Okay it's not a big deal i'm just curious as in what is going on.
So my friend likes this guy, hes the drum major of our marching band, were in marching band, and she liked him, then didn't and now she believes she does again. Well my friend was debating whether to ask him to homecoming or not. She asked her friend who was good friends with him if it would be okay. But then the friend she asked said she was going to ask him to go as friends. She was like, oh. Even though her friend had helped her start talking to this guy and getting to know him. Who is wrong here??
2007-09-05 16:53:19 · 8 answers · asked by Shelby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is really good friends with me and this is not a huge deal to her shes just kind of in shock about the other friend. I AM NOT IN IT. cept i have a crush on the guy. but i would never do anything. seriously. and she knows and she thinks its funny. So dont go telling me to butt out. Im just trying to help her out
2007-09-05 17:00:11 · update #1
Well she was asking for trouble for talking to this guy's friend about it. She should have just had the balls to ask him directly - then it wouldn't have been a problem.
She still has the right to go ask him. His friend was only 'going' to ask him. Who knows if she was really going to or she was only thinking about it? Maybe she only thought of that during the conversation with your friend? If she still wants to go out with him, she has to ask him first, before the other 'friend' does.
I'm pretty sure there is a 'dates over mates' rule. Would this guy rather go with a girl as a 'friend' or with a girl who likes him and who he has a chance of getting naked with? I think the question answers itself.
The only thing 'wrong' is thinking too much about this. If she wants to go with him, just ask him. His 'friend' has to look out for herself. And she may just be doing that as we speak.
2007-09-05 17:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, and this is just my opinion... The friend of the guy should step back if her friend likes him... And if the friend likes him, and just doesn't want to have her going after him, they should discuss it...
But if your friend likes this guy, and the other girl doesn't want her going with him because they are friends and she wants to ask him, she has all rights to ask him if she wants to ask him to start a relationship...
Don't let someone hold you back from showing your feelings... Just try not to hurt others in the process and know when to step away when it will begin to hurt those around you.
2007-09-05 16:57:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the friend she asked ..is perhaps more interested in him than just a friend...
tell your friend, to make up her mind if she's liking him or not...if she is, tell her to just go for it and ask him to the dance...what's she got to lose?? doesn't mean the girl she asked if it would be okay to ask him out and she said no she was goin to ask him out...doesn't mean HE wants to go with Her*! Just means she's more interested in him than she's letting on...so your friend can just ask him herself ..or let him slip away. IF He doesn't know someone other than this other girl is interested in him....what's he to do?? he'll go with her cuz she asked*
GOODLUCK*
2007-09-05 17:01:25 · answer #3 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The friend who helped her.
2007-09-05 16:58:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First come first served.
2007-09-05 17:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by Big Bull 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the friend...not your friend...she knew your friend liked this guy and probably likes him too...girls are coniving like this
2007-09-05 16:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither you snooze you lose!
2007-09-05 16:59:02 · answer #7 · answered by munchahorousrex 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are wrong here. butt out.
2007-09-05 16:58:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋