I have had major and severe depression since i was 7 years old. I can't take it anymore. I feel like no one really cares about my feelings. I feel like people don't really want too hear about your pain, as long as they don't have to feel bad, they don't care. I feel like people want to excuse my problems and me away, so they don't have to think about it. I feel like people only want me to stop hurting so that they don't have to feel bad too. People will disregard my emotions, and tell all the reasons i shouldn't feel that way, but i do feel that way. I feel like everyone is innately selfish to a degree and only want to help others to make themselves feel like the better person, not because they truly care about that persons wellbeing. Can anyone provide me a reason to believe that this is not true. And can anyone tell me why it would be worth it to live out the rest of my life with dehabilitating depression. I fail to see a reason to continue.
2007-09-05 22:29:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
oohhh..some good stuff you wrote there... i agree..peple dont really care so much......I read an article by a psychiatrist..he said this "everything we do in life....every action we take....we do for ourselves only" woooo....kind of scary how true that is....we help others..to make us feel good.....hmmmm.
I feel like i know all this, but i dont get drpressed.....im free to feel how i want....i dont take what others do and say too seriously...you dont need to either......
kick some *** today baby.....yell back if ya want.....later
2007-09-05 22:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
People do want to help you, the reason why it would be worth it to live the rest of your life, its because there is so much in life that you haven't experienced yet. Just think, if you ended it now, who would sweep you off your feet? who would be there with you on your birthday, who would celebrate an anniversary with you. If you leave, you may dramatically change more people then you think. Depression is not easy, I have it, there is medication, they are continually coming out with better medication. This will not last forever, however your deepest, darkest, lowest, sadest moment has been or will be, there is an exact opposite! You will be able to feel your greatest, brightest, highest, most joyfull and happy moment ever! Do you not want to feel that!? Every time i feel so low and terrible, I always remember that its not the end, there will be a greater day, a happy day, they will come. Dont give up!! If you even want to you can write me!
2007-09-05 22:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by applebeer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that! Depression can be a very serious thing, and in your case it sounds like it is. I understand your feelings about people not taking it seriously and disregarding how you feel. You might not think it, but people do care, it's just very hard for people you talk to to actually help you with your own unhappy feelings, especially long-term ones, because the hard truth is, you're really the only one who can do anything about them.
Unless i missed something you wrote, i find it surprising that you've had no advice off anyone you've talked to in the past about ways in which to deal with your depression. I suggest you go to see your doctor is you haven't already, and tell her about how you are feeling in detail. She can give you self-help books and refer you to a professional, whether it be a councillor or a psychologist. This also takes work from you though, you have to try so hard to find a positive way of thinking, and you have to want to get better, because until you make the personal decision that you want help, it will make things 10 times harder. You can't be pushed into self-help by anyone but yourself, it's like quitting smoking. If all else fails medication is available, but try not to go down that road if you can avoid it.
In general, change of scene can be a big help, such as doing something out of the every day routine, or doing something which will involve meeting new people. Other than that, just try and stick with people and friends you trust, especially ones who give off happy vibes! When you're depressed its very hard to ignore the fact that you feel unhappy, even when you're out and about, and sometimes we feel obliged to only show our misery, and feel uncomfortable to be happy, so try your hardest to let go and feel free to laugh when something is funny, smile when something nice is said to you and so on. Things will work out eventually, but sometimes it takes hard work for that break through and to find what makes us feel good.
Good luck =]
2007-09-06 01:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry to hear about your depression. I believe I am depressed too. Its an on and off thing.
In my case, I was fortunate to find people who seem to care about me and listen to my problems. But the thing I learned after this that even if they listen to me they won't be able to help me with depression because they cannot solve the problems I have and that it is something outside the power of the people who will listen to me.
Yes it is nice to have them listen to my problems and I am sure some dont really care, while some really do .But the things I worry about (I have cancer, my dad is an alcoholic, my mom is in another country, and I am 23) cannot really be solved by those people.
The only thing that helps me personally is speaking with and praying to God because I believe that he can control all events that happen in my life and that the bad things that happen to me cannot be there at random, that they have a purpose.
2007-09-05 22:37:26 · answer #4 · answered by Monkey Chunks 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can see that part of your major depression, is the rejection you are getting right now..if they would show you love and concern, you probably wouldn't feel so bad...there are many people that care, but you might just be someone born into a very disfunctional family, and also, I feel you have suffered some terrible abuse, ....and that is why you are so sad...but I would advise you this...seek the Kingdom of God, and Jesus,...and there you will find peace...God and Jesus loves you, and people who truly follow Them, will show you compassion...even in many churches, now adays, there are cold people...I think you need to find a way to forgive those around you...sometimes, our darkest hours, lead us to be closer to God, and to Jesus, and this is because God wants you...so please, what ever it is they did to you...try to forgive them, and accept them for what and who they are..but if they are still abusing you....please talk to someone in a postition of authority..God Bless
2007-09-05 22:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Every night somebody goes to bed just thinking about you. 1 person in the world would give their life for you. And people do love you. And I'm sure you will see that, and very soon.
2007-09-05 22:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it is true, aren't you one of us too..and if not, why don't you try to show how much you care and prove that we all can be less self-centered... i have had the same thoughts before because of depression...remember that is a state of mind caused by an imbalance of chemicals and your brain will fix it so just fight it and let it pass
peace love
2007-09-05 22:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do. Don't get yourself down. I believe with the right person beside you, you can overcome any obstacle. Please hang in there and don't become a bum. Remember to laugh out loud at least once a day, it's good medicine.
2007-09-05 22:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by Kyle B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I'm about to tell you, I have no doubt that you've heard before. But sometimes, it only takes one person to tell you the same thing you've been told over and over again for it to finally hit home.
I've gone through what you're going through, I still battle it every single day. The feelings of loneliness, feeling like no one cares, that my friends just put up with me because they have to, that they don't really care, they just save face. I feel like no one listens, they smile and nod but they never really listen. So I stopped talking. Finally a few weeks ago I wrote a blog in my myspace about this very topic and a friend of mine wrote a comment to me that really hit home to me, I'm going to share his comment with you in hopes that maybe, maybe it'll bring you a little bit of light.
"First things first - go rent the movie Stranger Than Fiction... Don't put it on and just listen to it while you do something else - sit down and watch it... Some things in the movie might make sense to you and at the same time help you see thinsg in a different light...
How did I get such a happy outlook on things? You are opening a book on this one... lol
I think it all started when my friend Celia died this summer. She was such a happy person in a life that I personally would have not been able to as strong or happy as she was that it opened my eyes to seeing that the things I thought were bad in life really wasn't... She showed me how to open the doors to live and love life like it was meant to be lived and loved. I really wish you could have known her to better understand what I say about her...
She had cystic fibrosis and eventually have dual lung transplant surgery... She struggled through life with a smile and always made sure everyone knew she loved them... I am sure she is like all of us and had her days where she was like why me, but you never saw it... She had an overwhelming peace in her life through Christ... To look at her to know her struggles, to see her in pain, but then hear her say "Ain't life grand" never hit home until she was gone...
Life is grand! So instead of focusing on the things I didn't have I focused on the things in life I was blessed to have. Then I realized - I wasn't the person I had thought I was all along... I had great friends that did care about me and would listen to me when I needed them... I made new friends to sit down and enjoy lunch with or just message on here to see how they were doing... I had friends with struggles just as I did that I could listen to thus helping myself by listening to my own advice... I didn't come across to other people as I thought I came across as... Then once I saw just how grand life was - it happened... I found my happy.
I made it a point to focus on the good, laugh with the bad, and not be worried about asking for advice from friends. Life is only what we make of it - you just gotta figure out what you want to make of it and then open yourself to not only happiness but heartache...
I think the true meaning of life is to experience all the emotions of life mentally, physically, and spiritually... So don't hold back your ability to experience life. Then you will find that what makes you happy and you will find it easier to get on that track.."
Those are some very wise words from a very dear friend of mine. You need but just a moment to realize that your friends do care. They may have their own lives outside their friendship with you, they may be busy, they may have a thousand things going on, but if you told them that you really needed someone to talk to, I'd bet you they'd listen.
Unfortunately, it's a sad fact of life I've had to come to terms with that yes, most people are selfish to some degree. And I have to admit, even I am selfish to a degree, but I always try to be there and listen, no matter how much someone beats a topic into the ground. I do this because I know how it feels not to be heard. I understand that when someone keeps talking about something, it's because they haven't figured out the answer yet.
There are plenty of reasons to continue with life, I have to keep reminding myself every day, I have to find little things every day to live my life for. I think of those few precious moments of joy I get every single day that I see my god daughter (4) and god son (1) who light up when I walk into their house and demand a few minutes of my time. I think of catching my favorite song on the radio. I think of turning the tv on only to find that my favorite show is on and I didn't even know. Or those times you find a cd with music you haven't heard in YEARS. Or just the way a cheeseburger tastes or how a milkshake tastes on a hot day.
I know that sounds a little hokey - but it works. It's a daily struggle, I know.
Sweetie, you may need to see a doctor. You could have something as simple as a chemical imbalance in your brain, and think how wonderful it would be if that's all it was and it could be fixed. If it's not that, it would be something manageable with the right therapy and medications. I'm not a fan of medication either, but I know sometimes it's necessary.
There's an herbal, all natural, mood stabilizer that my mom takes - yeah, that's where I got my issues from - called Happy Campers (funny name, no?). They work for her. They work for me too, only they give me headaches. I only take them when I have to, when I'm so low it scares even me.
I'm sorry for the long answer but I just felt the need to just talk and talk because I've been there. I still struggle. So I feel your pain. If you ever need someone to just talk to, to just listen to you, to maybe even try to help give you a "boost", I'd be more than happy to. My email is open. Just go to my profile and you'll see it. : )
""What I hope most of all is that you understand what I mean when I tell you that even though I do not know you, and even though I may never meet you, laugh with you, cry with you, or kiss you... I love you. With all of my heart, I love you."" (A quote)
2007-09-06 00:35:32 · answer #9 · answered by BadWolf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i doubt it.
2007-09-06 01:48:34 · answer #10 · answered by Phadria 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋