i feel like my byfriend treats me like his slave-we have a daughter-i stay at home to raise our daughter-and he supports the house-he never helps me with her or anything-if i ask for help he says that he shouldnt have too because he works. im constantly busy doing things for him-rubbing his feet,picking up after him,making sure the house is spotless-if i want to just sit down to eat dinner or something for myself he gets mad and asks me to do more things for him,he tells me im a lazy ***** and that woman are soppose to stay home and tend to the family.he always makes decisions and always makes my plans without even asking me if i want to do it.hes always in charge of the money-i always have to have a good enough reason.he says im disgusting and that i need to change myself. it just seems im always so very tired,and always busy doing things for him,i swear he keeps me constantly busy on purpose-please someone honestly tell me if im just being selfish and unreasonable.
2007-09-06 00:36:07 · 16 answers · asked by DEDRA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do you think theres anything that i can do to make him stop acting like this and just learn to love me the way he did when we first met?
2007-09-06 00:45:09 · update #1
do you think theres anything that i can do to make him stop acting like this and just learn to love me the way he did when we first met?
2007-09-06 00:45:15 · update #2
do you think theres anything that i can do to make him stop acting like this and just learn to love me the way he did when we first met?
2007-09-06 00:45:22 · update #3
do you think theres anything that i can do to make him stop acting like this and just learn to love me the way he did when we first met?
2007-09-06 00:45:23 · update #4
do you think theres anything that i can do to make him stop acting like this and just learn to love me the way he did when we first met?
2007-09-06 00:45:24 · update #5
do you think theres anything that i can do to make him stop acting like this and just learn to love me the way he did when we first met?
2007-09-06 00:45:25 · update #6
i can say that your bf is somewhat a classical man...those who want to have their wives to gave them all they need...which includes having yourself fulled with duties at home...your not selfish...i think you should talk to him and explain what you are going through...and if he would not listen and be stubborn then i think you should take a break... the relation is just unhealthy for both the two of you....the only thing that must matter to you now is that you must make all your decisions fair for both the two of you..and make sure that your daughter will not be affected by whatever decisions you'll make.....good luck...
2007-09-08 22:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by ratatouille 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you are being unreasonable. yes...since he does work and you stay home, i do believe that you should keep up on the housework and laundry and making the meals, but as for doing all the other stuff, like rubbing his feet...that is not something you should not have to worry about doing. and you work just as hard as he does, if not harder, and you have the right to make your own decisions. you should have money of your own and you shouldn't have to answer to him 24/7. you do not sound like a lazy person and he has no reason telling you that you are. and if anyone ever told me i was disgusting, i would say, than get the hell out of my disgusting house and move on.
2007-09-06 00:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by yesiamalesbian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very unhappy.I would get a job .It will scare him and change the relationship.Tell him sorry but I need my own money.Dont let anything stop you.Then you can decide if you want to stay with the jerk based on whether he changes his behavior.I wouldnt let a man talk to me that way.Honey there are alot of men out there and even if you are disgusting as he claims guess what alot of men out there are not very picky.However I really think he is probly just a cruel jerk and you dont want someone like that around your kids.Id make plans to leave.
2007-09-06 00:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not being selfish or unreasonable do you have a friends house ,you and your daughter could stay at or a family members house, well go there and get a job and get in your own place with your daughter none needs to be treated like freakin slave so you get you and your daughter out of this situation asap. good luck=]
2007-09-06 00:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by kayla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if we assume that you are indeed selfish, but still some points you mentioned, if they are true, does indicate that he is very cruel towards you. The way he thinks about women is totaly injustified.
If possible try to be independant, find some job or whatever. Otherwise he will aways treat you like this.
2007-09-06 00:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by where i am... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT! Your supposed boyfriend is the one! Well, honestly, I think the only thing you CAN do is to walk out on him. Secretly save money and then take your daughter and run to somewhere safe. That way at least your future will be rid of selfish, stingy men. Good luck!
2007-09-06 00:50:02 · answer #6 · answered by mareyys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea if ur very serious about this question, u need to talk to a family member or something, cuz hes way too comfortable with you doing everything. it's one thing to be a stay at home mom, but rubbing his feet and him making decisions without you. thats not even close to being a healthy relationship. take the kid and leave. or try to talk to him about it. if he gets defensive or anything wrong, walk out that door sweetie. dont take that sh*t no more!
2007-09-06 00:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job, part time in the evening,
You will be happier, he will be happier
Your daughter will be happier
Get a full time job, even if all you money goes to a babysitter
Or suffer it until
You tired because your depressed, get out
2007-09-06 00:44:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of there! He thinks that because you are dependent on him financially, he can treat you like trash. Nobody deserves to be treated that way!
2007-09-06 00:44:19 · answer #9 · answered by shelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being selfish, you are being emotionally abused. Call a domestic violence hot-line and they can help you find a way out.
Good luck!
2007-09-06 00:42:21 · answer #10 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋