how do i tell my bf that im not really satisfied with him in bed?

Question

i love my bf very much but sometimes im not really satisfied when we make love... sometimes i do fake it... sometimes i dont even come... what should i do?

Answer 1

I would think you could tell him what to do, guide him in the direction to go, Help him perform the right moves, do it in a loving manner, NOT condescending. We men love it when women take action.

Answer 2

Hi brazenlove,

Although being a man I hate saying this, unfortunately this is not uncommon. Many women find it difficult getting full satisfaction from the act of sexual intercourse.

It makes no difference about size, staying power or any of these reasons. It is simply a fact of life.

Are you both happy to experiment with each other? There are many ways a woman can be brought to an orgasm without sex and/or during sex.

Foreplay, artificial stimulation and other methods.

My advice is to have a good look around the web for ideas. There is no shame for you or him in using other methods of stimulation during love-making.

Discuss it with your boyfriend and I am sure you will be able to work things out together.

Poseidon

Answer 3

Well, babe it's not something you want to say really.
I'd rather suggest that next time you're making love not to fake it and at that point to tell him that you haven't come and come up with some ideas of your own to spice things up.
What would you like him to do to you that he isn't? Think about it and tell him that you've been having some fantasies and would like him to help you act them out.
Also, ask him to let you take the reign for a change.
Just basically tell him that you have been thinking of new things that you're very keen to try out, and do not fake anymore, so that he can try and do something about improving his love making skills.
But, don't you tell him that you have been faking it. It would just crush his confidence and that's not what you want now do you?.
Good luck.

Answer 4

Rather than trample all over his ego, perhaps make gentle suggestions while you are in bed, stuff that you REALLY like. If he is performing cunnilingus and doing it wrong, guide him, tell him where specifically or how tender or how quick or how anything else you are needing. Men are not born with this information.

If you are bored with the positions, initiate new ones. If you are bored of the locale for your interludes, take him to new ones.

A man's sexual organ is long and receptive all up and down. A woman's organ is small, and not always easy to get to. Her clitoris is different from other clitorises, too. She may like rough stroking or hard sucking, or gentle. She also may be extra hooded, making it more difficult to stimulate with normal penetration. Men are certainly not privy, as a rule, to this information.

If you love this man, guide him in pleasing you. You will both be better for it.

I hope you all realize I am not trying to be rude, but I believe in using proper terms .

Answer 5

Don't fake it. You are shooting yourself in the foot by doing that. And I will say it again another way....you are making a rod for your own back. If he is hopeless in bed, he will have had this indicated to him by his previous girlfriends when they split up, so he is waiting for your reaction.

The worst thing that can happen is that he will dump you for someone who is desperate for a boyfriend and will tell him he is the greatest in bed, just to hang onto him. She will fake multiple orgasms and he will come round and tell you about it, making out it was something lacking on your part. Just say nothing, just have a Mona Lisa smile on your face. He will eventually realise what is going on, and feel silly.

He might just be inexperienced and not know what to do. You have to guide him. Get a book on sex and try to follow all the instructions together. But if you look like a hobbit and he looks like the Elephant man, the beautiful couple in the book might intimidate you. Give each other massages and lots of cuddles beforehand. You don't say what the problem is, but the main probs during sex are:

inability to maintain an erection;

premature ejaculation;

watching tv, reading or constantly checking his mobile;

trying to get rid of you as soon as they have come;

changing position just as you are about to come;

pulling out just as you start to come, thinking their job is over;

after 5 minutes of in/out, they say HAVE YOU COME YET? when it is bleeding obvious you haven't even shuddered or anything.

willy so short that it falls out all the time.

Sometimes you are so in love and so in lust, that just being in bed and fooling around, is almost enough. When he is sated, just cuddle into him and fix yourself up in front of him if he is too lazy to rub you with his fingers. Some blokes who smoke and drink heavily, just have no energy at all. At least he will know what an orgasm sounds like and it will cross his mind that it might be pleasant if he was still inside you when it happened. Get him to at least have 2 fingers resting in you when you come, so he will feel the sensation.

Alcohol will help you relax and be able to orgasm more easily. If you had no problems with previous boyfriends, you know how long it should take. Seven minutes of rhythmic in and out, should do it.

If all fails, get another boyfriend. There are some who are just naturals.

Answer 6

there are several factors why your not satisfied and only you know the real one . have you tried being a lil more dominant not as in s&m things but like telling him how, when and where you want it to happen . or a lil rub from yourself during intercourse.switch positions, different places like the shower,on a cliff or in the rain. those are a few ways of telling him your looking for more without saying a word

Answer 7

can you bring yourself to the big "O"? Why not show him the way you need to be touched? Encourage him to get you off first either manually, orally, or through penetration. Because as all woman know, once a man pops off they are basically done for the night. You may want to try different positions to help you reach satisfaction too. It could help add some spice to you sex life that both of you can benefit from.

Answer 8

You have to be very gentle in telling this as this is a sensitive area..
Hold his hand and tell him that ... well I don know the exact problem... I mean what do you mean by not satisfied...
Is it that he doesnt do enough foreplay..or is it premature ejaculation... or no after play or what it..... could be anything....
Anyways you tell it to him gently and then teach him how he can do it..if its a physical problem the consulta doctor.
All the best

Answer 9

dont feel bad cause most of the time i dont even come and that is bad but maybe you guys are doing it to much i know i dont come every time coz me and my fiancee does it every morning and every night and some times during the day. sometimes you are too tired to make love to him but you do it just to satisfy him. right

Answer 10

spank him till he does it right.

seriously. have a talk with him and tell him what you want. I truly believe that talking this out is the best thing to do.

ANd don't be afraid to tell him what you want in bed. If you want to be on top or sideways or swinging from the chandelier !! tell him!
If you want a spanking drop some hints. Or try spanking him a bit. then more. and MORE.

Sit on his face and order him to DO IT RIGHT PVSSY FACE !!!

good luck! take the bull by the horns and verbalise. Never NEVER fake it !!

LD