My Fiance' Joined the army, But halfway through basic he's regreting it. ( He's not the type tp be away form his friends and family for a long time) A week ago the drill sergants said if you don't wanna be here then quit. Well he's doing just that, he's going to each of his sergants and informing them of his choice. But the seem to be playing around with him, One told him he CANNOT quit. But then the next day ask's him if he's had a change of heart yet. Then an even higher officer whom he hasn't even approached yet, asked him the same thing. And he said he still wanted to go home, so now there going to have a talk soon.
If he keeps his stance on this will they have to let him go? I'm trying to figure out everyhting I can for him, so He knows what he needs ot say to get out. ( One woman has already quit and gone home, so it IS possible to do so)
2007-09-06 00:40:48 · 31 answers · asked by ~Erios~ 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I would encourage him to at least try to make it through basic. Nearly everyone has a hard time at basic..being away from family and friends is always tough at first and during basic there is so little time or access to call, email or even relax. Things will change as he goes to tech school..more freedom, more ways to contact those he loves.
Yes, there are people who enlist and then find out the military is not for them. But if his biggest issue is being homesick, and he basically likes the rest of what he is doing, help him stick it out. If he is generally unhappy, he should arrange to talk to his TI formally. Yes, people can be let go for failure to adjust (that is the term they use). It may take time. The supervisors and officers will want to talk with him extensively to find out what is going on. Your boyfriend will need to be sure this is what he wants...and he should know that any signing bonuses he recieved will need to be returned (and since he didn't even finish basic, he will need to return the full amount). If he has spent it, they can garnish his civilian wages and will take his tax returns until it is paid back.
2007-09-06 01:12:59 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You cant just "QUIT" the Army but he can be separated for failure to adapt. But that to also takes time. In some cases he will be left there while his battle Buddy's graduate and go on. The best thing for him to do Is Suck it up. The Drills just ask that so they could use that as a way of intimidation and see who they need to be encouraged more. Just getting out because he misses his mommies or even you is a cry baby reason. He need to Honor his commitment and serve his contract
2007-09-06 05:41:29 · answer #2 · answered by SSGAllan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if he "says the right things" he can get out. But, I would strongly discourage that. If he does get out, that will follow him for the rest of his life. It will show up on every background check. He will have to explain why his resume ( for future job prospects) shows that he was in the army for only a few short weeks.
This could be very embarrassing for him.
Encourage him, he CAN make it through, and that would be best for him at this point. After arriving at basic the only way to get out ( except serious injury) is shameful and will follow him home.
2007-09-06 09:27:54 · answer #3 · answered by lovespring 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...I'm a marines wife. My advice to you is to quit encouraging him to quit. You are his support system. You need to encourage him and tell him that he can accomplish this. I know you want him home...but he is already halfway through...he will not be sent home. So don't get your hopes up. The only time he will be let go is if something happens to him medically or if something happens to a family member. And they always investigate...so don't lie. Or he could punch one of his drill sergeants in the face...but I wouldn't recommend this because more than likely they would whoop him before they let him go. Does he really want to get a dishonorable discharge though? That stays with you for life.
He will not get out by telling people that he wants out....by doing this he is only asking for attention. He needs to start blending in more.
If he does quit...he is going to regret it. Sorry but it's true. I know it's hard for you to...but be more supportive of him sticking it out. It will help him a lot more. Missing your friends and family is a normal part of military life. Everybody feels this way when they go to basic.
2007-09-06 03:26:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You don't get to quit military service the way you might quit civilian employment. Every service member receives what is known as a discharge (Honorable, Dishonorable, General, General under Honorable conditions, Uncharacterized, etc.)
Once you sign a contractual agreement with a branch of the armed forces you pledge a specific period of time in which you agree to serve and are bound by law to honor that agreement like any legal contract. However, as with anything in this world, there are exceptions...as well as consequences. Anything other than an Honorable discharge can severely affect your future employment and lock you out of various benefits that are associated with federal service.
Below is the web site of the Office of the Staff Judge Advocate for Fort Levenworth. It has links to the various types of Chapter related discharges that one can recieve and the requirements that must be met for the person to receive it.
2007-09-06 01:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by Eric 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sweetheart if you can get him to stay and tough it out that would be great, what they are not telling him right now is that if he gets out he will get an "other than honorable" discharge and that will follow him for life, it will make it almost impossible for him to get a good job. It is only a few more weeks I am sure he can do it, plus in most cases they will send him to another "holding" unit while they process his papers and it will be hell and take forever even longer than it would to graduate basic! I did 4 years in the Army and am now a military wife, it is a beautiful life and I know once he gets though his training he will be fine.
Talk him into staying it will do him a lot of good, you have to be very supportive! Good luck!
2007-09-06 02:31:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If he is halfway through, that means he only has a month left. He has already done all the hard stuff. He should just stick it out. He will regret getting out.
I don't think he can get out of the Army by just saying he wants out. He has already signed the contract.
2007-09-06 04:29:13 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...... so close to be able to provide so much for you and your future family. Everybody misses friends, family and girlfriends during basic. That is what basic is........ it makes you think out of the box, become an adult and see the world as it is.
As others said you need to stop encouraging him. If he gets out he will inside always regret it in many ways. One being he will always feel like less of a man. And yes he could get out eventually but the process will be much harder than just finishing. And as others have said...... if he gets discharged job wise he will NEVER get anywhere.... really.
2007-09-06 05:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is, frankly the drill sergeant is really just gaging his response as to how authentic he is in his statement.if he truly wants to get out he can,and the d.s will start the appropriate paperwork for the discharge. many of the former d.s's i have encountered in my time on active duty have said that new recruits will sometimes just gripe,and don't mean anything by saying they want to go home,or its just simply the feeling of the moment.obviously he's still in red phase and the d.s is going to be hardest on everyone at that time,and they progress thru basic the d.s's lighten up gradually,frankly the last week of basic you can pretty much do what ya want since they consider you trained and see no reason to be in your *** anymore. it is possible your fiance' may also just have a ahole d.s. he may also just simply not be cut out for military life,and if that is the case he can be discharged
2007-09-06 11:00:16 · answer #9 · answered by yankeegray_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can technically leave the military anytime within the first 6 months of service. Its not necessarily a loophole per se, but it kind of is. Basically he has to inform his command that he is unable to become accustomed to the military way of life. He will have to do tons of interviews with a ton of different people (including psychologists). He would be done with basic training waaaaay before this was done though.
He could always tell them he likes doing it with dudes, he'd be gone in a heartbeat
2007-09-06 03:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by somethin_fierce 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋