16 years... why am I always feeling down?

Question

well I've mostly been unhappy alot in my life, even as a little girl.
in gr 9 I had lots of friends but in grade 10 I was forced to move schools. It made me start feeling lonely and insecure. I finally got to move back to my old school, in gr 11 but then, none of my friends wanted to talk to me anymore. It made me really sad, and I cried alot. its been a year and now I'm starting grade 12. I still don't have any close friends and I got a bunch of scars on my body during the summer. so now I'm almost always angry or worried or sad. I feel like I'm fighting it everyday, and I just want to be a stronger person. I feel like I can't get away from the feeling and I can't even concentrate on stuff like homework. cuz I'M ALWAYS thinking about it.
someone help!!

Answer 1

Have you talked to your parents about it? I would suggest having them take you to a doctor. It could even be just your regular doctor, it wouldn't have to be a psychiatrist or anything. Let the doctor talk to you about it and see if he/she thinks you need some antidepressants. I only suggest this because you say you've been unhappy for a very long time. I know it's hard to feel good when you don't have good friends there for you, but believe me, once you get yourself feeling better and in the right state of mind, it will become easier to make and keep friends. It's unfortunate, but your friends don't know how to deal with your depression, so it's more comfortable for them to avoid you. Get yourself taken care of and the "friends" thing will work itself out. I gotta tell you, I've been out of high school for a few years and I only still talk to maybe 2 or 3 of my old high school friends. And I have plenty of new friends to make up for it! High school sucks, but it'll be over soon and things will get much better. Good luck!

Answer 2

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Being a teenager is a difficult time in life. We want to be accepted, we want friends, and your moving around made it hard for you. Other kids can be really cruel at this time in life. High school is full of "clicks" and stab in the back kind of people. Fortunately most people grow up and out of it once they leave high school. But that doesn't help you now, does it? It sounds like you are suffering from depression. What gives me the right to say that? Well, I have been there, felt that. "Angry, worried, sad.......fighting it every day", sounds familiar. The fact that it has gone on since you were young is familiar too! Talk to your parents if you think you can. There are mental health hotlines. Call your local hospital and ask for one. You won't have to give your name. If not talk to the school guidance counselor or school pschologist if you have one. Ask them to refer you to a Mental Health Clinic at a nearby hospital or a private practice psychologist or psychiatrist. Don't be embarrassed. They are there to help you and they will! Everything is confidential. You might even be able to find a support group with other people (maybe even other teenagers) who feel like you do. I didn't think I could ever talk in front of a group, but I gave it a try once and the support was really uplifting. Please, talk to someone you trust and get some mental health care. If you need to there are medications that can help depression. I really am sorry you are going through this. I have been there and I really do care about you. You are NOT alone even though you feel like you are!

Answer 3

sounds like you might be depressed some, cause you keep thinking about all the bad things!! you should talk to a parent or adult or school councilor which ever you feel comfortable with and right away so it doesn't get worse! I feel you should talk to someone!!! so please do, it will help you to feel better!! trust me !! You are young and things will change for you sooner or later!! You need to start thinking more postive and try blocking out the bad things that come to mind! Its a war sometime but you have to let the good side win and not keep thinking about the bad things in your life!! think about something good!! that helps!! if you go to church then go there more and try to meet some new friends there! you can meet alot of girls at church your age and its a better chance to find a christian friend that will be a good friend too! you could even talk to someone at church about how you feel like your teacher there if you have one!! so what about the scars you have, some people have only one leg or none, look around you before you start feeling bad about something so simple and you will see there are others in the world that have it worse!! You can think about that, how lucky you are to be healthy and have a home and someone that loves you like family cause some don't have a family at all, this is all postive things you should be thinking about, so feel your mind with all the postive things and not the negtive things you feel and you will start feeling better, trust me!! thank God for all you do have!!! I'm sure you can find alot to be thankful for!! we all can, no matter how bad we think we got it!! go look around at a Childrens Hospital and i bet you'll start thinking differently!! really!! there should be one in your area, maybe take them a small gift, like coloring books and crayons!! they would be soo happy, your old enough to volunteer or just go there to visit!!! or help animals that need help , you don't need any money for that!!! there is so much you can do and you will forget about all your small problems!! Good luck, i hope you will make that change in your life and get help or help someone else that needs you !!! its a sure cure!! god bless you!!

Answer 4

Teenage years can be pretty tough, you couldn't pay me to relive mine. However, what you're facing now is only temporary and things will change. I know in times like what you're going through it may seem hard to do, but it's important to focus on the positives while working on what you can do to get rid of the negatives. You can always turn to the friends you do have and ask God for strength as well. I'm not sure if this was any help or not but I wish you the best.

Answer 5

It sounds like you just need someone to listen to you. If you are feeling depressed call the National Hopeline. 1800-784-2433.
They have a group of certified people who can help you and possibly link you to help in your area. If you are afraid to call right away, you can read about them here: www.hopeline.com.

I've got to say that I sympathize with you on the feeling of being alone. High school is a hard time for a lot of people. I graduated in 2004 and I'll tell you, it was the best thing that could have happened to me. When reading your post it was like I was reliving my high school years. I was angry and depressed. But I got the help that I needed, and now I sit here 3 years later happier than can be. I thank the people at the Hopeline for setting me up with a support group in my area....it gave me strength and reassurment that everything was going to be okay.

Good luck in everything sweetie. I hope this information can help you in the same way that it helped me in my time of need.

Answer 6

You may consider a few sessions with a psycholgist. At some point the future is what you need to focus on....what is going to matter to you in 5, 10 or 20 years. Keep you mind focus on the future. Good Luck and St. John's Wort (a herb found in the grocery store) may be just what you need to get through this difficult time.

Answer 7

This time of your life is hard. I strongly suggest checking out www.stresscenter.com
They have a great great program for anxiety/depression/panic. I did this program myself and can't speak highly enough of it. There are some tests on there you can take to see if it might be something you're interested in. All the best to you!

Answer 8

best thing to do is to look at towards something to do after high school like college after 12th grade most of everyone you know will probably go off to a college or start working somewhere. just think about your future.