2007-09-06 01:58:04 · 13 answers · asked by chigaimasu 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
there is no polite way of issuing an "invitation" for dinner, then saying they will have to pay for their own meal. That just isn't an invitation and I wouldn't send something formal like that. Drop a note or email explaining why you'd like to get together with them and that others are coming as well. Tell them this is a "Dutch Treat" evening if they would like to attend.
There's absolutely NOTHING WRONG with Dutch Treat. It is issuing a formal invitation for an event that is Dutch Treat that is tacky and crass.
2007-09-06 03:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would phrase the invite as - we haven't all gotten together as a group in awhile. What say we all meet for lunch (or dinner)? By phrasing it inclusively (we all meet), there is less of a chance that folks will get the idea that you are paying (as opposed to - I'm inviting you to lunch/dinner).
Another poster also had a great idea - remind everyone to ask for separate checks so that divvying up will be easier....
happy meals!
2007-09-06 09:19:11 · answer #2 · answered by plushy_bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way. An invitation means the person inviting pays
2007-09-06 10:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can say, "Hey, we're going Dutch tonight." And then say no more than that. Here in the Philippines, we have an interesting way of saying such thing. We say, "KKB tayo ha!" KKB stands for "kanya-kanyang bayad" meaning each one pays for his/her own meal.
I understand that sometimes this kind of situation may be uncomfortable to handle. Be sure that upon invitation, you make it clear to those whom you invited that they prepare enough money to pay for their own food. Be sure to be mindful of your choice of restaurant. See to it that it's considerate enough for everyone's budget.
2007-09-06 09:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"We will be going Dutch."
I'm not particularly fond of euphemisms because they tend to be obfuscating, but this one is an essential euphemism.
Of course, any more than 2 or 3 people present and everyone ought to offer to chip in anyway.
I like Ya-sai's idea. It neatly sidesteps the question unambiguously.
2007-09-06 09:02:11 · answer #5 · answered by Dharma Nature 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a work outing or a friend outing where everyone is responsible for themselves, you might want to suggest....
"Treat yourself!" or "Pay for your own" in order to clear things in advance.
You know that cheap person who always tries to get someone else to pay for them? Sure, we all have one in our crowd. Emphasize that it will be separate checks and that you have to pay for what you eat and drink.
This will save you many headaches and arguing later.
2007-09-06 09:16:32 · answer #6 · answered by joe_on_drums 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advise the guests that the Restaurant doesn't accept Credit cards - then they will know to bring money.
2007-09-06 09:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say how about we all meet for lunch.That way it's buy your own.
2007-09-06 09:05:21 · answer #8 · answered by fernwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BYOC (Bring your own cash!!)
It's not really proper to invite someone to dinner and ask them to pay for it.
2007-09-06 09:04:28 · answer #9 · answered by Colette B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lets go soldier system
2007-09-06 09:17:13 · answer #10 · answered by Hitin B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋