Should my mom have gotten mad over this!?

Question

I went ot Walmart and bought laxatives, and accidently left the shopping bag in the bathroom, my mom finds the unopened box, and starts giving me "the eyes" while shes asking me what their for, and telling me to throw them away, because their "dangerous."

Now, i WAS going to use them for intentions different than constipation, but im 20 and its none of her buisness. I only do it SUPER RARELY. I kept the box. should she butt out?!

Answer 1

No, she shouldn't "butt out".

It doesn't matter if you're 80, she's still your mom and she's still going to care about you. If you think you're so grown, move out and live on your own. Then, you can do whatever you want.

Answer 2

You are 20 years old & your a woman but you are still her baby. It's something you can't understand till you have kids. She's just worried about you & you can't honestly blame her for that. She obviously has a reason to be concerned. You admitted that they were not for constipation. She's just being a good mom. I'm not much older than you, I'm 21 yrs & I had a horrible battle with Anorexia as a teen, I almost died. If you are willing to do it rarely knowing it's not safe then at some point you will be willing to do more often. The feeling of losing weight is flattering & addictive. It starts out as rarely & then becomes a habit. Please believe me when I tell you that you are playing with fire. Your mother is right. It's along the same lines of if she would have found cocaine (if you can get past the taboo) in your purse & you said it's rarely that I use it because It helps me stay up late at night & work or study. Harmful is harmful & that's why we have loved ones there to care about our well being when we always don't. Wouldn't you do the same thing if it was your daughter?

Answer 3

You're going to do whatever it was you were going to do with them in the first place but no, she shouldn't butt out! She may have a clue as to what you are using them for and is looking out for your best interests, not her own. Bulimia is no joke and you're acting ever so self righteous by your attitude and actions. You're a 20 year old, still living at home and doing things that are dangerous to your health and life threatening to your body. If your mom can't say something or give a suggestion, who can? You are a BULIMIC...Get HELP!

Answer 4

You are 20, but you are not making healthy decisions!
Laxatives for anything but constipation is not safe and your mom knows that. The only reason why 18,18,19, and 20 year olds are considered adults is because kids who were drafted in the vietnam war complained that they had to die for a country in which they were not able to vote until age 21.So they lowered the adult age to 18 for everything but alcohol.
According to an article in last years time magazine, the human brain doesn't reach full maturity until about age 25-26 years of age.
Mom loves you and is just looking out for you. She is minding her business, cause you are her business as long as you are her daughter and moreover as long as you are living.in her house

Answer 5

Just because you are 20 doesn't mean that you shouldn't listen to your mom. You have and eating disorder if you were going to use them for reasons other than constipation , and she's just looking out for your health. She doesn't want you to get started with that. It's an addiction. It'll start off as every once in a while, but as time progresses, and you see results, you'll start using them more and more...Just like cigarettes, and drugs.

She was right to throw them out, and I personally commend her on that.

Answer 6

your 20? no weight problems or eating problems? how tall are you and what is your weight? what were your other intentions of buying them? are you constipated or irregular therefore needing them?....if all of these are fine then no she had no right in getting angry, and yes needs to mind her own business (though there are probably nicer ways of stating that) being that you are 2 years past the age of adulthood, however, if you were going to use them for purposes that are not safe..then it is her business, you are her child under her roof and if you are doing something unsafe than she has every right to protect you....also, if there are any young children in the house then leaving medication like that in easy reach is a huge no no...and for that reason alone...if I were your mother you would be hurting.

Answer 7

you probably wouldn't be so angry if you were using this product for what it was intended for. You're angry because you feel guilty because someone who loves you has questioned your intentions. Look at it this way, what would you do if you were the mother & this was your daughter using laxatives in the way that she's worried that you are. How would you have handled that?

Answer 8

It doesn't matter how old you are in your mothers eyes you are still her baby and she doesn't want you to do anything that is harmful and using laxatives for weight loss isn't good for your health. Since you are 20 though it is kind of your business but for your mothers sake try and be understanding that she just loves you and wants you to be healthy.

Answer 9

No she shouldn't butt out because what you are using them for can be potentially fatal if you become dependent on them. She loves you and only wants to protect you from making any fatal mistakes. There are other ways to deal with body image. If you need to, see a counselor to talk about any problems you are having with self esteem and body image.

Answer 10

She is reacting that way because she knows the dangers of using that product and she knows why you are using it. She knows that a dependancy can develop and that you are at risk if you are using the product and you are not constipated.

She doesn't need to butt out. You need to listen to her. Super rarely or not, you aren't thinking clearly and you need to listen to your mother.