Have you ever?...?
Just wanted to end a friendship/relationship with someone who at point you felt a bond to, in whateve way -and it's like you never wanted to tell them it's over, you just wanted to end everything in the secrecy-like block their phone; remove pics; not answer when they call-because you felt they did you wrong, and after you gave them a chance they messed up again and again?...And, it made you feel good to have that power, because you can walk away and not care, because it;s their* fault the friendship ended in the 1st place?..
* I have a friend who I've been friends with for 3 years now. And, when it comes to messages and phone calls-she's flaky. I *even ask when it's convenient for her to talk and call at the time she says , but no aswr-when I call, nor a reply. *She apologises and I know she cares for me, she's told me- I'm one of her BFF-but this has happened 3 different times now and I'm getting sick of it.
2007-09-05 15:45:41 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Think twice before doing this.
Why must you be immediately contacted when you call her? It is like you are holding someone hostage.
Some people need space. Some people think different. They are in there own universe doing there own thing. When they are ready, they will come looking for you. You can't be over them, constantly making sure they do what you want when you tell them. Let them be free to be who they are. Don't let their response time to you determine your self worth. Don't base your plans on them.
If you want to make plans and you know how this person is - follow through on your plans whether the person comes through or not. Ie - plan a shopping outing a dinner outing with a few friends. Then if the time to meet is at 5 and the person isn't there - just go anyway. Say if you are there - great - it would be fine to see you. If not - maybe another time. The world doesn't have to revolve around them. When they are with you - be happy to see them.
If you are going to break off a friend ship, have it be because the person is a bad person or is having an unhealthy influence on you - not because they are who they are.
If your friend tells bad lies about you or steals from you - that is one thing. If they are just a bit flaky about getting back to people - but are otherwise good people - overlook that.
2007-09-05 16:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HOLD THE PHONE!!! well in my eyes, I don't think that just because your friend doesn't pick up the phone when you call doesn't mean that she doesn't care. Real friends just show up at each others houses and take a nap in their bed when they are at work and hang out with their parents all day. That's what I do. Avoid the phone and just hang out
2007-09-05 23:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by FUnChicKen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're fussy. Broaden your friendship base and tell the friend about the new friends. She will pull her head in.
2007-09-05 23:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It already sounds as if she's doing the same thing to you.. Take a hint and make some new friends....
2007-09-06 00:27:43 · answer #4 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is your real name Anna (I hope not)? You sound just like my "best friend".
2007-09-05 23:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by Angelina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋