We know handling sudden anger is very tough. But sometimes we need it very much. I know one tips only.....look at the floor. But it doesn't work every time. Do you have any tips?
2007-09-05 22:41:50 · 11 answers · asked by ♪♪♪♪ mR ♪♪♪♪ 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
The most common and proven method is to close your eyes then take a deep breathe and exhale slowly while mentally counting from 1 to 10. If you can sit down, even better. Works for me.
2007-09-05 22:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by Shienaran 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sudden anger, is very hard to handle for some. My recommendation is that when you recognize that you are starting to get angry, that you try to seperate yourself from what is going on in some way. I know it sounds gay but try breathing slowly, close your eyes, and visualize something you are looking foward to, or a place you like to be, even if it is your bed. Ask yourself what is it you are really truly angry about. Let me tell you something that really helped me. Anger is depression turned inward. What this means is that your anger is a symptom of your depression and that your depression has gone untreated. People get angry when they feel out of control and helpless to stop the thing(s) which are and have been hurting them. What is the true and deep problem?... But in the mean time, try like i said, breathing and visualizing something peaceful, and if you can by any means possible seperate yourself from the situation and give yourself a moment to think slow down and understand your emotions before you react in a way you may well regret......Check out the link i included see if it helps. :)
2007-09-05 23:01:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What works for me is imagining myself in a tranquil place. Like if I am lying in the hot sand on the beach hearing waves hit the land.
I try to repeat to myself that my anger is a physiological feeling and that I want to use my mind over matter and not let the adrenaline control me. By isolating my mind from the anger I am able to think straight and remind myself that for my anger is directed at those who hurt me, and that I need to feel better. Anger hurts my health, so the logical decision would be to calm down and benefit my own health instead of focusing on anger.
Also I remind myself ( I am a Christian) that I have no right to really be angry at someone because I make God angry all the time by doing sinful things, and that I would not want him to be angry at me. If I don't want God to be angry at me and destroy me then should not be angry at others either.
2007-09-05 23:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by Monkey Chunks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sudden anger is ok. Acting it out isn't. When one finds that they are 'suddenly angry' one needs to ask themself "why?" Keep a record of what happened and at home, ask yourself questions to see if it was really worth being angry about. Find the sources that lead to being angry and try to change some attitudes. If you can remedy some of your anger and the quick responses that you might give to others, you are halfway there to being a better you in control!
One should speak with a counselor to see if there are methods of helping you to resolve anger. [anger management.] We all get angry about things that are important at that moment. Later, we find that they might have been misconceptions about what we thought we heard and wasn't worth our stress. Try to help yourself understand why it is important NOT to act out your anger and possibly hurt someone's feelings. Best of luck!
2007-09-05 23:14:16 · answer #4 · answered by caves51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of this: head, heart, hands. what you *think* or *see* affects how you *feel* which in turn determines what you *do*.
~ take some deep breaths ~ slow ...
~ walk away if you need to.
~ always think before you act ... count to 10.
~ think of a calming, soothing place (the beach, the mountains .. some place you like)
~ know that if you give it a few seconds, the feeling will pass. you may still be upset .. but not in that volatile state
~ remember that *anger* is fear acting out ... think about what you are afraid of in that situation ... think of a solution
good luck ... you can do it ...
2007-09-05 22:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by :|: raven :|: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not spend some time finding out why you have this anger presenting itself in your life? There are reasons for all of our reactions.. just have to find out what is prompting that reaction and eliminate it. It is something hidden from your conscious mind but none the less, there is a trigger which brings this reaction to the conscious level of the mind. And you do respond to that trigger. As you are fully aware.
There are techniques to take care of this problem. Just have to find the one that will do it for you.
2007-09-12 14:38:49 · answer #6 · answered by mrcricket1932 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. but you are making a big generalization and over simplifies human behavior. Not everyone uses the same tactics. Obama just states the obvious no matter what color you skin is.. Yes, most sales people use this and so do politicians but Baraak did not invent this..its just an acquired skill.
2016-03-18 00:58:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As fatbluerat has said walk away! It usually works for me. If walking away is not an option count to 10-20 if you have too and take deep breaths.
2007-09-05 22:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by ¸.•*¨) Inked Barbie ¸.•*¨) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just look within yrself while closing yr both outer eyes for a moment and question why this anger,permanant solution is deep meditation
2007-09-06 01:39:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See anger management, at http://www.ezy-build.net. (.net.nz/~shaneris) on page 4.
2007-09-06 00:06:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋