asking too much??
2007-09-06 02:38:06 · 13 answers · asked by jus_me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay..maybe i left the part out about how i do apprec. him..how i do plenty of things for him..geezee...in the beginning yes it was 60/40 on his part..but now its more like 60/40 with me and slowly decreasing with him..maybe its time to end it..
2007-09-06 02:50:58 · update #1
..YOu spoiled me so now I'm suffering.??
pathetic.....
do more for yourself....your probably a decent person so don't let people spoil you....
2007-09-06 02:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by roy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend like that for a little while. In the beginning, I thought it was great and I felt really taken care of. However, after a few months, I realized that I didn't have much respect for him because he was more of a servant than a boyfriend. A man should have better things to do than getting dry cleanings and washing his girlfriend's car. Maybe he is realizing the fact that you guys are equals. And you should really think about what kind of man you want in your life.
2007-09-06 09:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much excess of anything is not good,I'm almost sure your boyfriend is burning out,or, it was to make a good impression. There are factors to look at, how were U reacting to all the "kind" things he was doing for u, your attitude while he was doing these acts, were u aprreciative, or, took it for granted he was suppose to do these for you just because he was your boyfriend? It is ok for us to have expectations of our significant other, long as they stay in the "reality zone", too much of anything is not good in any form. I would talk with my significant other to find out why the change is taking place, yelling and screaming in the process will not be an effective approach.
2007-09-06 09:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by yawhaneeh53 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should mention something to him about it, there might be something wrong with him that he needs to talk about. If nothing is apparently wrong, just keep doing your set of the chores/errands and let him do what he feels like doing. You shouldn't put expectations on anyone because they are going to fail you. Do what you do around the house because you WANT to, not to get a thank you out of him.
2007-09-06 10:04:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not asking for too much, but quite possibly taking him for granted.
When my ex husband began to expect me to take care of these things and criticize on top of it, I eased off and eventually ceased doing things for him.
Perhaps it is time to pick up the slack and pamper him. Let him know that you appreciate all the little ways he helps you. Actions speak louder than words.
2007-09-06 09:44:48 · answer #5 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes get off your lazy *** and do things yourself! Only joking. well kind of.
Seriously tho it does sound like you were spoiled and now you are having a bit of a cry because you have to do things for yourself. Thats not really an attractive quality to be honest.
2007-09-06 09:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by regaloid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you really need is a relationship built on equality and compassion. To answer your question, yes, you're asking for too much.
2007-09-06 09:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have u been together??? he juz did dat to please u.. i think. maybe for the first few months of ur relationship. actually its not fair. in a relationship u must give and take and in ur case, ur juz taking.. and not giving..
he may be too kind but, nothing in this world is permanent except change, ryt? LOL.Ã
2007-09-06 09:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by abby♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you both should talk about it.
Maybe he realized that he was doing too much & you weren't appriciating it...
did you appriciate the things he was doing?
did you tell him how thankful you were, and were you doing things for him as well?
2007-09-06 09:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by Mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is always a love cloud at the begining of a realtionship. We do things for our partner to let them know we care, and now he has you.. he has no reason to. do your own erronds
2007-09-06 09:42:51 · answer #10 · answered by pph24013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder why he is doing this? That sucks. he shoudl treat you the same. E-mail me for a more personal answer
2007-09-06 09:59:51 · answer #11 · answered by jeff_andrews99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋