My husband has been sick for last 3 days, my only daughters bridal shower is on September 8, 2007. I really want to go but I am so afraid I will pass the virus to her & husband to be & his family. My daughter is taking me on Friday to Iowa (I live in Minnesota) for this, so far I am not sick but I am so afraid I am going to get sick or pass the virus on. My daughter gets married on September 29 this could not have happened at the worst time! What would you do? Would you stay home or go? I am going to be extremly sad if I don't go but feel worse if I make others sick. Help!
2007-09-06 02:16:26 · 14 answers · asked by Dawn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would rather be sick as a dog than not have my mom there with me for all those special things. Don't sleep in the same bed with your husband...wash your hands...take your vitamins... And hey...in laws aren't supposed to like each other anyway...what a better way to start a relationship than give them the flu?? =) I'm kidding. You're her mom. She needs you there. Get your butt to Iowa!! She needs you!! Good luck!!
2007-09-06 02:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by geminiqtpie22 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Oh dear. Don't I know how that goes! My friends/family are infamous flakes and it sounds like you have the same issues. And I'll tell you right now it SUCKS!! Unfortunately, we can't do a darn thing about it. I don't care what anyone says, 3 weeks is plenty of notice. And I don't get it...bridal showers are so much fun! Why would anyone not go? I was married last July. My family is full of rude, inconsiderate people that do not take into consideration anyone but themselves. Somehow they all seem to forget that it is supposed to be OUR day. I have just kind have learned to take my flaky family/friends for what they are and just kind of ignore their antics. My mother, especially around our wedding time really struggled with this. I just did my best to let her know that my biggest support system (her) was there for me and I really didn't need any other reassurance from anyone else. I'm sure you daughter feels the same way. Sure it stings a little for everyone, but you have to just take it for what it is..and smile. : )
2016-05-22 07:49:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you should risk it and just go. Your daughter will feel awful if you don't show up. I understand your concern for getting everybody sick so maybe just take some precautionary measures while you are there. For instance get a little tube of hand sanitizer and use it every chance you get. Sit at a distance and let people know that you could potentially be carrying a little flu bug and you don't want to spread it before the happy day. People will understand. They won't understand if you don't show up to the shower just because you are afraid you may spread it. They will think that sounds more like an excuse than anything. Plus, you don't want to miss this joyous day for your daughter! Have a fun next couple of weeks!
2007-09-06 02:48:01 · answer #3 · answered by itgurl79 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
This is a difficult situation to be in. But I agree with you that as much as it would pain you not to be there, it would be worse to make others sick.
I suggest checking with your doctor to see what the chances are you could have the virus. Is there a flu virus test you could take?
If there's more than a small chance you could pass on the virus, I highly recommend you stay home. My fiance has asthma, and the flu virus can be deadly to him. The last flu he had reduced his lung capacity for months. Two years ago, the flu put him in the hospital. You not only have to worry about passing the virus onto her, but you could pass it on to another person with asthma or who is immune challenged: bridal shower guest, fellow airplane passenger, airport personnel, hotel guests, etc.
2007-09-06 03:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I personally won't go and would not take the change of getting the bride or the wedding party sick before the wedding. It's sad but I won't want to be somewhere sick or make the bride sick. Just send the gift and your best wises, she'll understand!!!
2007-09-06 03:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter will be hugely upset to not have you there on the day of her bridal shower.
BUT she will be more upset if she has to slog through her wedding day with the flu!
If she, her groom, attendants, in-laws, or anyone has the flu courtesy of you and your husband, there will be a lot more people a lot more upset than if you simply miss a bridal shower!!!
And besides, if it is a big wedding there might be someone at the shower who has a compromised immune system (due to chemo, eg) or pregnant; it would be irresponsible of you to knowingly risk infecting them.
2007-09-06 02:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have you been vaccinated? If not, call your doctor and set up an appointment. Also, wash your hands every time you turn around.
Here is some general information on 'flu and the prevention of contracting it: http://www.webmd.com/cold-and-flu/flu-guide/default.htm
Pay special attention to the section about: Spreading Flu: Do You Know the Rules?
Just because he is sick now does not mean you can't enjoy your daughter's happiness.
2007-09-06 03:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by msbettyboop40 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
What a horrible situation!
I think it would be best if you avoided the bridal shower - you may regret not going, but you'd regret making your daughter sick on her wedding day even more!
Make sure she takes lots of photos or video footage of the shower so you won't feel too left out, then you can both look forward to the big day without worrying who's going to fall foul of the dread bug.
Hope all works out okay :)
2007-09-06 02:24:00 · answer #8 · answered by poppy_in_july 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Does your husband have anyone to care for him while you are away?
If no, then do not go to the shower. Your daughter should understand your concerns and, though disappointed, she should be relieved that you are taking care of your husband and do not wish to bring any germs with you to the shower.
If he does, then talk with your husband about you going. Wash hands frequently and use hand sanitizer whenever you can.
2007-09-06 02:57:01 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Is your daughter prone to getting sick easily? If not, then just go and be extra careful about sharing food, drink, hugs, and kisses.
2007-09-06 03:08:40 · answer #10 · answered by LSU_Tiger23 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋