Why do/How can a lot of women chose their children over their husband?

Answer 1

Well, it depends what you mean. Physically speaking, my husband is a grown man and can take care of himself.

In our family, my husband is very high on my list as are my children. I wouldn't say I put one or the other "first", but I personally believe a strong healthy marriage is the starting point for a strong healthy family. Yes, I birthed my children and they are a part of me, but my husband is the one that allowed me to be able to do that. They are just as much a part of him as they are me. You can't make babies on your own! (Well, in today's world, its probably possible but you know what I mean).

Alot of people disagree and don't understand our views, but its how we feel. We had each other before we had the children, so we need to make sure we keep OUR bond close so that we can keep our children close. Does that make sense at all or am I rambling? Divorce is crushing families now-a-days. We don't want to be part of the statistic and we don't want to teach our children that that is the norm.

Answer 2

Having children is giving pieces of yourself to the world. Thus once you birth a child you have an obligation to those children. A Mother has a bond with a child that is formed in the womb. Even mothers that give their children up for adoption, will never stop thinking about that child. Its a natural instinct for a mother to protect her children ferociously. If there is one thing that I have learned as well. Men come and go, but children are there to stay. I gather that you don't have kids, so you won't understand until you do.

Answer 3

When you say choose their husband over their children, are you saying that the husband is abusive and/or has issues that can negatively impact the kids? Adults are pretty much who they are, but kids are the parents responsibility. My mother used to tell me that no matter what happens, at the end of the day, those children are yours and you do whatever you must to protect them and teach them right. My father was physically abusive and I saw one too many physical altercations. My parents split but one of the guys that I dated was physically abusive (see a pattern?) because that's what I knew. Patterns repeat themselves and perhaps the environment isn't the best for the kids.

Answer 4

I've got a question, how can you not chose your children over your husband? I don't know why you're asking this particular question, but your children should always come first, period. You should also not have to make that choice, but if you do, then the choice should be easy.

Answer 5

Do you have children, I can only conclude that you do not otherwise you would understand. That child grows inside and then comes out of you, there is no closer bond than that! The babies sole existence depends on your care. It is a love that you can never compare to anything else, no matter how close you are to your husband.

Answer 6

I think Lisa S said it. Children are a permanent part of your life. As a mother it is your responsibilty to protect and nuture them. In return they will love you back with unconditional love. As for men they will come and go. Even if they are your children's father. The bond between you and your children will always be stronger because you carried them and gave them life. IF your lucky then you will have that kind of bond with your bf/husband too. Then you won't HAVE to choose.

Answer 7

My children will ALWAYS come first, no matter what, thats just the way it is... They are part of me and my husband is not. If that doesn't answer your question.... most men feel the same. My husband will be quick to agree that our kids come first in his life also. Nothing will ever change that fact. Once you have kids, you will understand.

Answer 8

I'm not sure what you mean exactly. Husbands are big and can take care of themselves. Our children are little and need us. I don't understand the question. Do I have to choose, or can I have my children and my husband? I don't see why anyone would have to choose.

Answer 9

Because that child is their blood. They carried the baby for 9 months and have formed a much stronger bond with the baby than she will ever have with her husband. I think it's just a natural thing. Maternal instinct in to protect her child no matter what. It's just like most times you will choose your family over a guy or girl, because that's your family and nothing can get between you.

Answer 10

Because husbands are adult and can look after themselves. No child asks to be born. If you give birth, you have a responsibility to that child. And actually, men should feel the same way too.