Last week I agreed to go out w/ my best friend this Friday because she said one of our old friends from H.S. is visiting and wants us to hang out. Of course they all want to go to a club or a bar. But the problem is I really don't have any extra $$$ to spend this weekend, I just paid my rent, bills, and tuition. I can't tell my best friend that I'm broke because she will just force me to go out and will tell me not to worry about paying for anything. I am too embarrass to even mention about money problem, and I will never feel comfortable going anywhere without money. I have extra $, but it's only enough for me to get by until my next paycheck. .....I really feel guilty making up stories or excuses for not being able to go. I know she'll be upset. Any suggestions that I can say w/out upsetting her? Thanks!
2007-09-05 16:11:49 · 15 answers · asked by Angelina 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Just be truthful...tell her you don't have sufficient funds to spare and, although you'd really like to see this old friend from high school, you cannot afford to do so. That, and you would prefer to pay your own way (if she offers to pay for you).
2007-09-05 16:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by Princess Leia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she is your friend she should know you are living on a budget.She knows you are a student and with the cost of tuition, books ,rents etc. she should understand that you don't have any extra money to through around.Even an elastic band will only stretch so far.If your friend is offering to pay for you to go out gracefully accept her offer.You will get a chance to have fun with present and old friends....reliving old times and sharing new stories.We all experience the pain of a budget.I think your friend genuinely wants you to be there and share in the fun. She would not try to embarrass you.Accept her offer in the spirit it was offered.Go out and have fun.....even good students need a break from the books.
2007-09-06 01:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this position tons of times. Sucks, doesn't it. Sometimes I think it's okay to be a little bit humble. Tell your friend that you'd love it everyone could come over for movies and gossip and popcorn at your place because you just paid your tuition bill. If she insists on paying your way and going out, graciously accept. It doesn't sound like your friends are trying to put you down for being broke. Why would they? It sounds like you're being responsible and taking some great steps to ensure your future is full of not-being-broke and other good things. But it does sound like your friends like to hang out with you. And apparently it's worth the price of a couple of pina coladas to them. Feel happy about that fact, not all weird and angsty.
Good luck.
2007-09-09 15:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by July 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...in my opinion, the best thing you can do is be honest about what you have going on...and I don't mean the money issue. Your not the only one who feels uncomfortable explaining a financial predicament so don't feel bad. You can fill the time slot with a different activity that you have to do alone or maybe even something they can be involved in with you...that way you don't get caught up in a lie. And catching up with old friends, some drinks at home is allot cheaper.
2007-09-05 16:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by Suave Loc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The designated driver is a good idea-but really, I think I would suggest getting together at home instead-and if they insist on a club, let them buy! I often pay for friends because it's worth the pleasure of their company.
2007-09-05 18:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by barbara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest hanging out at home. You don't have to say why. Just say you'd love to have them over and hang out. Trust me, you can buy alot of beer for nowhere near what it costs at a club. Throw on some tunes from high school and have a card game and pizza.
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2016-10-04 01:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by threat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your friends you'd love to go but you just cant afford a night out at a club/bar.
Suggest you all just get together at someones home...everyone can BYOB, play cards/boardgames, and just hangout. (this is always so much more fun than sitting in a loud, smoke-filled bar full of drunks anyway!)
If your friends insist on going out...then they need to treat you!
2007-09-05 16:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by Dispatch Diva 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not just tell her about the cash flow and suggest instead a more intimate gathering at your place or hers. It would be much cheaper and instead of a noisy club or bar, you can actually have a conversation.
2007-09-05 16:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh go. tell her you will get her back next time. or pre-game (drink a bit before you go) and stash some brews in your purse and have a good time. BETTER yet.. dress up have a few drinks before you leave and get guys to buy you drinks. Dont let money deter you from going out. Flirt and dance your *** off.
2007-09-05 16:23:38 · answer #10 · answered by Molly F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋