exfriend problem?

Question

So, this girl, Taylor, and I used to be best friends. For 4 years.
Then at the beginning of the summer, she told me she didnt like this guy Brian anymore. So, i went out on a date with him. One date. Then she got all..pissy over it, and now we're not best friends anymore. We're not even friends.
Now that schools started, she won't let it go. She keeps talking crap about me, calling me a backstabber etc.
Well, i went to the school councler about it, then when we tried calling her down, so i can talk to her, she wouldnt come. Then, her mom called and said She doesnt want Taylor talking to me.

I want to find a way to tell taylor, to back off, and stop talking about me. She's being really immature about this, and its making me mad.
How can i tell her? If i call her, she hangs up.
She has blocked me over the internet.
And at school...she will probably just walk away

Answer 1

What year of school are you in? Some people are just like that I wouldn't try to talking to her. Do you really want to see her anyway. If people are listening to her then they aren't your friends. I say let it blow over school isn't going to last the rest of your life it will be over before you know it. And then you will have some witch co-worker you have to deal with. Good luck:)

Answer 2

Eventually she will have to come around. This is an extremely superficial issue and we’re talking about a solid friendship you once had - one that should stand to greater tests than boy problems.

What caught my attention was the part in your post where you say “she told me she didnt like this guy Brian anymore.”

Anymore? So she once had feelings for him. How big were they, and how sincere was she in telling you that she no longer cared for the guy? Some people mask the their true feelings for one of several reasons, and perhaps she didn’t want to admit that she liked him and assumed you wouldn’t move on it.

Now that you have it appears to have caught her off guard and she wasn’t prepared for it. You’ve made plenty of attempts to re-open the lines of communication but perhaps your angle is wrong: you want her to stop speaking negatively about you.

Instead, perhaps try to express a desire to work out your friendship problems and that way you want come off as aggressive. I can see why she would continue to ignore you if you’re going to keep coming at her with demands that she "backs off."

But if you don’t want to be friends with her anymore eventually she’s cool off if you let it go and longer confront her about it.

Answer 3

well, technically, i can understand why you might have done it, if she said she doesnt like brian anymore, technically he's fair game

but girls arent like that, they go back and forth on guys, even teenaged 'Judy' on 'The Jetsons' was always doing that -it's just how girls are, always have been

so - what to do?

do nothing - dont feed it, it happened.

eventually, you will see her somewhere and she may start something - then, be direct, firm and brief

1) 'I'm sorry this happened, I really thought you didnt want to see Brian anymore - clearly, you still had some interest - I wouldnt have seen him if i'd known'

2) 'If you dont want to be friends anymore, I understand. I'm sorry you feel that way. Good luck to you'

and then, that's that.

maybe later she may reconsider, maybe not. if she does, AND you feel like taking her back, then you take it from there

Answer 4

The best thing to do is to act like it doesn't bother you in the least. She wants to get to you. Sounds like her mother is as mature as she is. Anyway, I know it's a huge pain, but ignore her. If you see her, act like she is invisible. She may escalate a bit to get a reaction from you, but stay strong. Continue to talk to your school counselor and document anything she does because that is bullying, and you have a right to not have to put up with it. When you have enough documentation, the counselor or a principal can and should do something about it. Good Luck.

Answer 5

That is VERY immature, and so unfourtunate that your friendship had to end this way.
Go to the counselor again.
Tell her what she has been saying about you, and your feelings.
Just tell her you are not interested in being friends with her anymore, you just want closure.

If her mom is giving you guys a hard time, have her mom AND her come down so everyone can talk about it.

Answer 6

She's trying to get to you--in a very childish way. The best thing to do is ignore her. Then she won't gain satisfaction from saying trash about you...and if anyone listens to her, then they aren't really your friends. Their opinions shouldn't matter to you.

I understand, you want to tell her to back off. But you already made enough attempts to communicate with her again. You can't force her to talk to you.

Just stay strong...and continue to report her behavior to your school's counselor or principal.

Answer 7

If you were best friends you should have talked to her about his advances towards you and/or your intentions to date with him. This would have given her the opportunity to express her feelings. Maybe and most likely she just had a spat with him or whatever but still had strong feeling for him. I don't think there is much you can do at this time except to back off and let it all subside till a later date.

Answer 8

Let this be a lesson for you for the future. NEVER date a friend's ex-boyfriend. Guys are here today and gone tomorrow, but a good friend can be a friend for life.

You were very wrong this time.

Answer 9

Girls are different than guys at this... we slug it out and then after the fight we kicked their a$$ so everything is better. Chics kill each other's reputation, turn friend against friend, divorce families, and that is just to get even.

Answer 10

Just tell her to calm down its not her property say your sorry then take it back on a message

offer to help her class work only to throw it back at her